All ALone

[RazZ]

Where do I start? Oh yeah, the introduction, I’m Rashid, born and brought up in Dubai, but originally from Pakistan, never been to my homeland though.

Anyway I’ve been stammering since the age of four. Its been a tough journey, but non the less I did enjoy every moment of it. I didn't used to stammer that much it was only a mild stammering.

Since the past two to three years its has become so worse that I stutter on every single word, i think it’s because of me being alone. I used to have friends but I left them all three years back cos they were only there when they need something, my girlfriend left me two years back (got over it). My family moved back to Pakistan to live there. To be honest I’ve actually learnt to live alone, but this has made my stammering much worse.

Now I don’t know what to do, who to approach. Can’t make new friends, (you all know the phrase, “its easy to lose old friends then to make new friends”). I lost my confident; hope is bond by a piece of weak thread. Uncertain of things.
Need help and advice.
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RazZ the Great

[mos]

salam

go to the local mosques in dubai and make new friends that way

[Marrow]

Hey Razz, firstly welcome to the forum

As for making friends, my best peice of advice would be to join some sort of a club or something based around one of your hobbies and intrests. I dont know what your hobbies are but for instance if you like football, join a football club, or if you are intrested in scuba diving join a scuba diving club, that sort of thing. This will allow you to be around people with similar intrests and give an easy topic of conversation to break the ice and hopefully make friends. Even doing some volunteer work to help people or the environment can get u out the house and meet people.

About your stutter getting worse, i agree with you that this could well be because you are living alone and have no one to talk about your problems with etc. Its good you joined this forum as it will allow you to talk about ur issues, views and experiences on here and i for one will be here to listen to what you have to say:).

Hopefully if you get out of the house and around people you will feel better and have more confidence, and maybe your stutter will improve.

Laters

Nick

[Standingtall]

Welcome Razz, we hear you my friend. You will be surprised where your next friend may come from, so keep the faith.

[3FingerBrown]

Welcome to the forum Razz!
I found myself in a similar place as you in that I had allowed my existing friendships to deteriorate. I didn’t like myself and couldn’t see how anybody else could either, got panic attacks when I saw old friends and retreated further and further into my own head.
When you never answer the phone people eventually stop calling.
I like the club idea, find people with similar interests and start from there.
That you now recognize the need is a big first step.
Welcome aboard,
Ari

[RazZ]

First of all thanks for all the welcome and all the advice i got from all of you guys.

MOS
If it was easy to make friends in mosque, i would have done that way before. but you know the Arab people here just dont like outsiders, even if he was born and brought up in there country.

MARROW

thanks for the advice mate, might try out joining some sort of a club.

yeah i know being alone its a no no for people who stammer, cos it does effect their stammering alot, and thats why i just said to myself enough is enough, i need to be among people and Socialize more often, its the only way that stammers like ourself can cure this to some extent.

Power of three

I do agree with you that thinking postively changes a person, and i lack that ability, im one of those person who possess negitive thoughts then positive.

Standingtall

im still waiting for that suprise;)


Last but not the least 3FingerBrown

well clubs are always a good way to meet people and its also a good way to get more drunk. that what i end up being (more drunk then meeting people :) )

[Standingtall]

Standingtall

im still waiting for that suprise;)

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I'm glad you took the time to respond to each of us and also that you didn't dismiss the surprise completely. Keep the faith and you will get that surprise.