Hello

[Battleaxe19]

Im Tyler,

and i stutter :/
Though I ahve more of a block than a stutter, it is very stifling and has been forever. Life has been hard lately, what with me having to find a new job. I hope through talking to some of you guys it can give me a little more confidence in my "disability".

Im 19 years old, and graduated highschool in 06. School was a , and there were alot of times i felt like I wanted to die. I remember being in English class and being asked to read, I would find an excuse to not have to or I would try and end up being extremely embarassed. I also have a hard time saying my last name "Allen". Which also tends to lead to some embarassing situations.. Though I usually find myself avoiding those situations at all costs.

I think, through avoiding these types of situations I am extremely limited in what i can acheive.

I am extremely fortunate int he fact that i have alot of very close friends, and a great family who are there to support me, but I still feel like things are unfair all of the time. I get so afraid to talk that it is even effecting my college. And I really think if I could get over this fear of speaking I could improve my life so much. As is I feel like im heading towards a life I definately dont want to lead. i want to be successful...

Id appreciate anyone to talk to about this, or just some words of advice.

thanks,
Tyler

[Sasha]

Hey Tyler, Im Robert and I feel your pain. I know what it feels like to feel ashamed, scared, really really nervous heart beating miles an hour, Ive been there, Ive experienced that, and I really dont' know what to say except you can't let this as you say, "disability" control you. Do you really think of yourself having a "disability"? I would be really interested in hearing what you mean by that, and I would also like to hear how are some of the ways that you cope when your faced in a situation like so much of us are.

Im 27 so im not too much older than you, Ive been to high school and right now im in college. Anyway if you wanna talk more, anytime, I love to talk and I love to give advice as well as recieve it.

Try believing in yourself a little bit more each day, even if you stutter, when you tell yourself you can't do it, start believing that you can and stop believing the negative. This is so easy to say, and believe me when i stutter i make loud noises and such, it helps when i confront my stutter, breaking the ice to classmates and saying "hey everybody, just wanna let you know that from now on when you hear me talk, sometimes I might stutter because thats what I do"....I promise you when you let go of some of that negatiovity and anxiety and beleive that you can talk, because Im sure you have days when you might talk a little bit better than usual, you may see a difference... Lemme know how it goes, and try it....

Just like you, everyday is a day at work (talking) for me.

[Standingtall]

Welcome Tyler Allen, good to meet you. It sounds like you already have a great support system, with your friends and family. Use that positive influence in your life and feel good about it. Many people don't have that kind of support. Now you have us on this forum, so you can do anything you want. We will support you. Looking forward in hearing more from you.