Girls problem!!

[FukDisL1F3]

shit i mean if u r a stutterer like me then ur ed. becuz in my school there are sum pretty girls dat like me n they want to talk 2 me. but wat do u know i'm a stutterer so den after we introduced 2 each other i was quiet like a not in a nervous way but my stutterin just dont me talk. don't u guys feel ed up wen dat shit happen?

[mos]

shit i mean if u r a stutterer like me then ur ed. becuz in my school there are sum pretty girls dat like me n they want to talk 2 me. but wat do u know i'm a stutterer so den after we introduced 2 each other i was quiet like a not in a nervous way but my stutterin just dont me talk. don't u guys feel ed up wen dat shit happen?

your lyrics make me smile.

:D

theres plenty of fish in da c

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[sloth]

Personally, I'm more attracted to guys who stutter rather then ones who don't, but I guess that's also because I stutter. In school, guys I liked would usually end up making fun of me. s :mad: . Anyway, try to find one that doesn't mind the stuttering; the process of finding one is shitty but hopefully the outcome will be worth it.

[Tess]

I was in that situation too. I was at my new school and didn't know anyone yet, and at the first day we had to introduce ourselves (This was in 2003). I couldn't say anything and it was so hard :( It took me like 20 seconds to even start the first two words ('I am' obviously).. They laughed at me, and I felt like hell - I even couldn't say anything back because of my stutter! That was so frustrating. But I found a lot of friends now, who know that I have a stutter and don't mind. So I would give you tesame advice.

[Professor]

man im good with that i had 2 gfs in da past motnh and the one i have now im very open with and i actually dont stutter at all for some reason.

[Ivor Stutter]

man im good with that i had 2 gfs in da past motnh and the one i have now im very open with and i actually dont stutter at all for some reason.

i had the same experience, after dating someone for several months i found i stopped stuttering around them except for arguements and when id been drinking!

[sacha]

well ima girl, 16 going on 17 and ive left school now, same problem.....i like guys i meet, my mates that know bout my 'speech' (thats what i call it) say we will introduce you to him...i fine with quirky comments and making people laugh but when i have a question, point to make or some answer to a question that has been asked i ed!!!!!! i feel shit and wont to cry but i dont cause then they dont know why and its like day in day ing out!!!!!



anyone get the same sort of problem??????

[sacha]

I was in that situation too. I was at my new school and didn't know anyone yet, and at the first day we had to introduce ourselves (This was in 2003). I couldn't say anything and it was so hard :( It took me like 20 seconds to even start the first two words ('I am' obviously).. They laughed at me, and I felt like hell - I even couldn't say anything back because of my stutter! That was so frustrating. But I found a lot of friends now, who know that I have a stutter and don't mind. So I would give you tesame advice.


oh darlin i have had so many of the same things happen to me, i feel for you. :p i have been alone for so ing long!!! 16 years of lonlyness now i have people to talk to....

[Asif]

Maybe some of you should learn how to communicate like human beings before moaning about why nobody likes you.
Illiterate swearing really doesn't improve your chances of scoring.
Liek wot is diss fkkkung shit man???
u maek me fkkuking puke.
Have a little respect for other users of this forum: if you know what respect is.
Asif.

[Perad]

shit i mean if u r a stutterer like me then ur ed. becuz in my school there are sum pretty girls dat like me n they want to talk 2 me. but wat do u know i'm a stutterer so den after we introduced 2 each other i was quiet like a not in a nervous way but my stutterin just dont me talk. don't u guys feel ed up wen dat shit happen?

I always found that my stammer helped me meet girls, most of the girls in my school were protective of me. When someone used to do the "st st st stuttering stanley" thing they would tell the people to off or get a life.

Of course when it came to actually getting a girlfriend i was no good. Looking back it was more because of nervousness than the stammer itself. I think you will find that, assuming you are going for a decent enough girl, they will listen to you and you do have a decent chance.

Just try to look at your stammer which is something that is part of you and try not to let it get in the way.

[AMG]

I never had any problem getting women to like me. The reason is this. I would just tell them I could not talk to them like other guys could because I stuttered. Many laughed and said I already knew you stuttered and wanted to talk to me even more after I was honest.

[Asif]

Way to go :)
Honesty is something most people seem to have abandoned.
I was not always honest, but one day I decided to be.
Totally, absolutely, sometimes even brutally, honest.
My life has become honourable, and my speech a lot less of a problem.
As for girls: I vaguely remember what they were like :)
Asif.

