Finally I am Happy!

[relaxednow]

I am 19yrs old and a student of engineering. When I say that Newtons Laws are applicable in all inertial frames then its true, No matter wherever you go the laws remain same. Although, A violation of reference frame can spoil the equation. Similarly If I can speak freely/fluently in one context then why not each time. This is because I have became highly sensitive about myself. I can remember days of my life when I was so much into sports, Material things meant 'something' to me! But After becoming conscious about my problem, I felt some amount guilt associated with it. I felt pathetic for myself and I used to think constantly about it

After going through many posts, I still dont understand why people cant realise that fluency among a PWS is all about a certain amount of positivity and positive energy among himself/herself.
I have read many posts on this forum, I dont know Why People post such negative topics like A bad conversation with a girl, experience on the phone.. bla bla bla.. I never read such topics because this portraits you as a weak person and people try to praise you or sympathize with you, this no doubtly makes you unconfident. These bad experiences will be no more if you change!

I think stuttering is a very personal problem and it cant be cured without applying our own head! If you are determined and mentally strong then I bet you can recover otherwise not. I have read articles from people who have already recovered. And they had something in common, i.e. they all recovered at their own level without seeking help of any speech therapist!

Recently, I took part in a skit and I played my role so well that even many girls approached me to appreciate my talent in acting! I never thought I could be an actor but after this realisation, I can be anything I want.

I always try not to classify experiences as good or bad. Suppose one day I am happy because I spoke fluently. The next day I screw up and I block. This doesn’t affect me anymore because I try to remain normal and unaware of the way I speak!

I just want to make a conclusion that, Since the past 2 years I was highly frustrated and depressed, I would blame god & my parents for making me an imperfect person. Then I started reading stuff in excess related to stuttering because therapists proved unhelpful. Later, I became so much tired of reading about stuttering because I wasnt getting ground results! Then, I really motivated myself and decided to live life with courage and strength. I dont mean to say that I speak 100% fluently but Everyday I am making significant progress and I hope everybody should realise that Its cure lies beneath ourself, Its just a realisation away. I dont substitute words and I speak whatever I want. Hey I dont know whether I stutter or not. I just speak it!!

[Standingtall]

Relaxednow, welcome and please to meet you. It is good to hear that you are at peace with you and your stutter at such an young age of 19.

Don't forget now, we all come here for our own personal reasons and yes I agree with you. Your stutter is very personal and for many of us, it is the most initimate part of us. It took me a long time to share that part of me with anyone. I have went to beaches and was not once shy, men around me where envious.:D

I'm here to learn, give support and offer advice when I can. I have met many people who stutter, but it is a good feeling that you are not alone. Well, those are my selfish reasons. Friends are made on here, I made a few and we stay in touch outside of the forum. I think we are all fighters, survivors, because we are being heard on here and that we are mental tough. In a way we are doing something about our stutter, even if it is sharing or venting our frustrations.

Good luck with you acting, I use to do a lot of playing acting as a child, who didn't, and as I recall now, I didn't worry about my stutter, just having fun. Somedays it is tough growing up.

Once again, welcome and see you out in the forum.

Peace,

Gene

[bignick]

Welcome,

Its good that as Gene says you are so at peace with your stutter.
People on here handle their speech differently and there is no right or wrong way to go about ways of dealing with their daily problems they encounter. some people are closet stutterers, some are very open about their speech, some are very unhappy and very shy, but its the individuals choice to be like this. I am very open and dont really care about who knows I stutter, I have more important things to worry about.

The good thing about this forum is that problems can be shared with people who have been through or are going through the same experiences. If we can help one person become positive about themselves and make them see what they are really about then the forum has succeeded.

Nick

[kghayesh]

Well relaxednow, I study Engineering like u. I am glad you are feeling so positive. For me, most of the time I feel so negative about stuttering especially these days. It is just that I always feel lagging and lacking something that all other people have and take for granted.

I feel that just being here in this forum and talking about such topics would look so pathetic to normal people. Just look how speech seems a so easy thing for all people while for us it is the central problem of our lives, and you are saying think positive, huh ?!!

Even if i tried to feel positive, I can't evade it. Stuttering is there and it is all over me. I can't hide it, I can't hide from it, I can't make a camouflage. Whatever I do, it is still there.

Sorry for this pessimstic post, but I just wanted to share what's inside me. And great that you feel positive.

