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3FingerBrown
11-17-2006, 05:15 PM
Acknowledging my stutter and its emotional toll has made it possible for me to confront it. This in and of itself helped my fluency immensely.
I know that this was a big win requiring a lot of soul searching, I know that the restoration of hope and faith is no small accomplishment. At the same time, I feel like a recovering alcoholic… I’m only 2 months into this process; I haven’t earned any medals yet. I may have won a battle but there are many more in this war. I still have a loooong road ahead and I will slip, of this there is no doubt.
I will slip, but I will get up.
My newly found fluency seems like it wasn’t worked for or earned, it still evades me in more difficult situations and I still don’t feel like I have any control over it.

I just received my speecheasy on Monday and though it doesn’t prevent me from stuttering it works amazingly well. This has just made people even happier for me. Today I’m facing blocks on every ‘P’, but I’ve been able to pause, take a deep breath and slow down to get them out. At least once to 60 syllables per minute, nothing more than a slur. Within my comfort zones I’m managing quite well.

My mannerisms have changed, people can see how well I am doing. People have been saying that I’m a completely different person and that my turnaround has been nothing short of miraculous. Honestly, I agree… I never imagined any of this to be possible. Happiness was for other people, my disconnect from society reached truly abysmal lows. Still, the higher you climb the higher the potential fall and fear rears its ugly head. All the attention has been tough to deal with and quite discomforting.
I recognize the trappings that have ensnared me in the past.
It seems ridiculous to me, like buying a new car and being too afraid to drive it for fear of crashing.
Once again I find myself trying to bridge the divide between what I know and what I feel.
I am doing this for me, not to impress others. Not to alleviate my fears of what other people think about me. Most of my major accomplishments in life were inspired by a fear of being seen as a failure.
Thank you for noticing my accomplishments. However, though I can prepare myself for the inevitable fall, I can’t prepare you. That I’m more fluent now is in no way indicative of what will happen tomorrow, next week or next year.
History proves time and time again, things are never as good or as bad as they currently seem.
I am doing this for myself. I’ve always placed the concerns, wants and needs of others before mine. I can’t possibly repeat this enough, this is for me. This is for me. This is for me. This is for me. This has to be for me. This can only be for me.
At the same time, I can’t do this alone. I need support for days like this. I recognize that and have sought it out.
Regardless of my fears, the reality is that I have always been the toughest judge on myself, I have always been the hardest on me.
Sorry for the long post,
Ari

soulman386
11-17-2006, 07:11 PM
It would have been better to use the speecheasy for several months before endorsing it. I would hate to see more people lose $5000 because they heard stories of initial success. Everyone has initial success with speecheasy.

3FingerBrown
11-17-2006, 07:37 PM
It would have been better to use the speecheasy for several months before endorsing it. I would hate to see more people lose $5000 because they heard stories of initial success. Everyone has initial success with speecheasy.

Just to be clear, I haven't endorsed the speecheasy or even decided to keep it yet. It does not prevent me from stuttering but it does help right now.
Most of my success came before the speecheasy anyway.

This discussion is peripheral to the point of this post. Especially when you consider the money involved and the implications, when and if I sanction speecheasy it will include more discussion then a passing reference towards the end of an emotional post during a bad day.

happy7117
11-17-2006, 08:12 PM
Great to hear with your initial success Ari on that Speecheasy! But beware that over times the effects might start to wear off because one gets so used to hearing the signal that the brain adapts to it. But still, this Speecheasy proves that easier speech can happen! Stuttering may be needed to be dealt with by using a device like this to be less severe, but it CAN be dealt with!!

Continue to savor these positive fluency effects the Speecheasy gives you now, but just keep in mind that unfortunately over time the effect wears off...

You need that medal that the Lion gets in "Wizard Of Oz"! His medal says "Courage", which is what it sounds like you have a lot of when dealing with confronting your fears with stuttering head on!!

3FingerBrown
11-17-2006, 08:26 PM
Thank you Elliot!
Everyone else,
I'm sorry that I even mentioned the speecheasy.
The fluency has been around for 2 months, speecheasy 4 days.

IF YOU CONSIDER MY ABOVE POST ENDORT FOR ANYTHING THEN I HAVE A BRIDGE TO SELL.

email me right away, do not hesitate!! getrippedoff@narrowfocus.com
thank you

happy7117
11-17-2006, 08:44 PM
Thank you Elliot!
Everyone else,
I'm sorry that I even mentioned the speecheasy.
The fluency has been around for 2 months, speecheasy 4 days.

