Hey there!

[Ivor Stutter]

Im a newbie so thought i would officailly say Hi. Im 25 years young and have stuttered all my life, i went to uni and for sometime it almost went away and i naievly thought it would just go away all by itself. Then i had the stress of ending a 2 yr relationship, having to unexpectantly move house and the last few months of my Multimedia Design degree. So my stutter has come back almost as bad as it ever had been before. This has inspired me to do something about it, hence why i stumbled across this forum : ), it was a friend i made recently who asked what i had done to try and 'cure' myself, to his surprise i said nothing. I did have speach therapy when i was very young but then i didnt stutter i just didnt speak properly. Its made me think why i havnt done anything about it before, obviously i can blame my parents for not doing anything up til i was 16 but then i only have myself to blame.
So ive arranged an appointment with my GP, silly NHS takes 3 weeks for a non-emergency appointment, and im gonna ask to be refered to a specialist so i can get some support.
I hope to be a regular on this forum, ive read a few posts already and it seems cool. Im just glad to be able to speak with other stutterers, ie never met or spoke to another!

So thats me, hows uz all? :)

ps are the peeps on here mainly US / UK or elsewhere?

[Ross]

hi there! yeh there are some peeps haha from the uk here aswell!

im ross by the way. i wrote quite a long intro on here the other week so if you want to find out about me look under ROSS on the into's

i know what you mean about not having any help from people when you were growning up mate. i think were all in the same boat! i had the regular speach therapy aswell when i was in middle school but that was a bit of a joke really. i remember it was at our school hall so when i was doing breathing exersices and stuff all the kids were walking past the window laughing so as you can imagine that didnt do much to solve my problem haha

i know what you mean about not doing anything to help yourself! its weird but when you think about it you dont do any self help really! but you really should. you have to make it like a mission. and try and cure yourself.

im really good at hiding my speach problems mate. i was in the army for 7 years and ive given lessons and speaches! but its the everday life that gets to you. just queing in a bank and feeling your stress levels hit the roof! haha im sure youve been there quite a few times!

couple of quick bits of advice! buy a book that will be an awesome investment! ANTHONY ROBBINS UNLIMITED POWER. this will really open your eyes! basicly its says that were all made exact;y the same way and we all have the same potential and when were born were just a blank slate! its our expierences that mould us into what we become. what made you stutter and what made tony blair such a good public speaker? we all have a brain and a voice! its all in our heads mate! if you can model the exact actions and thougts of a good speaker you will speak good! also your a couple of CDs by a bloke called GLENN HARROLD. they are relaxation and mind changing CD's. theres are quite a few of them. just put one on when you can chill out and he puts you in a trance and fills your head with possitive thoughts! they really are very good! get them at amazon there pretty cheap on there!

there you go a bit of self help for you! haha

im 26 from newcastle by the way!

i know youve never met anyone with a stutter mate but every line of work ive ever been in ( army and almost 5 jobs ive worked with a stutterer!) were everwhere mate! i promise you.

was watching parky the other week and samuel l jackson was being interviewed. he said when he was a kid he had a terrible stutter! richard branson isnt the most fluent speaker in the world either. he stood up on one of his speaches and stuttered and just ran away!

right im off mate pleased to meet you any way!

[Ivor Stutter]

Hi Ross thanks for the reply, i agree with your views that everyone is capable of achieving anything but we are all a product of our upbringing. I was a very shy child until the time i went to secondry school, i strongly believe my stutter is a result of this. Almost a bad habit i got into as a result of being so shy. This became the vicious circle i think most other stutterers will agree with, the more you stutter, the more you are aware of the stuttering, the harder it is to control!
THe main reasons why i want to try to cure myself is due to the fact ive just finished uni so i have the time avaliable to do whatever it takes and i feel so motivated to do it! I have never felt so frustrated in my life before, just the other day i went into a bar to order a pint of Guinness :) and although its my favorite drink its also the one im garenteed to stutter on, anyways i tried to say it and the bartender laffed and said 'its easy for you to say' lol i wernt offended cos he was just being jolly and obviously assumed i had already had drank a few. Then there is the fact i now cannot say my own name, my address, even which bus stop i wanna go to all these things are making me choose to aviod situations where i would naturally have to say these things. Ive even started asking friends to ring taxis etc for me, something ive always refused to let myself give in too. But the biggest thing which i hate about stuttering is that ive develped a physical 'tick' when i stutter and then try and force the word out. I letterally close my eyes and almost nod my head trying to get that word out, it doesnt help and im now so aware that im probably looking like a idiot too!

Plan of action..

Im going to the doctor on friday cos he doesnt even know about it as yet and im going to ask to be refered to a specailist. I dont want to faff around while he decides or recommends anything im just gonna be straight to the point and ask to be refered immedietly.

Secondly im going to research as much as possible onto every technique out there. Even if the technioques dont work the positive attitude i hope to get by reading them will give me a mental boost (i hope)

All i hope is one day i will be able to speak without being aware i might stutter, one of my ambitions is to tell a joke. I always stutter on the punch line which ruins any joke! lol

:p

[Ross]

morning!

thanks for the reply!

right might have something for you to try out here. last year i was on a mini mission to try and find out when i first developed a stutter. ive always wanted to know exactly when i went from being a fluent kid ( which i was ) to a nervous wreck! lol. anyway ive read a great deal about regression and hypnotherapy. so i booked an apointment with some guy near where i live. to cut a long story short he regressed me and took me back to 3 or 4 times which i had completly forgot about. one was at first school the next at middle school. ive never been hypnotised before so it was very strange!! but when he took me back my whole personality changed to what ever time i was in. even my body changed!! i felt like a 5 year old and a 10 year old. these 2 times must have been pivitol times in my life and they must have hurt me deep down. he made me make a mends with what ever happened and changed those bad momories to neutral ones. he then filled me with confidence building thoughts and possitive sugestions. when i came around again i felt on top of the world mate! it was amazing. it was like i didnt have a care in the world and it was like my voice was just normal. when i came out of the office i was so up lifted it was unreall! i went to a local shop and made myself ask for some thing i new i would have problems with but the words just shot out of my mouth with no thought what so ever!

the session cost over £100. it started to ease off after a few days but i felt it was worth every penny. it opened my eyes to this type of thing! and to be honest since then ive felt 100% better about myself as a whole. but doing all my reaserch ive found that with a little effort we can get ourself in to the same state as the therapist got me!

i would recomend trying this mate! i know its expensive but im sure your like me and would pay anything to help you!

[Ivor Stutter]

**UPDATE**

Well i went to the Doc's and he kindly refered me to a speach therapist straight away, im just waiting for the appointment to come through the post. Interestingly he told me that i was the second stutterer to go to see him that week and we were the first in 6years!
I wander who the other person was! Hmmmm ; ) i was so tempeted to ask just for someone else to talk to with the same situation..

So now i just have to wait : (

I also had a business meeting yesterday which went very well, i managed to convey all my ideas with only a few problmes from stuttering. Normally i avoid words i stutter on but sometimes when your talking about certain thing its hard to not use them! Im a Multimedia Designer and the worst word is file... Ffff.. Ffff...Ffff FILE!! hehehe