[Host of Chaos]

hi relaxenow. im new here too but it like your better with your stutter than iam.i wish that i could accpet it mlike a lot oif you say you do. how do i do it?

[relaxednow]

thanks for ur replies!
i'll post a response soon

[3FingerBrown]

After going through many posts, I still dont understand why people cant realise that fluency among a PWS is all about a certain amount of positivity and positive energy among himself/herself.
I have read many posts on this forum, I dont know Why People post such negative topics like A bad conversation with a girl, experience on the phone.. bla bla bla.. I never read such topics because this portraits you as a weak person and people try to praise you or sympathize with you, this no doubtly makes you unconfident. These bad experiences will be no more if you change!

I think stuttering is a very personal problem and it cant be cured without applying our own head! If you are determined and mentally strong then I bet you can recover otherwise not.

Welcome relaxednow,
I am very happy for you that you took the reins and was able to overcome your depression. I believe that your mind, body and spirit are all intermingled and that if any one of the three is hurt or sick or damaged it will affect the other 2.
No one here stutters simply because they have a negative outlook on life (or themselves) and some people will never be able to achieve fluency. At the same time, a negative outlook, low self esteem and a lack of confidence will only prevent us from achieving what we want.
It is very impressive that you were able to look so deep inside yourself at such a young age and you should be proud of the progress you have made.

As noted above, we all got here our own way and we all have different needs for different reasons.
Many feelings expressed here have never been expressed before and for some like myself have finally been realized.
For many, this expression is a way to get these feelings out. Feelings that have been denied and kept under wraps for so long that they surface if we want them to or not. Personally, In order to let these feelings go, I need to let them out and that’s not something I want to burden my family with. They’ve been worried enough.
We all suffer from the same affliction and I agree with you that pity won’t help anybody. The key is understanding. When others can understand and appreciate what you feel and suffer through…
When you can see that there is a road that others have taken and have managed to get where you want to go…



Great to have you aboard, Ari

[relaxednow]

Hi ppl!

I have been through a lot of situations since the past 2 years and infact I have spent hours on the net and while reading stuff about stuttering. They led to no conclusion. Expressing anger and gaining sympathey isnt the right solution. Although, some people say that this can help you calm down. BUt I say, Whats the need?

I still belive in my experiences which simply teach me to be a stronger person. I may disagree with the previous posts. No matter even if people think of me as a rude person. But Hey dude its all coming from this change!

I have changed a lot and I am still trying to change for my own good. Stuttering isnt just about fluent speech. Its also affects your personality and behaviour in numerous ways!

well, I dont know if I can figure out the smallest changes in myself (sounds kinda kiddy), But yes, I think developing the right attitude, self-importance and a little bit rudeness really helps (coz, PWS are just pleasing others)!! And Plz stick to something that you adopt. Don't leave it in middle even if you get a little frustrated or tired.

Previously, My whole day was spent in worries. I constantly used to think about my problem. And this simply resulted in lower grades at college. Now, I bet its always gonna be different for me!

I dont want to repeat everything thats good or bad! Neither I expect some popularity in this mailing list But I am just describing the outcome of my experiences. I am not here to tell you some good story, I dont want to remain online and search each time for 'stutering remedy' on google or on some mailing list! I think there are many important things which have to be done. Once you rediscover this other side of the life, I am sure blocks will become irrelevant.

My recent strategy is to stay away from any discussion about stuttering (especially when I am talking to myself about it). I wont hide it. Rather, I will just talk least about it in my whole life! Again I want to say that I am not afraid or shy about it!
As a result, Its kinda happening to me. stuttering exists but not as severe as it used to be! I request people to simply sit down and frame some best plans/strategy for themselves and then execute it Rather going for things one after another.

Dont be surprised to see me ever offline from this list :)). Fulfill all your other interests, Movies, Partying, reading, Socialize or whatever u find interesting coz this really isnt a big deal!

cheers!

Anupam

[Jamester]

Hey relaxednow!

I guess your "name" says it all. I am very happy for you and your positive attitude. I will repeat what everyone else has said, we are all on our own journey and at different crossroads. I hope you understand this and not ignore too many posts. I believe we can all learn from each other's ups, downs, and in betweens. I would hate for you to miss something from which you could benefit.

Just my two cents. Keep posting.

Jamie