Girlfriends and stuttering

[Professor]

So i had like 2 gfs in da past month and with the last one she asked me out so we went out it was like she was really open and like not shy and i ono she kinda opened me up more and she didnt know that i stuttered and still doesnt know and we were together for like 20 days and i didnt even want to hide it i just didnt stutter at All. And then i broke up with her and found a chick that i like and asked her out and we talked and everything and were going out and im real happy and i still dont stutter and i think having a gf just relaxes me more or something i got no idea did this ever happen to anyone else??

[Bobby]

thats awesome man. you should be really happy. i'm pretty relaxed with friends, and i dont seem to bad with the stuttering/blocks. i know this sounds repeditive and annoying, but slowing down, and relaxing works.

[ElectricVersion]

Actually, that's pretty close to my experience. I always communicated with girls in just the right way. In fact, I was way smoother with them than most guys when it came to speaking. So they really liked me. I mean, the stutter was there, but not in a very hindering way. I'd always have that "time" when I felt it was right to "reveal" i had a problem, and they would always say they noticed anyway and didn't really care. most even said "i think it's cute". was never sure how to take that one, but i went with it. luckily that was never a huge problem for me. hardest part was the first few calls... asking for her when her parents answered or whatever. i LOVED It when a girl had her own phone! after that, things usually smoothed out.

[Flash]

I'd always have that "time" when I felt it was right to "reveal" i had a problem, and they would always say they noticed anyway and didn't really care. most even said "i think it's cute". was never sure how to take that one, but i went with it.

maybe a girl might think "it's cute" if it's just a little thing that only happens every once in a while.....but when it's severe and you can't barely say anything, then I doubt they would say something like that....and if they did, then they were probably lying and just trying to avoid the situation.

[llw03c]

hardest part was the first few calls... asking for her when her parents answered or whatever.
now that is REALLY the hard part.. :rolleyes:

[White Sox]

i think having a gf just relaxes me more or something i got no idea did this ever happen to anyone else??

ive never had a girlfriend, but ive been out on a few "dates" with girls. both times ive felt incredibly comfortable with both situations. i noticed i was able to speak freely and not even have to think about the possibly of not being able to say anything.
however, with 1 girl on our 3rd date something went wrong and it seemed like she didn't like me anymore (for reasons 100 percent unrelated to my speaking). after i saw her interest drop off and i began to feel uncomfortable i noticed that i stuttered a few times. before that i don't think had any problems.

with 1 of the girls i spent an entire day with her (over 10 hours) and i don't recall stuttering once, even while ordering dinner when we went out to eat.
i find that really incredible. yet i am still terrified to talk to a girl or ask her out. i had to meet these two girls through the internet because of my fear of introducing myself / not being accepted because of my speaking.

[cotton]

maybe a girl might think "it's cute" if it's just a little thing that only happens every once in a while.....but when it's severe and you can't barely say anything, then I doubt they would say something like that....and if they did, then they were probably lying and just trying to avoid the situation.

You know... most guys on first dates talk too much anyway. :D I have to respect all you male stutterers carrying the weight of initiating the date and making it work. It's almost like we girls just sit back and get our picks.

Do you guys feel you have to be extra good looking, extra smart, have that extra something to make up for your stutter?

[Flash]

Do you guys feel you have to be extra good looking, extra smart, have that extra something to make up for your stutter?
I don't know about other guys, but I certainly do feel that way......and I feel that way about other parts of life as well. One such part of life would be with jobs. I haven't had a job yet (not enough time between school and athletics) but eventually I will and I feel like I would have to work twice as hard and sacrifice twice as much to get the job I would want.