Jeff99
12-21-2007, 12:53 PM
ok here is the problem i face at the moment.
At work there is this girl someone i think is awesome pretty funny has her problems but is still cool, the last few weeks i have been giving her a lift to work she really opens up to me feels like she can trust me.i think i'm a fairly nice guy to everyone i try to be at least.
one day she told me a rather sad story she is one of 4 children 3 brothers an her her parents aren't together anymore her father has another wife an her kids so there are 7 children. last week while in my car she rang her father an ask him what he wanted for christmas he replied with we aren't doing gifts this year far enough i thought at the time the next day she was out with her brother an there father called him asking him what he wanted for christmas she was sad she rang all her other brother he had called all them asking the same question she rang her father again to ask what he wanted he still said that they aren't buying gifts so buy him nothing.
ok so i felt bad for her i went christmas shopping the next day an i know she likes taking pictures so i picked her up something little just a photo frame an album i gave them to her today an explained why i brought it i just wanted her to smile an felt sad that her father was being like he is i know it doesn't make up for it but i hoped it would make a her smile for a bit etc. she was really happy cried etc said it was so sweet etc,i've noticed she plays with her hair alot now when talking to me until we got to work and i asked her not to tell anyone bout the me buying her something cause people like to make up stories like when she was getting a lift from my work mate dan who has been seeing a girl for years someone made up a story they were sleeping together etc totally false but it still hurt people nearly cost Dan his girl. so i didn't want to put her throu that and because i'm higher up than her it might look bad. my problem is since then she as changed towards me she seems distance an doens't talk much now i pretty sure i haven't sent out an msgs i want to date her or anything. i would in a heart beat but i'm not going to ask her or anything i have a new rule not to date work mates since my last cost me my job.
what should i do?
did i come on to strong?
Am i just thinking to much?
At work there is this girl someone i think is awesome pretty funny has her problems but is still cool, the last few weeks i have been giving her a lift to work she really opens up to me feels like she can trust me.i think i'm a fairly nice guy to everyone i try to be at least.
one day she told me a rather sad story she is one of 4 children 3 brothers an her her parents aren't together anymore her father has another wife an her kids so there are 7 children. last week while in my car she rang her father an ask him what he wanted for christmas he replied with we aren't doing gifts this year far enough i thought at the time the next day she was out with her brother an there father called him asking him what he wanted for christmas she was sad she rang all her other brother he had called all them asking the same question she rang her father again to ask what he wanted he still said that they aren't buying gifts so buy him nothing.
ok so i felt bad for her i went christmas shopping the next day an i know she likes taking pictures so i picked her up something little just a photo frame an album i gave them to her today an explained why i brought it i just wanted her to smile an felt sad that her father was being like he is i know it doesn't make up for it but i hoped it would make a her smile for a bit etc. she was really happy cried etc said it was so sweet etc,i've noticed she plays with her hair alot now when talking to me until we got to work and i asked her not to tell anyone bout the me buying her something cause people like to make up stories like when she was getting a lift from my work mate dan who has been seeing a girl for years someone made up a story they were sleeping together etc totally false but it still hurt people nearly cost Dan his girl. so i didn't want to put her throu that and because i'm higher up than her it might look bad. my problem is since then she as changed towards me she seems distance an doens't talk much now i pretty sure i haven't sent out an msgs i want to date her or anything. i would in a heart beat but i'm not going to ask her or anything i have a new rule not to date work mates since my last cost me my job.
what should i do?
did i come on to strong?
Am i just thinking to much?