[Leeboy13]

i know how youre all feeling about this as i felt the same, but i did realise the most important thing - thats is, if someone is bothered or looking down upon you because of your stammer - is that teh person you wanna spend the rest of your life with? i dont..... no matter how good looking they are....

A stammer is something you will live with forever (even if it goes, you will never forget your childhood stammers) so its very important to be with someone who respects you and doesnt have a problem with your stammer...

My 2 pence worth

[bignick]

I think you have made a very good point Lee and totally agree, stuttering did stop me from initially talking to girls and only after I got to know them better did I feel comfortable in speaking out and then the confidence builds and the next thing you know, you are dating, then engaged, then married and have kids. My wife doesnt even hear my stutter now if you know what I mean.

[Standingtall]

I agree with you guys. Through the years I had plenty of interests from the ladies, but was too chicken to do anything about it. I think the link here, is not other people looking down at you, but rather you looking down at yourself. I think the breakthrough point is, that first time when you stutter in front of someone new. The brief moment of ackwardness and now you have choices to make. I say persist and see what happens. I have many interest for other people to share and I am overly sensitive personality has helped watching chick flicks, because I do cry and I had many positive results. I have an 78 lincoln, but with an blown head gasket and have plans to restore or upgrade. The wife and I think it would be cool, to fixed up that old car and cruise with the youngers. It is just a few interests i have and I know other people share them. For the guys, action and sci-fi movies. Love the latest star wars movie and see that helmet going on and skywalker become Darth Vader.

[BenLZ]

I talk to girls I don't know over the internet.

[dave]

Yeah, but how do you know they are really girls.

[dave]

I must say this. I know this is borderline inappropriate.

Pagoclone, apparently, is working so well it is being tested for premature .

[BenLZ]

Yeah, but how do you know they are really girls.

Pictures sometimes, and even if they aren't i'll take ignorance over reality anytime.

[Standingtall]

Do you use instinct and get that feeling, that is a female. I find you can usually tell if you pay attention to detail.

[Jeff99]

look the most important thing when looking asking, talking to a member of the other is to just be urself really they might be hot but if they can like u for u with ur little problem then why waste ur time.I know i was one that would put certain people on a throne or somthing like that. like they were god and if i stuffed up then the world would end.the truth is the world doesn't end if they can't see through our tiny problem that is our speech then why was ur time. just be honest to urself is what i'm really saying

[Anthony]

i usually like to get to know a girl first(to see how she is about it)

i'm usually stuck in the "friend zone" by then though :mad:

[Jeff99]

Ok here is the problem i think most have i had til i looked at it in a different view. We more so than other put people on a pertel stool we over think things we look at it like she/he is really hot she not going to like me or somthing like that what we need to learn is that it's just another person there are no better than us they are not going to laugh in our face (unless they are a or something if so they are not worth it) the world will not crash if they say no. Just be yourself don't over think every little thing just go with the flow if you want to talk to her do it straight away the longer you leave it the harder it will become. what is the worst that can happen.

[Jeff99]

For the first person that started this topic all i can say is to take a chance talk to them you need to get over the fear of speaking to women don't put so high up they are just people pretty or not. We don't know what they are thinking so don't guess we always think the worst but we don't know this. i found out i changed school at 14 from a country town to the city no one knew i had a stutter and some of the girls thought i was alright so they started talking to me hanging around me etc. i didn't really say much they thought i was a quite person then they found out i stuttered i just told them one day. some left one i dated for four years. i told the m i thought there not going to talk to me and all hat pther crap that goes thought my head but if they like you they like u for u not for ur speech sure it plays a part but only a small part.

[Jeff99]

look i bet they already know you stutter we try to hide it but who ae we trying to kid everyone know we just want to think they don't so if they want to talk to you then talk to them stop being a baby what is the worst that can happen you get laugh at who hasn't been there already you get over it.

[Standingtall]

I have been out of the dating game for a long time now but I do have the odd coffee meetings. Every inexperience person has that fear of rejections, it is not only people who stutter, just we have found something about us to put the blame on. I'm not that handsome, so I usually blame that first before my stutter and some times, I blame my stutter before my looks. If someone uses the four letter word or if you see an real big man heading straight for you, or red and blue lights, then it is safe to say you have been rejected. Don't take anything personal, chances are they are not even looking or married or have a partner preference or coming out of a relationship. I see nothing wrong being friends first. I got the gold mine attitude. I hit the mother load, I'm rich.

[BenLZ]

From the way I see it, the stutter automatically the makes girl view the stutterer as probably something along the lines of kind, sweet, nervous, whatever. That won't get you a girlfriend.