Is there a difference between making and recieving calls

[Perad]

I find that when i use the phone i am about 75% clear when i recieve a phone call. Yet when i make one i am probably at my worse.

Also with the people i phone as well, i can stutter pretty badly when i ask my gf step dad to put her on the phone yet when she gets on the phone i am fine

While i feel that the second part is down to who i am confortable talking to i think the first is about overthinking what i plan to say or not having to lead the conversation, do you guys have the same thing or the opposite and what do you think about it?

[sloth]

I'm usually have equal difficultly on receiving and making calls. I've actually tried for most of my life to avoid using the phone as much as possible because i'm worse on the phone then i am anywhere else. There's only a few people that i feel completely comfortable talking on the phone with.

[Asif]

It is very common to have more difficulty when the choice of answers is limited.
When you initiate a conversation, you can say what you want, and therefore are much more prepared for the effort involved in saying it. You can choose your words carefully.
Making statements is always easier than answering a question.
When you must say what your name is, where you live, your age, etc., you have no choice in your answer and that can make it much harder to say.
Asif.

[purpleocean]

i am fine making calls but find it nearly impossible to say hello recieving calls! Once i manage to say hello or 'good morning(even if its the afternoon) i can speak fluently after that. if i could just say the word hello fine i would be able 10 times more fluent!

[lrrdred]

Oh god I was just thinking about this earlier! I remember I used to hate recieving calls because I could never say "Hello" with stuttering over it and it used to bug me so much. Nowadays I feel just like the topic creator; whenever I receive calls I feel I'm a bit more fluent. Mebbe I think it's some sort of subconcsious process in my head that goes like 'hey this person knows me, knows i stutter, and still wants to talk to me, therefore they must not be bothered by it' and I'm more comfortable with talking to someone who calls me. The only times I get nervous when I call somebody is when its business-related, or when it's a pretty girl that I'm trying to get to know. =(

[emily445455]

I find that when i use the phone i am about 75% clear when i recieve a phone call. Yet when i make one i am probably at my worse.


Usually, I physce myself out when I have to make a phone call. Whereas when someone calls me, I have little time to react aside from just picking up the phone.

Sometimes I get freaked out when certain people call me.....namely my grandma!!!!!! :(

[TK421]

Pared, I'm actually the opposite. I almost never answer my phone. I purposely let it go to voice mail, then return their call just a few minutes later. This also gives me the opportunity to put myself in a comfortable environment to conduct the call. I can't stand it when my phone rings and I'm forced to answer in the middle of a big room of people.

However when I am expecting a call and MUST answer it (i.e. the delivery guy is downstairs or something), I have found a technique that works very well for me. I have problems with words starting with H, and fortunately the work Hello does not exactly rely so much on the H portion. Saying "Ello?" comes across the same way over the phone, and it is much easier for me to say.

[Eric7810]

I used to have a tough time with "Hello" but I learned to roll into the word well.

Receiving a call is easier b/c you dont have the time spent psyching yourself out before you make the call. I think way too much before I call someone about what I'm going to say, how I will say it, and the words involved. It really screws me up

[Dinasaur]

i definitely psych myself out when i have to make a call..because im worried about what i'll say...and how much im gonna stutter over things.
i only call people if i need to make plans/or its really urgent/ and only to people that i know fairly well.
hello's always been pretty easy for me to say actually, i prefer answering calls because the other person asks you a question, and they WANT an answer, so basically they HAVE to listen to you, no matter how much to stutter.
the only thing that gets me really paranoid about stuttering over the phone is that im really afraid that since the people dont SEE me stutter (i block a lot), they wont know im stuck on a word and think i just stopped talking and then start talking about something else or saying "you there?" when you're in the middle of a word.

[fighter]

Phone is am big punishment or curse for us. Once a day, i couldn't utter the specific word. My stuttering style is different. Suppose, generally TIFFIN is not a problematic word, but when i know i have to say towards anyone i stutter on it. So, over the phon, when i know, i have to say this, i get worse anything else go good.

[grantM]

Making calls for me is harder because it is a more aggressive and proactive action I guess. Taking calls is easier for me but it is a more passive action.

[Rigel]

Making calls for me is harder because it is a more aggressive and proactive action I guess. Taking calls is easier for me but it is a more passive action.

Absolutly true, I'm the same way. When I receive calls I stutter much less than when I make a phone call. I think that perhaps it is because when I call someone I have to take the initiative, to explain who I am and what is the problem. I also feel like I'm intruding or imposing myself upon another person and that makes me anxious. When I receive a phone call is the opposite. People call because they need something from me and with that I dont have a problem. Yes, I know it seems strange :)

[DKoz]

I think it's common to be more successful receiving calls then to make them. I have always had problems saying my name without stuttering and whenever I make a call I usually have to introduce myself and ask to speak to so and so. Sometimes I may get lucky with call display.

[whoiscece]

I have an easier time receiving phones calls, because I know that the person calling (usually) knows who they are calling. I don't have to identify myself. My phone rings, I say "hello" and they say "Cece?" and I say "yeah." At work I can even answer the phone, even saying "this is cece" even tho usually I stutter on my name. I think because it is mid-sentence.

When I make calls, I am a disaster, unless I know the person I am calling has caller ID. When calling from work, I just say the name of my business, and don't mention my own name at all.