My Story...

[The Verve]

Hey guys! This is quite long but please bare with me! :)

One day last week, I was sitting at university reminscing(as you do lol) about the last year or so and mainly about my 3 best friends, one had left the city to go to another university, another was a girl i had fallen for, who was always so sweet and understanding about the situation. The third was possibly the nicest girl to have ever existed. A high estimation i know. But if you had met her you would agree.

...The point to all this?

Well...Ive grown apart from these people. I rarely see them as we are busy doing our own things. I learnt a lesson - sometimes there is nothing you can do. You have to accept that things sometimes dont go your way.
I accepted defeat, i would eventually lose touch with these people, it was inevitable.

The next day I decided that hey what the hell, Im 18years old, I refuse to accept defeat. Why should I? When Im 80, I can look back and say "I shouldve accepted defeat"... I refuse to give in on my friends, I will do anything to remain good friends with these people.
Then I thought, "I refuse to accept that my stutter will not be cured". In fact, right now, I truly believe I can achieve anything I want. I can achieve this a hell off a lot faster if I didnt stutter.

I really dont know where im going with this, so i do apologise, but basically we have stuttered our whole lives, only WE can cure our own stutter. And i refuse to accept that there isnt a cure, and nor should you.
So if possible, i would like to hear what has helped peoples stuttering, what things improve it, when is your stutter at its worst? What have you tried to improve it? How successful were you? What do you thnik causes stuttering?
I realise i may be naive in thnknig i can find a way to stop my stuttering and i know i may be arrogant and i apologise but i refuse to be held back by this.

I hope to hear your replies and apologise if i have wasted anyones time by reading this. I also hope you all thnik im sane :D

Thank you

[Standingtall]

Hi Verve, Welcome, good to meet you. I enjoyed your reading your post. Good to see you are very positive and with your attitude and good work ethic, you will go far. With your friends, you can put the effort, but if the effort is not returned, then you shouldn't waste your time. That is just my 2 cents, canadian worth, but your the expert in dealing with your friends. Good to have you and looking forward in what you have to share with us.

Gene

[Requiem]

Hi Verve, great to have you here! Like Power Of Three said, Don't apologise for telling everybody how you feel. The whole point of this forum is express your feelings and share ideas.

As for myself, I too have a stammer and have been having one for 10 years. For years I was scared of talking to people especially about seeking help because I always had this slight paranoiya (Spelling?) that if I spoke to people they would immediately laugh at me because they'd notice it. I suppose that's because of my bad experience in school but that's another too long story (NB: if anybody would like to know about my expaerince I wouldn't mind sharing it). Right now I go to speech therapy every week and so far it's going quite well.

That's all from me for now, so hope to hear from others.

[The Verve]

standingtall - thank you for the advice and for sharing your 2 cents (canadian) :cool:

Power of three - yeah i suppose lookng back, i was just rambling about my feelings, so cheers for listening everyone. And hey, its not my fault im insane, the drugs dont work...ok yes that was a poor version off ur joke but i aint such a lucky man....i'll stop now.

Requiem - cheers for the comments, what sorta stuff you doing at speech therapy?

Merci all

[Standingtall]

You welcome, the Verve, always keep that the 'glass is half full' and you will find your fluency. Other people found it and I am almost there.

[Requiem]

Requiem - cheers for the comments, what sorta stuff you doing at speech therapy?

Merci all

Basically we share our feelings about how we feel amogst others when we stammer and just try and intereact with each other. We also get asked on when are the points we get to when we feel we're about to get a block and then stutter. So once we discuss those we try to figue out some techniques, this is actually my 2nd session so once half-term is finished we'll be doing some breathing techniques.