IF YOU CONSIDER MY ABOVE POST ENDORT FOR ANYTHING THEN I HAVE A BRIDGE TO SELL.

email me right away, do not hesitate!! getrippedoff@narrowfocus.com
thank you

I just sent you an email with the same text that I will post here, but I just wanted to make sure everyone gets to read any post that gets sent to fellow forum posters...here it is:::

No harm in mentioning the SE..it's always good to say something then keep it bottled up wheather how negative or positive it may sound! I just think the Speecheasy has had many dissatisfied and angered users...and for $5,000 and the fact the positive effects do not last, I don't blame anyone for being angry!!

You had fluency around 2 months before the Speecheasy??!! Fantastic!! I guess the SE was sort of the frosting on the cake!! Anyone with the SE should keep their guard up!!

3FingerBrown
11-17-2006, 11:19 PM
No harm in mentioning the SE..it's always good to say something then keep it bottled up wheather how negative or positive it may sound!

You have every right to say whatever you want but that still doesn't make it appropriate for this thread. Based on your 2 responses it seems the only word you read was speecheasy.
My fluency is not 100%, not even close but its still leaps and bounds better than it ever has been. The mention of speacheasy was almost an afterthought and yet it was the only word you saw.
There are plenty of threads here that discuss / argue / bash speecheasy here and I thank you for starting it again here.
I tried the hopeless approach and now I'm trying something else. My experiences are mine just as yours are yours.
This is ridiculous.
Give me a break.


You had fluency around 2 months before the Speecheasy??!!
BEFORE YOU RESPOND TO SOMEONE'S POST, PLEASE READ IT FIRST.

happy7117
11-17-2006, 11:45 PM
You have every right to say whatever you want but that still doesn't make it appropriate for this thread. Based on your 2 responses it seems the only word you read was speecheasy.
My fluency is not 100%, not even close but its still leaps and bounds better than it ever has been. The mention of speacheasy was almost an afterthought and yet it was the only word you saw.
There are plenty of threads here that discuss / argue / bash speecheasy here and I thank you for starting it again here.
I tried the hopeless approach and now I'm trying something else. My experiences are mine just as yours are yours.
This is ridiculous.
Give me a break.


BEFORE YOU RESPOND TO SOMEONE'S POST, PLEASE READ IT FIRST.

BEFORE YOU RESPOND TO SOMEONE'S POST, PLEASE READ IT FIRST.


I enjoyed reading it, and that's why I responded. Was your caps lock stuck or something?!

The mention of speacheasy was almost an afterthought and yet it was the only word you saw.

It was the only part of your post I had a question on....

Jamester
11-17-2006, 11:53 PM
Now Boys!

Take it easy on each other. I always find that these posts can be misinterpreted very easily. There is nothning like speaking to each other as opposed to writing to each other for communication is more than words. It is inflection, facial expressions, etc. That is the reason I so wish to speak to more people over the phone, to get a better senase of where they are coming from.

No, I don't love the phone, but I have always prefered talking instead of writing to communicate, especially when things are misinterpreted or emotionally charged.

just my trwo cents.

Fondly,

Jamie

happy7117
11-18-2006, 12:04 AM
Now Boys!

Take it easy on each other. I always find that these posts can be misinterpreted very easily. There is nothning like speaking to each other as opposed to writing to each other for communication is more than words. It is inflection, facial expressions, etc. That is the reason I so wish to speak to more people over the phone, to get a better senase of where they are coming from.

No, I don't love the phone, but I have always prefered talking instead of writing to communicate, especially when things are misinterpreted or emotionally charged.

just my trwo cents.

Fondly,

Jamie

You might be right Jamester!! I think some of us including me misunderstood the intial post from 3Finger Brown, and that's when things got a little tense...

Indeed the phone is great to use to explain what we mean in our posts..but the phone is still a nasty scenario for me...that's why I prefer the typing way..!! Have any questions, just PM me...

3FingerBrown
11-18-2006, 02:58 AM
Tension out and done with, I've spent too much of my life holding crap in because I was afraid of exploding and killing someone.
I am sorry for yelling, it only detracted from what I was trying to say.

Getting back to what put me in today's wonderful mood, I ate dinner with my parents and 2 of my brothers tonight and explained to them how the fluency will not last and that they need to temper their expectations. I appreciate their support but they need to understand that there is a long road ahead. Regardless of what happens with my stutter, I need to seperate my spirit from my stutter and I have a plan.
I'm both determined and terrified and I express my fear as anger.
Don't be TOO happy but don't worry either.

bignick
11-18-2006, 12:43 PM
Ari,

I am very happy for you that you are becoming more fluent due to your new techniques and the speakeasy.
Its good that you have realised what you can achieve by trying to make your speech better.
We are all here on this forum to share our experiences and each one has their own way of dealing with their speech, be it speakeasy, hypnotherapy, anger, humour or sheer not caring about how people react.
I only want to say to you that you should keep on doing what you are if its helping and dont let anyone get you down over what methods you use.

Keep it up mate.

Nick