What do you say when people butt in?

[Mr Fingers]

I'm getting really peed off by the amount of times people cut me up, even tho it's clear as day that i'm trying to talk mouth open, making the sound etc, & yet they still do it.

Up until now i havn't said anything as it'll obviously make these people feel uncomfortable about what they've done, but this could be 1 step closer to taking control as i think everything is linked in someway so the next person to cut me up, i'll say something.

This also leads to when people pretend they know what you've just say, instead of asking you too repeat the word.

What do you say?

Thanks.

[Foxglove]

Whether you have a stutter or not, butting into someones conversation is very rude and you should let people that butt in know that. That way they'll know to let you finish what you were saying in future.

Just because we stutter doesn't mean we shouldn't be allowed to finish sentences, since doing so is kinda the point of a conversation :P

[Perad]

It really depends what they are butting in. If they occasionally finish my sentence then I let it slide. I do the same to other people when they are searching for a word to describe what they are talking about.

If they are always doing it then I say something like. "*name*, i don't want to be rude but can I finish what I am saying on my own please.*

Yesterday I was on the phone and some phone operator kept cutting me off saying 'I don't understand'.

I was trying to say, 'can I confirm an appointment please'.

It came out as 'can I confirm an a- an a-

Three times she cut me off saying that didn't understand. I replied with these exact words in a somewhat stern tone.

'I have a stutter, can I please have the opportunity to finish what I am saying!'

She shut up, I felt wonderful. That was until she redirected me to a line which rang for ever... go figure.

I think its a case of picking of your battles. When you are frustrated with them then let them know. Don't abuse them, they probably don't know any better. I think you will find if you say you have a stutter when you are on the phone it will make the world of difference.

If you are in a conversation with a person just say it's a little annoying for you that you cannot say what you want to say yourself and them butting in doesn't make it any better.

[Be YOURSELF]

lol its frustrating and funny because usually i would want to tell them off politely. but i allow my stammer to stop me. then picture what i want to do to the person whilst they are talking, which makes the situation a little bearable

[Mr Fingers]

Thanks for the comments.

I will say it when someone does it as i think it makes it much harder for us with that person in the future as we know they'll butt in at any minute. :D
I usually grind my teeth & feel like just exploding but i usually just let it slide which like above, makes it worse.

All very helpful tho, thanks again.

[tb1223]

Haha, I also think it's funny when people don't realize you have a stutter and get really impatient and rude. They keep asking you to explain yourself but you just keep repeating the same thing over and over because you have no choice, and they get frustrated.

This might be my favorite all-time stuttering incident:

I was in 10th grade, and a few friends and I went out to get a bite to eat one night. They were pretty good friends of mine, and we were all comfortable with the stuttering issue. Anyway, when I was ordering my food, I kept blocking and my friends were kind of playfully laughing because the waitress seemed to be getting impatient (important to note they were not laughing AT me). Finally the waitress got fed up, and must have thought I was playing some kind of a joke on her since my friends were laughing. She said something to the effect of, "Come on, knock it off, I'm very busy tonight." I finally was able to communicate my order, at this point laughing hysterically myself. She walked off, extremely angry.

After we finished our meal, one of my friends decided to take it to another level. He purposely did not leave a tip, and wrote a note explaining that we weren't leaving a tip because the waitress "made fun of our friend." As we were walking out the door, the manager saw the note and came outside to talk to us. He began cursing at us and said something like, "What do you kids think you are, a bunch of rock stars that can just do whatever they want? Get the hell out of here!" I couldn't stop laughing the rest of the night. I know it was really a misunderstanding and we were the ones at fault, but for some reason that made it funnier to me...I kind of thought of it as revenge against society for all the times that people actually DID judge me because I stuttered. And hey, we were just a bunch of dumb 15 year old kids. I have not been back to the restaurant since.

[Foxglove]

On the subject of laughing... My friends and I have a silent agreement that I never tell jokes in social situations. I usually get so excited at reaching the punch line that I get a horrible stutter attack and can never get that sentence out fluently so it messes up the joke big time XD