Tired of complaining and whining about my life

[Kunbo]

Seriously, I find that I spend a majority of my time thinking negative thoughts about myself and caring what others think of me. Some assume that I'm shy or antisocial, but why should I let their comments effect me? I'm tried of focusing on stuttering and all the negative attention it brings to my life. If I don't change now, I know I'm going to be alone forever and hating the world for my disability to speak normally.

Now that I finished ranting, I'm seriously not going to complain about my stuttering again. I'm going to find some way to fix it even if it means I have to tell people, which I would never do in my life, that I stutter.

Anyway, with me still rambling, what are you going to do to not let stuttering effect your life?

[btomcik]

I just get to a point where I'm tired of thinking of my speech and worrying about it, and tired of being afraid and scared. I just get sick of it and have had enough to the point where I just say WTF and just do what I should have done in the first place, like make the phone call or talk to someone or whatever.

Usually after that I get some relief and some success with my speech and then the positives build on themselves. I'll have a bad situation but it's how I get back up and move forward again with more success and positives that counts.

You just have to get to a point and say to yourself that stuttering is not you, it does not define you, it is only a very small part of who you are. Once you accept that and concentrate on the rest of you, you'll see stuttering losing its "control" on you. Then you got only one way to go and that's up!

[Geoff]

I think the key is to not think about it too much, and avoid delaying or putting things off and just doing it. Like if I need to make a phone call sometimes I would say to myself 'I'm stuttering quite bad today, maybe I'll call tomorrow instead.' Then tomorrow comes and I'm no different. So now I just make the phone call without thinking about it. If I stutter, I stutter.. who cares. The person on the other end of the phone won't think twice about it after a few minutes and you'll of got the job done.

By doing this the stutter isn't really stopping us doing things in life. It's when you avoid doing something when it becomes a problem. But I have to admit it is hard to stay in a positive mindset day in, day out trying to ignore the stutter. I still avoid doing some things, I think we all do.

[nate]

I have too much to do to worry about that anymore...Seriously.

[hafidmetal]

i feel the same way..i spent a lot of time...years and years whining and complaing then i realize that people...esp gurls dont like whining men....and its a sign of weakness...so why shall i wast more of my time thinking and whining about this stuttering..stuttering is not me and im not gonna think about it anymore..i just dont give a crap about wht people will say or so whtever