replacing "words"

[thedanshow35]

By skipping or replacing the words that every individual stutter has trouble saying, is that like running away from our fears. Is it just making things worst, because people always told me not to run away from my fear(s).

So, just wondering everybody else's opinion about replacing some hard words.

[nate]

By skipping or replacing the words that every individual stutter has trouble saying, is that like running away from our fears. Is it just making things worst, because people always told me not to run away from my fear(s).

So, just wondering everybody else's opinion about replacing some hard words.

Last night I replaced the word get with have. I tried to say get but when I failed I changed to have. I wasnt afaid I just couldnt get it out. Have wasnt much better but at least it came out. I replace words because it's easier not coz I'm frightened I dont think.
Nate

[happy7117]

If it is easier to say something better than something else, go for it.

Much better to say something you can say than something you cannot say.

I have always wondered whi I love reading the dictionary, but reading the first post I think I now know why::

It's too find words that I can say to replace words I get stuck on!!:o :)

[Perad]

By skipping or replacing the words that every individual stutter has trouble saying, is that like running away from our fears. Is it just making things worst, because people always told me not to run away from my fear(s).

So, just wondering everybody else's opinion about replacing some hard words.

What you are doing is making yourself harder to understand. The more words that are replaced, the more the meaning is lost. This is the fact of it.

I strongly suggest using van ripers prolongation/cancellation as opposed to word swapping.

What does this mean..

Prolongation.
You look neerrrrrice

By slightly prolonging the first sound of the word you can avoid the stutter. Furthermore nobody really notices the slow first syllable.

Cancellation
You look n-n-n-nice *pause* nice

Basically you stutter on a word, pause, relax your articulators and then say the word again calmly. This has two benefits. Firstly the person will be able to fully understand the word you said. Secondly you avoid a tumbling stammer where the stress builds up and you just stutter on several words in a row.


Both methods require some practice and patience to get right but these provide a far better solution than changing your words

[klbrooks]

Go to my blog at www.madstutter.com for some answers.

KB

[bwelling]

By skipping or replacing the words that every individual stutter has trouble saying, is that like running away from our fears. Is it just making things worst, because people always told me not to run away from my fear(s).

So, just wondering everybody else's opinion about replacing some hard words.

the danshow - it's called covert stuttering. It's a slow death for confidence.

bw

[Standingtall]

There is no shame in running away to fight another day. :D

If you do too much and you do lose your meaning what you are saying and if the people you are talking to are listening. They may ask you WTF, kind of question. Today it may help you, but please don't make a habit of it for tomorrow. I still do it the odd time, and sneak it another word, but i do stick to the orginal word i am having a silent block on. I just back up and take a breath, relax and it usually comes out. I am so quick at it, people don't really notice they think i am picking my words carefully.

[andyr78]

I would assume it also depends on the language you speak. I know in English there are probably more words that you can change than in most languages.

Anyhow, I do this on a pretty regular basis. If I can think of a easier word for myself to say and it comes out easier and more fluent. Then I am all for changing the word that I am stuck on.

[hafidmetal]

Last night I replaced the word get with have. I tried to say get but when I failed I changed to have. I wasnt afaid I just couldnt get it out. Have wasnt much better but at least it came out. I replace words because it's easier not coz I'm frightened I dont think.
Nate
hhahaha u got problems with get and i have problems with have..i alwye replace have with get..i find it hard to say H..this silent block is my major concern:)..I LOVE TO USE GET LOL

[DKoz]

As stutters we must have amazing vocabularies lol.

[divisi]

IMHO, learning to avoid replacing words isn't the main stage in stuttering therapy. In fact, when I'm fluent, I don't need to replace words, so if I do a therapy that helps me improve my fluency, there's no need to worry about replacing words, because it will go away without you noticing it. I agree that replacing words can lower your confidence level, but I still believe it's not an issue to worry much about. When you're fluent, it goes away.

