What do u feel when people mention your stutter??

[kghayesh]

When anybody talks about your stuttering (either infront of you or when you are not present) what do you feel ?? Do you feel upset or ashamed or relieved or what?

Yesterday I heard by accident one of my dad's friends talking to other people about me. He was talking to them about how genius i was and about all my achievements despite having such a thing like stuttering. At first i felt a bit depressed because stuttering became something that I was identified by (like saying "oh you don't know Khaled who stutters ?" ) and it was because I was introduced to other people i don't know through stuttering.

But, I must admit I felt relieved that they already knew it so that I don't have to try and pretend to be fluent when talking to them. But overall I didn't feel good about it.

What about you guys ??

[Standingtall]

In my youth, I would have felt ashamed. Today, my interest would be peaked. I enjoy speading the gospal about stuttering and would not be shy to share my feelings about it. I could think of worse labels to have.

[3FingerBrown]

I'm with standingtall on this...
When I was young, people would ask if they could ask me something. I always knew what they wanted to ask, take a guess...
Adults aren't so daring and as I never discussed my stutter with anyone, noone ever discussed it with me.
Only in the last few weeks have I been willing to talk about it with my family and mention it to my coworkers. Everybody is very supportive and I feel like the big white elephant has finally left the room.

I never caught wind of people talking about my stutter behind my back but I always assumed it happened.
I think I'd be a little upset but it depends on my mood that day.
Besides, according to your comments obviously you have your father's respect. That can't be a bad thing.
I got into a huge fight with my parents a few weeks ago when I accused them of losing respect for me and saying that I failed to meet their expectations. Apparently, the only person not willing to admit I had a problem was me.

You should feel good about what he said.

I have known for some time that people identify me as the stutterer. I was in Houston a few months ago to see some Mets games and I met Omar Minaya. I had met him once before and couldn't ask him any of the things I had rehed. He remembered me, no doubt because of the stutter.

What would have upset me would be if he qualified his remarks... like you're smart for a stutterer. Kinda like when baseball announcers say "he's fast for a catcher". Thankfully thats not the case and you should be proud of yourself.
I can and do imagine overhearing much worse.

[Requiem]

Before a few years back I felt so ashamed about my stammer because at the time I thought to myself that I was somebody unnormal and I was made fun of regardless whether I told people about it or not. But now I dont feel too crappy about it because I found out a lot about it and about myself also so when I do let people know I stammer, sometimes I do get abit embarrased about it but at the same time I feel that I can talk to people a lot better and relaxed because they understand and I'm allowed to take my time without having any pressure. So it's all good.

[Jeff99]

When anybody talks about your stuttering (either infront of you or when you are not present) what do you feel ?? Do you feel upset or ashamed or relieved or what?

Yesterday I heard by accident one of my dad's friends talking to other people about me. He was talking to them about how genius i was and about all my achievements despite having such a thing like stuttering. At first i felt a bit depressed because stuttering became something that I was identified by (like saying "oh you don't know Khaled who stutters ?" ) and it was because I was introduced to other people i don't know through stuttering.

But, I must admit I felt relieved that they already knew it so that I don't have to try and pretend to be fluent when talking to them. But overall I didn't feel good about it.

What about you guys ??

i use to think like that people only saw me as a stutterer firstly but then i realise someone. people don't c u just as a stutterer ask them they will say he is a great person etc etc an the last thing they think is an he has a stutter. Friends and family love u for who u r for the whole package they don't care if u have one leg or a stutter. we tend to judge people way to early why do we also think they talk think negatively about us. Postive minds make postive people.

[jak]

I dont mind when people ask me ,most people just dont understand it

[Host of Chaos]

i go red and embaresed and dont ewant to talk aboit it cos i dont want pople to know what itis inside me that makes me so upste and angryabout simple thing like talkiing.

[bignick]

I am happy to tell anyone who asks me about my stutter. It shows they have shown an interest in me as a person.
It happened years ago and this warehouse manager was sitting by me and all of a sudden he came out with how long have you stuttered.

I am too old in the tooth to care what non important people think about me and I am so open that anyone who I class as a friend can ask me anything and I will answer.

[3FingerBrown]

I am happy to tell anyone who asks me about my stutter.

Do people actually ask you about it? I need to let people feel comfortable enough that they can ask. You'd never know it from my posts but usually, my least favorite topic of discussion is me.

I don't like to ask personal questions either, what if someone reciprocates?
This is a course I am working to reverse.

Either way, I'm not waiting to be asked any longer.

[bignick]

Do people actually ask you about it? I need to let people feel comfortable enough that they can ask. You'd never know it from my posts but usually, my least favorite topic of discussion is me.

I don't like to ask personal questions either, what if someone reciprocates?
This is a course I am working to reverse.

Either way, I'm not waiting to be asked any longer.

People have asked me about it, new people in work and we have gone out as a group and somehow the subject has come up. Also I am very happy to discuss my speech with anyone and everyone, its part of me and I am too old to change my ways. People normally feel comfortable with me quite quickly, dont know why but I suppose what you see is what you get.
I am not afraid of asking questions because the worst thing they can say is No, none of your business or go f*** yourself you pervert. Unless they have a knife or gun or hand grenade and then I run very fast... :eek:

Nick

[1 Less]

I hate when someone brings it up to me. I think it's because as a child my uncle will make fun of me because of it and i always used to cry about it. So now when someone brings it up it kind of angers me. Even if its saying just try to relax.

[Standingtall]

I hate when someone brings it up to me. I think it's because as a child my uncle will make fun of me because of it and i always used to cry about it. So now when someone brings it up it kind of angers me. Even if its saying just try to relax.
When I was young, I was having a block and one of my uncles turned his back on me and walked away. I enjoy preaching the gospal to who ever wants to listen.

[1 Less]

When I was young, I was having a block and one of my uncles turned his back on me and walked away.

Man that's harsh. My dad always screams at me when i start stuttering in the middle of an argument. But now that i think about it, the only time it doesn't actually bother me when someone brings it up is when my sister says "t-t-t-today junior." it's from Billy Madison.

[Standingtall]

Man that's harsh. My dad always screams at me when i start stuttering in the middle of an argument. But now that i think about it, the only time it doesn't actually bother me when someone brings it up is when my sister says "t-t-t-today junior." it's from Billy Madison.
I did yell the answer out to him when I finally got the words out. I don't tend to stutter when I'm extremely angry, rather upset after with myself for losing control.

[Jamester]

Jeff99,

I so love what you had to say re: how we are viewed by others. This summer a friend of mine said she doesn't even notice my stutter, but she would be shocked if she heard me fluent.

Shame is still a part of me, but mostly with strangers. I sometimes wonder if my stutter was less severe if I would still feel this deep shame.

Oh well, life goes on and so do emotions.

Jamie