Stuttering and dating

[Sup2u]

How do you guys date? Are you scared to ask the person? If you're not are you scared of the date? How do you react with members of the opposite period?

[Professor]

I got a problem with dating i dont kno i havent had a gf for like a year now just cuz im skared to talk to a girl and get embarrassed i have a few crushes but they dont kno me and im REALLY REALLY scared of talking to them because of the stuttering. Basically everything im scared of revolves just because i stutter.

[Sup2u]

I feel ya prof. You should approach 1 of these girls. Who knows! lol

[Professor]

yeah man apon my stuttering im not an ugly guy lol just the stuttering makes me shy and like not open to things i want to say which i might stutter on but hopefully ill find a girl that understands that and will like me for me.

[llw03c]

well in my old age, i haven't had a gf period, but thats more environmental than anything. i never had problems asking girls out. actually i've only asked a couple but those were the ones i liked. i even asked this girl out where she worked in front of my friend and her co-workers. a lot of fun. always good to talk about afterwards. since i never stutter around people i just meet, i never stutter around dream girl so i never thought about it. i'm always to concerned about what i'm saying than HOW i'm saying it. i wish i could translate this to my real life. :rolleyes:

[Professor]

lol cool stuff man

[Asif]

hehe: girlfriend stuff :)
I am 52 years old. I have had a LOT of experience with women.
So here is the wisdom I have picked up along the way...
99% of women you approach are not available anyway.
When they turn you down, it is usually nothing personal.
You must realise that you are GOING to be rejected almost all of the time.
When it happens, smile and let it go.
But never be afraid to make your interest known.
You don't need a special "line" that is good for getting girls.
Just be yourself. If a woman is interested, she will let you know.
But remember, she may be just as scared of rejection as you are :)
The biggest thing is patience.
Most men cl to be more successful than they actually are.
Just understand there is ALWAYS someone for everyone, and your special woman is out there somewhere. How bad it would be if she turned up when you were with someone else :)
Young men are driven by and the need for it.
It makes them crazy!
And no man, anywhere, ever had an easy time of it.
You must learn to BE who you are. And realise that there really is no need for snappy punchlines and endless talking.
Face it: do you really want to talk endlessly, or would you rather be hugging and kissing and being in that very pleasant state of togetherness?
Hehe: I am so old now that I have very little interest in other women.
I have a wonderful wife who loves me. Won through patience.
But I remember very, very well, how deliciously wonderful (and difficult) it all was.
Asif.

[Sup2u]

woa................

[Bobby]

never use pickup lines.

its so simple. just go up to the girl ,and say

"hi, my name is...." extend your hand to shake hers(this does sound wierd, but if you make pysical contant with the girl, then she will feel comfortable around you) ask some questions about her, and then when the convo starts to dry up go " i have to go, can i get your number?"

if she declines, who cares ? shes only a human, no one saw u get rejected, just walk off, and think nothing of it.

if you get the number, then leave and ring her no less then 3 days later, cause if u ring soon, she will think your desperate.

have fun

[Sup2u]

Interesting

[Ron]

i agree with bobby. "Pick-up" lines dont work. when i met my girlfriend i went up and introduced myself. after we were going out for awhile we were talking about how we met and what we thought of each other when we first saw each other and yada yada yada...(we met through my friend and we [as in me and kim which is my girlfriend] talked on the phone for 3-4 days before we finally met.) and she said that she felt more comfortable that i went up to her and shook her hand...then we hugged (haha score! haha jk :rolleyes:) now we've been together for almost 6 months and at times i get really EXTREMELY frusturated with my stutter and i always think shes going to get annoyed by it and everything. i talked to her about it one day and she said that if she cared about my stutter that much then she wouldnt be with me and she loves me for who i am and she wouldnt change athing. it just makes me feel good that she supports me and never puts me down. my 2 cents in this whole thing is that if a someone wont go out with you because of your stutter...then whats the point of wanting to be with them? you want someone like my girlfriend that will like/love you for who you are, and wants to be with you.

[Sup2u]

That's an awesome story. I bet ur really comfortable with ur gf because she doesn't care if you stutter or not. I gotta find a girl like that

[Professor]

word^!!!!!

[Jeff99]

Looking dating is a hit and miss most of the yim u will get shut down not because of your speech but because they are taken or just not interested. don't take it to heart it happens to everyone not just stutters.it works on a scale of about 4 out of 10 are single and 1 of them might say yes all we can do as blokes to ask fight the fear and do it anyway. i just takes one to say yes and well you know what happens after that.