ratsalad
03-17-2007, 07:29 PM
Hi, my name is Jeremy and I'm 27 years-old. I found you guys early this morning and decided to give this a try. I've never had any communications with anyone else who stutters before, and I'm hoping to get a new perspective from meeting people here. I've spent too long feeling like I was the only one, I really do hope to get something positive from this.
I've been stuttering since I was about 8 years-old, and have been very self-conscious about it throughout my life. I regret to say that you won't hear a success story from me, I have never really been able to cope with it. It would be more than fair to say that for the last 12 years I have lived at a computer screen. I would say that probably 90% of my social experience in my life has been on computers.
The fact is, I have let my problem hold me back for most of my life in a very major way. I'm now realizing that I can't let stuttering rule every aspect of my life forever.. I'm not always going to have someone to rely on to take care of me. I consider joining this forum my first step to learning to cope with who I am.
I also realize that I have always had enablers in my life, that have enabled me to lead the life I have. Growing up I had parents and grandparents that pretty much did everything for me that required any kind of verbal exchanges in situations I should have been dealing with myself. I quit school a few months before I turned 16, and my mother applied to get me Social Security benefits for my speech problem, which was granted with no contest. And then for quite a few years following that I chose to lead a very isolated life, locked in my room in front of my computer, and to a large extend it's still that way to this very day.
I did meet a woman online, and we went on to get married, and bought a house. My wife has also been an enabler. She goes out and works every day, takes care of the bills, handles all the communicating in life.. while I continue to lead the same life I've always lived; apart from my many computer friends, my wife is the only person I really socialize with in the real world on a regular basis.
As I was saying earlier, the reason I'm here now is to get to know some of you, and I hope knowing others with the same problem(s), and getting to know about how you all have coped will encourages me to eventually change my life for the better. I know I can't be a prisoner in life, and a dependent forever. It's something I don't want to face, I'd much rather live my life in my own little bubble.. but I know I simply can't do that. As hard as it may be, I'm ready to do something about it little by little.
Thanks in advance for understanding
I've been stuttering since I was about 8 years-old, and have been very self-conscious about it throughout my life. I regret to say that you won't hear a success story from me, I have never really been able to cope with it. It would be more than fair to say that for the last 12 years I have lived at a computer screen. I would say that probably 90% of my social experience in my life has been on computers.
The fact is, I have let my problem hold me back for most of my life in a very major way. I'm now realizing that I can't let stuttering rule every aspect of my life forever.. I'm not always going to have someone to rely on to take care of me. I consider joining this forum my first step to learning to cope with who I am.
I also realize that I have always had enablers in my life, that have enabled me to lead the life I have. Growing up I had parents and grandparents that pretty much did everything for me that required any kind of verbal exchanges in situations I should have been dealing with myself. I quit school a few months before I turned 16, and my mother applied to get me Social Security benefits for my speech problem, which was granted with no contest. And then for quite a few years following that I chose to lead a very isolated life, locked in my room in front of my computer, and to a large extend it's still that way to this very day.
I did meet a woman online, and we went on to get married, and bought a house. My wife has also been an enabler. She goes out and works every day, takes care of the bills, handles all the communicating in life.. while I continue to lead the same life I've always lived; apart from my many computer friends, my wife is the only person I really socialize with in the real world on a regular basis.
As I was saying earlier, the reason I'm here now is to get to know some of you, and I hope knowing others with the same problem(s), and getting to know about how you all have coped will encourages me to eventually change my life for the better. I know I can't be a prisoner in life, and a dependent forever. It's something I don't want to face, I'd much rather live my life in my own little bubble.. but I know I simply can't do that. As hard as it may be, I'm ready to do something about it little by little.
Thanks in advance for understanding