hello

[nick1991]

safe people, my name is nick n i'm 16 n live in england. i, like you ,also stammer (stutter). It started around when i was 7 and hasn't gone away since. Over the recent years, it has got worse but i have learned to accept it. At my age i have a lot of things to think about and lots of pressures too so having a stammer isn't the most useful thing to have. I have friends (thankgod) and a family who love me but nothing can heal me from the psychological blow that stammering has caused to me. I have considered suicide more than once, but get too afraid to actually do it and then i realise the problems that i will have to face.
sometimes i try to make myself believe that i'm normal, but when i come to talk to someone that feeling packs it's bags and goes away. I've heard about a thing called the chronic stammer? Aparently it's a permanent stammer but to me, all stammers are permanent. I'm going through a pretty rough patch at the moment, my friends aren't taking me seriously and i'm starting to think that my mum is talking to me like a baby. Perhaps the saddest thing about stammering is that it takes you away from the person that you really are, or maybe you're born to stammer, anyway that's my story.

[Standingtall]

Hey Nick, great to have you aboard. i have been in your shoes, i have traveled the path you walk on now. What kept me here, i knew deep down in my heart, there are better days ahead and i just have to be patient. Don't get caught up in this silly game that people play or what the media protrays as normal. There are a few young people on here, hope you give us a chance to know you and form some friendships. Chat later.

[bwelling]

Greetings Nick, you sound very intelligent and have a pretty healthy attitude towards your stammering for a 16 year old. I had no acceptance of mine when I was in my teens. I was so convinced that something was going to happen to make me happy. That magic something did not come in my teens. I don't think it has arrived even 40 years later, but I think I am growing into my stuttering rather than out of it. I agree with you in that all stammering is permanent. Our choice is whether we figure out how to use it or let it slowly destroy us. good to have you onboard.

[timitao]

alrite nick mate welcome also from england. I'm 22 now but 16 i was a mess ashame of who i was.

Stammering doesn't define you your chatacter towards it does. the more power you give it the more it'll take.

Theres a lot of good advice on hear thats helped me over the years gain control over my life, i still stammer mildly but it doesn't affect me.

I'm not sure how much you know about stammering, but get to learn about it, it is fascinating and one of lifes great mysteries. Even the great Freud couldn't solve it.

Check out the british stammering association website, if you haven't already.

I found the more i understood it the easier it was to accept. Also you then can explain to friends about it.

I was scared to do this at first, but after i told them they were amazed at how much effort i used to go to in hiding it.

I started by saying something like " i'm disfluent because the left side of my brain processes info a bit quicker which causes me to get my words mixed up.

Where abouts are you from?