[Foxglove]

I do this all the time. Like Standingtall says: running away to fight another day :D
I usually do this with words beginning with "g", "s" or "c" so I have a pretty decent range of synonyms for words starting with those letters or sounds.

[emily445455]

I used to replace words like crazy...and sometimes the words I used to replace "trouble" words didn't make much sense. I still replace sometimes, but I am making an effort to just say what I want to say, regardless to how I say it. :)

[fifi]

Last night I replaced the word get with have. I tried to say get but when I failed I changed to have. I wasnt afaid I just couldnt get it out. Have wasnt much better but at least it came out. I replace words because it's easier not coz I'm frightened I dont think.
Nate



I totally agree i do the samething all the time and its not because i am scared I just cant say it so i use another word but i must same at times it does get old but it must be done.

[fifi]

If it is easier to say something better than something else, go for it.

Much better to say something you can say than something you cannot say.

I have always wondered whi I love reading the dictionary, but reading the first post I think I now know why::

It's too find words that I can say to replace words I get stuck on!!:o :)



that great lol

[JCarver]

April 3, 2008

Fellow Stutterers,
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[SharkAl]

All my life I have avoided words if I cant say them. It has got me by but hasn't helped because the problem is still there. Maybe if I had faced the words face on they would have become easier.

[nate]

All my life I have avoided words if I cant say them. It has got me by but hasn't helped because the problem is still there. Maybe if I had faced the words face on they would have become easier.

Now this I might agree with.
But I dont know yet. Let I ruminate
Nate
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[Daniel]

I replace words all the time, it's how i get by without 95% of the time showing any signs of stuttering.

If i can't replace the words, then I'll change my answer or question to suite. I can remember one instance and it's happened many times. I was in a restaurant choosing from the menu, of cause i picked something i could say rather than what i wanted :D It's always great when you sit next to someone that orders what you want "I'll have the same thanks".

[bolo]

I replace words all the time, it's how i get by without 95% of the time showing any signs of stuttering.

If i can't replace the words, then I'll change my answer or question to suite. I can remember one instance and it's happened many times. I was in a restaurant choosing from the menu, of cause i picked something i could say rather than what i wanted :D It's always great when you sit next to someone that orders what you want "I'll have the same thanks".

Continuing this theme, Do you ever get into the situation where you hit a block,.. but rather struggle to get the word out or replace it with another word you just stop dead and pretend thats all you had to say ? Thats something I've done a fair bit in the past which can cause peculiar situations..

I cant help but laugh when I look back to a time when I was trying to get contract work (computer programmer), so I was on the evil telephone to a recruitment agent, telling him what i'd been doing. What I was intending on saying was that I'd finished one job working with such and such a tool and had spent a couple of months doing hardcore visual basic. Meaning i'd been basically studying new skills really hard..

What I actually ended up saying was that I'd spent a couple of months doing hardcore. I felt a block coming on with the word Visual, tried to mask it by keeping quiet.. "Hardcore ??" he said.. "Yes.." I answered..

Then we quickly finished the phone interview....

I never did get work from that agency.. :o

[nate]

I cant help but laugh when I look back to a time when I was trying to get contract work (computer programmer), so I was on the evil telephone to a recruitment agent, telling him what i'd been doing. What I was intending on saying was that I'd finished one job working with such and such a tool and had spent a couple of months doing hardcore visual basic. Meaning i'd been basically studying new skills really hard..

What I actually ended up saying was that I'd spent a couple of months doing hardcore. I felt a block coming on with the word Visual, tried to mask it by keeping quiet.. "Hardcore ??" he said.. "Yes.." I answered..

Then we quickly finished the phone interview....

I never did get work from that agency.. :o

Yo!
Too funny:D

But I avoid blocks like the plague too. Nowadays tho I dont seem to have too many, infact I hardly ever block anymore.
Hmmm!
Still stutter though, on every bloody word!

Nate
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