stuttering isolated me from a lot of people

[judo31]

Let's it make simple, stuttering is not something that easy to overcome and control. All the fear and embarrassment involve with it really ruin my social skill. I remember when i was a young child that stuttered, but didn't really noticed it that much because it wasn't very severe, and i said things that i wanted to say even if i stuttered. However, ever since moving from middle school to high school. I stop developing relationships with people especially females. I hardly have any closed friends or any female friends at high school. The point is that i spent 1-2 years of speech and counseling therapy. My speech has got a lot better. I felt very needed and missed out on dating experience now because i have missed out so much in high school. I am a stutterer and a love shyness person which really cause a lot of stress and pressure from socializing with girls. My stuttering doesn't causes a lot of problems talking with girls and i am no longer that shy. However, isolating myself from others for many years. I really don't know how to talk to girls. I'm finding myself having chances to talk to people that i like but i really bore the crap out of them. Stuttering is still problem for me but if i open up more to people about my stuttering. I would not have that much problems right now. I'm doing well in school, have a work, and am a decent looking person. My stuttering is very mild. I hardly stuttered nowaday only when i have to start the conversation. I'm just finding myself don't know how to talk to women. I can no longer blame at my stutterering or shyness of not getting a girlfriend. It makes me think all the years of hiding my stuttering really worth it; so people don't laugh at me.

[andrewg818]

I have met people who stuttered incredibly severely and were happy and at peace w/ it--and outgoing and had plenty of friends and family---and successful careers. In contrast, I have met closet stutterers who have worked so vigilantly to NEVER overtly stutter that their own girlfriends didn't know. They lived in incredible* fear, stress, and anxiety --day and night--over their seemingly invisible problem of which no one else was aware.
Both realities are possible for you--as is every reality in between. Your stutter and the people around you do not determine it--the truth, you will come to find is that YOU choose what stuttering will or wont do in your life. Realizing that is "half the battle."



Let's it make simple, stuttering is not something that easy to overcome and control. All the fear and embarrassment involve with it really ruin my social skill. I remember when i was a young child that stuttered, but didn't really noticed it that much because it wasn't very severe, and i said things that i wanted to say even if i stuttered. However, ever since moving from middle school to high school. I stop developing relationships with people especially females. I hardly have any closed friends or any female friends at high school. The point is that i spent 1-2 years of speech and counseling therapy. My speech has got a lot better. I felt very needed and missed out on dating experience now because i have missed out so much in high school. I am a stutterer and a love shyness person which really cause a lot of stress and pressure from socializing with girls. My stuttering doesn't causes a lot of problems talking with girls and i am no longer that shy. However, isolating myself from others for many years. I really don't know how to talk to girls. I'm finding myself having chances to talk to people that i like but i really bore the crap out of them. Stuttering is still problem for me but if i open up more to people about my stuttering. I would not have that much problems right now. I'm doing well in school, have a work, and am a decent looking person. My stuttering is very mild. I hardly stuttered nowaday only when i have to start the conversation. I'm just finding myself don't know how to talk to women. I can no longer blame at my stutterering or shyness of not getting a girlfriend. It makes me think all the years of hiding my stuttering really worth it; so people don't laugh at me.

[bwelling]

Let's it make simple, stuttering is not something that easy to overcome and control. All the fear and embarrassment involve with it really ruin my social skill.

I'm just finding myself don't know how to talk to women. I can no longer blame at my stutterering or shyness of not getting a girlfriend. It makes me think all the years of hiding my stuttering really worth it; so people don't laugh at me.

Judo - I totally agree that stuttering retards social growth. But don't fool yourself to think that this is only affected you meeting girls.

So, let's make it simple - Join toastmasters - learn how to express yourself.

bw

[Standingtall]

I agree that a person's stutter influences your early development and put you behind the eight ball. We are not alone, many non-pws are also placed behind the eight ball. There are many factors, but the biggest for me is confidence. I can empty a room and i don't have an greek god body, but i can meet women when i put my mind to it. My two cents worth, is if something is worthy the risk, why not take it.

[slyder2412]

Being a great conversationalist can be an aquired skill. The art of conversation is something that i've lately been getting really in to(reading about NLP also) because i figure, if i stutter...i atleast want to show that i'm an interesting person and my stuttering won't take that away from me. You can read a lot of tips in building rapport with people(search rapport in google and you'll find a lot of things). Also when it comes to handling the opposite sex, you can add knowledge to your arsenal on learning to calibrate girls. The best possible way is to talk to as many girls as possible. The second best thing to do is get into the PUA(pick-up artist) and learn very valuable skills in the "game" of relations. Good luck.

[slyder2412]

I don't know but my lengthy post never registered so i'll summarize.

The art of conversation is a aquired skill that you can learn and others are just born with. Search "rapport" in google and you'll find mounds of information on connecting with people. Also read about non-verbal communication(body language which is basically 93% of whilst your actual words are 7%), AND read about NLP. The best way to gain experience with girls are to talk to as many as you can. You should also check out the PUA (pick-up artist). PUA has sooo many valuable tips for inner game and outer game. Good luck.

[slyder2412]

I don't know why.. but my lengthy post never registered so i'll summarize.

The art of conversation is a aquired skill that you can learn and others are just born with. Search "rapport" in google and you'll find mounds of information on connecting with people. Also read about non-verbal communication(body language which is 93% of communication while your actual words are 7%), AND read about NLP(neuro-linguisic programming). The best way to gain experience with girls are to talk to as many as you can. You should also check out the PUA (pick-up artist). PUA has sooo many valuable tips for inner game and outer game. Good luck.

[slyder2412]

wow. sorry for posting so many replies..i just wanted to be in the spotlight!

I guess my internet was ed up, my bad.