That pesky inner voice...

[3FingerBrown]

Why do I allow my inner voice to say things to me that I know are not true?
Why do I allow my inner voice to say things about me that are demeaning, insulting, self limiting and hurtful?
That inner voice that insists…
Can’t say this or that, can’t do anything, CAN’T CAN’T CAN’T!!!!
The only thing you can or will do is STUTTER!!!
I’ll be horrifically rejected by the cute red head sitting across from me and I’ll never recover!
I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough and doggone it people don’t like me! (take that Stuart Smalley)
Why do I allow this voice to express helplessness and hopelessness?

I’d never believe you if you said these things to me.
I’m not a violent man but if you constantly berated and insulted me I do myself I’d simply destroy you. Say hello to my two fists, aptly named Tooth and Fang of course. ;-)

No longer!
I will not allow myself to be my own worst enemy. I simply won’t tolerate it!!
I will learn to control this voice.
This pesky little inner voice had best be careful, there’s a new sheriff in town and he doesn’t take any crap from anyone!

Hope everyone is doing well today,
Ari

[Standingtall]

Oh Ari, I recommend you get back on that transporter pad. Remember that Star Trek esposide, the original series, The Enemy Within. There was a transporter malfunction and Kirk was split into two personality, just like in Bill and Ted's bogus journey, the evil and good us's. Kirk gave a very tearful speech how they need each other and they can't live without the other and they were holding each other as they got back on the pad................ssssssssssoooooooooo, looking forward to the upcoming baseball season. :D ;)

[Jamester]

Hy Ari,

If the voices in my head could talk to the voices in your head, maybe they would leave us alone!

I vaguely remember I may have said this same thing to you when I first joined the forum.

I am definately going to inroduce my voice to yours in Atlanta. Maybe it will be a match made in heaven and they will disappear together. Would't that be great?

Jamie

[happy7117]

Hy Ari,

If the voices in my head could talk to the voices in your head, maybe they would leave us alone!

I vaguely remember I may have said this same thing to you when I first joined the forum.

I am definately going to inroduce my voice to yours in Atlanta. Maybe it will be a match made in heaven and they will disappear together. Would't that be great?

Jamie

Jamie, have you called Ari!! I don't think you have to wait for Atlanta to introduce your voice to Ari, give him a ring.!!!

BTW, I just got this surge of jealousness...at the fact when you and Ari meet up at Atlanta-no doubt you will have a hell of a time which is so awesome for you!! But the fact I am unable to share in the joy you will be having along with everyone else makes me sick to my stomach!!!D

I should have never told my parents! The s! Sorry- I just had to vent there!!

[Hans]

(re.that pesky inner voice)
Dear Ari,
Lek, my wife, sometimes asks me with that hurt expression that makes me want to slink away and crawl into a hole, “why do you say things to me that you wouldn’t dream of saying to one of your workers? Why do you hurt me like that, the one who is closest to you?”

The answer is:
Precisely because we are close and know each other so well. I know her weaknesses, which buttons to push. We have learned to trust each other with our most intimate secrets. Sometimes the temptation to use that knowledge overpowers the love we feel for each other. I betray her trust.

I know myself even better than I know Lek. Therefore my ability to hurt myself is all the greater, especially since I don’t complain as I stab me in the back. Because the criticism comes from me, the person I trust to tell me the truth, it’s accepted without question. It’s the ultimate betrayal of trust.

My rule No.1
Question everything, especially the truth.

[Imperfection]

Haha, yes, that little pessimistic inner voice. I actually got this sheet (it's really two sheets) that says "Old Way of Thinking" and "New Way of Thinking."

The Old Way says something like this...

"I can't stutter to her." -->*gets tense* -->Then, when she has to to talk, she stutters more than she would if she thought something like this...

"It's okay if I stutter. I'm still me; I'm just human."--> *doesn't get as tense*--> Then, when she speaks, she doesn't completely STOP stuttering, but she stutters significantly less then if she had of thought in the 'Old Way.'

Maybe I should start trying to banish that pesky voice at school. Or at least when I have to give presentations. :D

[Hans]

Committing to something has never been easy for me. If I did, I would always do it with reservations, like “I’ll give this a try. I can always stop if it gets boring or too hard.” Or this one: “I’m too tired right now. I’ll try to make a start tomorrow.” The giving up is already built in as a distinct possibility. So many projects lapse because the goal is not clear in my mind and, if I do start, due to the lack of will to persevere.

The impetus for self-growth grew out of the despair of depression and an overwhelming feeling of having failed at life. I could sink no lower. The only direction left was up. There is no better, more urgent reason to succeed.

Seeing myself succeed, tasting the goal as I said “I will do this”, left no room for vacillation. The possibility of failure was not allowed. I clearly understood my reasons for committing to the effort required.

The reward is so sweet.

[Standingtall]

If I let my inner voice out of the box, I may not be able to leave the house everyday. I would have more than the toymaker (Sylverster Stallone), in the movie Spy Kids 3D, Game Over. I will tend to lean over to hippy side of me.

[Hans]

Gene, could you translate that for a tinarian please.

[Standingtall]

Gene, could you translate that for a tinarian please.
Hey Hans, There has been 3 movies made, called spy kids, the the last one is called "Game Over". Sylverster Stallon character is called the toy maker and at his headquarters, there are three different personality. The hippy, the professer and the army dude, but really they are one person.

Hope the links work. http://www.imdb.com/gallery/ss/0338459/spykids3_3.jpg.html?path=gallery&path_key=0338459&seq=19

Hopefully that answer your question.

Peace,

[Hans]

Thanks Gene

It reminds me that only a few months ago I asked why I have a bad side. Did a survival advantage bestow this selfish gene on me?

[Standingtall]

Thanks Gene

It reminds me that only a few months ago I asked why I have a bad side. Did a survival advantage bestow this selfish gene on me?
Hans, why are you calling me Selfish?

[Hans]

Well you see........O bloody hell

[Standingtall]

Well you see........O bloody hell
Just yanking on your chain, no harm done.