Dating PART 2

[Sup2u]

yo there's this girl that i kinda like. She goes to my religious school and she's really hot and i think she thinks i'm cute. I wanna ask her out but i don't know what to do. Her friends think i'm weird cuz i'm smarter than them.....That's another thing why are stutterers so smart? Anyway any suggestions?

[Professor]

lol im pretty smart and my own person i have a lot of opinions but cant exepress them to others cuz of stutterin. But try to just talk to her or ask her online if she wants to go out or something like that.

[Sup2u]

That's the thing i don't know if she has a screen name. But she keeps flirting with me... SO confusing. I wish i could read minds lol

[Professor]

lol yeah thats how it with me and some girls i wish i knew there screen names so i wouldnt have to tell em im person that i like them lol.

[Sup2u]

Yo i was just at this dance and there was this mad fine girl i wanted to ask to dance but this other girl asked me first and i didn't wanna be rude so i said yes. But the girl wasn't that hot and now i feel bad cuz i didn't get to dance with the mad fine girl.

[Professor]

ahh that sucks where do you live my cousin just had a dance and he lives in the suburbs of chicago i live in the city lol.

[Sup2u]

Central New JErsey

[Professor]

o ok cool!!! :)

[llw03c]

yo there's this girl that i kinda like. She goes to my religious school and she's really hot and i think she thinks i'm cute. I wanna ask her out but i don't know what to do. Her friends think i'm weird cuz i'm smarter than them.....That's another thing why are stutterers so smart? Anyway any suggestions?
we're smart because we can think about a million things at once...thats why we stutter...or part of it.

[Professor]

^^ that is soo right i think about a billion things before i say them and i hate that but i do it anyway.

[Asif]

You (all) sure don't sound very smart.
Not only can you not speak fluently, you can't write or reason fluently either.
Very sad.

If YOU were a girl, would you be interested in someone like you?
Maybe you should get off your isolated little moutains and put some time into seeing how you can become someone a girl might want to be with.
Being "smart" doesn't count for much if the only person who knows it is you.
And anyway, what makes you think you are smart to begin with?
Ego will not get you very far. You'll need more than that to get by.
The world on a plate is not yours by right. It takes a little effort to get all those things you want so much.

The first time I was ever accused of having a "chip on my shoulder", I didn't know what it meant. I was 16 years old. Reading (with great difficulty) all the above posts, I am now all too aware of what it means. And of how excruciatingly difficult it is to be a teenager.

Angry? Resentful? Don't be. To my great embarassment , I realise I was once just like you. But I never had anyone with the insight to tell me the things I have just told you. Please consider what I have said, and kick-start your lives.

Asif.

[Sup2u]

I know i'm smart because i get good grades.

[Sup2u]

Her friends think i'm weird cuz i'm smarter than them.....That's another thing why are stutterers so smart? Anyway any suggestions?
About that. Rereading it I sound kinda arogant. I did not mean to come across that way. I meant to say that I get better grades and pick up things faster than them. Or so it seems. And they seem to not like me for it.

[Asif]

Are you smart enough to know you are not smart at all?
What is "smart" anyway?
Intelligent? Is intelligence particularly important?
Is being popular important?
Is being content important?
What IS important to you?
Being young is like blundering through a minefield.
We get bits blown off ourselves as we go. We get damaged.
But hopefully, we also learn to tread more carefully.
The most important thing, by far, is humility.
Maybe you are smart. Who cares anyway?
Humility will get you where you really want to be, because EVERYone admires humility.
Look it up in a dictionary. Understand the concept.
Oddly, humility will enable your speech apparatus to work better.
When you don't fight your stutter, your stutter will stop fighting you.
Asif.

[Sup2u]

I guess humility is important. I don't think I'm judged by anyone here that much. I'm introducing myself to you guys. And the fact that i think that i'm smart is part of my life i guess.

[llw03c]

he's right, being smart means nothing. what we think about ourselves means nothing. its all bout how others percieve us sometimes. all you have to do is run your mouth constantly and people think you're smart and know everything. i know thats why i don't have a job right now. i'm too scared to make follow up phone calls. how can i run my mouth when...

anyway, when the power is in the hands of others as in with girls we like or potential employers, the key is letting them know our true selves or at least letting them know about the good qualities that we think we have..unfortunately, the only way is by talking. :(

[Sup2u]

yea. your right.

[ElectricVersion]

yo there's this girl that i kinda like. She goes to my religious school and she's really hot and i think she thinks i'm cute. I wanna ask her out but i don't know what to do. Her friends think i'm weird cuz i'm smarter than them.....That's another thing why are stutterers so smart? Anyway any suggestions?

A. Just keep flirting back... have you talked much with her at all yet? Or is it just looks, smiles and real casual stuff? One wonderful fact of life is that girls love to talk and they LOVE a guy who listens well. You won't have to say as much as you think. Just don't be in a rush or think you need to blurt out the words "will you go out with me", or any kinda of phrase that asks her on an official date. That kinda pressure would stress anyone out. (and P.S. - I have NEVER had my stutter keep a girl away from me. If anything, from time to time it made them more interested. Seeing a person who marches on even though they deal with something like that can be intriguing. And if she is super fine like you say, she's probably sick of dealing with the typical boys she meets. you'll probably be a breath of fresh air for her.)

B. We're ultra smart people because we develop skills early on that most people don't develop. We fear asking questions, so we develop the skill to figure out things by ourselves. Makes us very resourceful. We can get ourselves out of many situations and troubles, in fact that's what we do most of the time anyway. We are the masters of evasion, scanning ahead for trouble spots and pre-empting them. Self-sufficiency development at an early age exercises the brain in amazing ways. So as a result, we are jumbled at times, a little scatter-brained, but damn are we smart!