Stuttering is scary.

[happy7117]

Stuttering is seriously scary. It's scary knowing we cannot say what we wish anytime in a world that's so fluently eloquent!

Communication and talking is how we relate to the world around us. And if we can't talk right, or can't talk at all a.k.a muteness, it is indeed frightening.

While the world goes on, us stutterers seem to be locked in a world of verbal misunderstandings.

I don't know what the point of this post is, but I was just thinking about how good fluent people have it.

Non-stutters should be gratefull they don't stutter.

Stuttering in my opinion is the worst condition I think.

Being blind or deaf there is an understanding and awareness of those situations.

Stuttering is alot less known, so others tend to look at it as stupid, or strange.

My mother broke her leg 3 yrs ago by falling down a manhole.

She was layed up in the hospital for a while to recover.

It's 3 yrs. since then, and her leg is back to normal. She only uses a walking cane.

Now with stuttering, it's not just falling down and recovering after a time.

It's a fall down and stay down situation. The pain of stuttering is there and never goes away.

If I could talk regular I would do anything like any other stutterer.

Stuttering is NOT NORMAL.

[BenLZ]

It is, it is, I think all stutterers should be on some form of anti-depressants. I just started taking creatine and what it does is boost your energy, and this has actually helped a lot so far (though I only just started). It feels good to be so distanced (not that creatine does this, but it makes you feel very energized) from reality. Happy, you of all people need a break from reality.

[happy7117]

Happy, you of all people need a break from reality.

More like, a break from stuttering.

You mean, take drugs, or smoke weed, or do some harmfull drug??

I don't want to take any harmfull drug to escape my stuttering.

But then again, I never tried any harmfull drugs to escape my stuttering.

[BenLZ]

More like, a break from stuttering.

You mean, take drugs, or smoke weed, or do some harmfull drug??

I don't want to take any harmfull drug to escape my stuttering.

But then again, I never tried any harmfull drugs to escape my stuttering.

1) Not weed. I don't smoke weed. I'm not a druggie.

2) Creatine is not harmful. No negative side effects have been proven. I take it before I work out though...

And its just advice, take it or leave it.

[omarious]

i find it really amazing that you guys dont do drugs or never have in the past. I feel so shitty some times all i want to do is get ed up and forget. its during those times when i feel normal and forget who i really am. does that sound depressing or what... i only hope i dont become overly dependant. but i have quit weed, and cigs, drinking only on weekends now...

[Mullen]

i find it really amazing that you guys dont do drugs or never have in the past. I feel so shitty some times all i want to do is get ed up and forget. its during those times when i feel normal and forget who i really am. does that sound depressing or what... i only hope i dont become overly dependant. but i have quit weed, and cigs, drinking only on weekends now...

The only sort of drugs I have a fondness for are pain killers like Vicodine and Percocet. But they're too hard to get, so I do without. Alcohol messes up my internal time clock too much: I'm tempted to get drunk every now and then, but a little reflection is enough to stop me from doing so.

I'm so clean that I sometimes consider it a fault of mine.

[happy7117]

1) Not weed. I don't smoke weed. I'm not a druggie.

2) Creatine is not harmful. No negative side effects have been proven. I take it before I work out though...

And its just advice, take it or leave it.

1. I'm no druggie either!

2. Not bad advice either. Something to consider. Craotine?? Where can it be found.

My brother takes that stuff as part of his exercise/weight lifting regime.

What could it do for stuttering which I have yet to know??

[BenLZ]

Doesn't effect it really, but it makes you feel energized...it's kind of a distraction.

[emily445455]

Stuttering in my opinion is the worst condition I think.

IDK, I'd much rather stutter than have Alzhiemers, MS, CP, Parkinsons...etc etc. There are conditions much scarier IMO.

[sst]

I wouldn't recommend creatine unless you are a weight lifter. :p Just think about Cartman from South Park, when he took the "Weight Gain 4000". Beef cake, beef cake!

Yes I agree with Omarious, sometimes getting ed up is the only way to relieve the daily burden we as stutterers face. It doesn't mean you are a "druggie". I'm a pothead, and I don't consider being called a "druggie" to be a bad thing. I wear it as a badge of honor. :D But a little stress relief now and then isn't something to be afraid of or ashamed of.

If I never started smoking weed I never would have had the opportunity to reflect on life, and what it means to me. It saved me from my deep depression. I am a totally different person now than I was, say, 3 years ago.

I lost almost 200 pounds since then, just because I really wanted to improve my self image. It took a lot of work but I'm a completely different person. It has changed the way I look at my stuttering.

Where was I going with this? Oh yeah, stuttering is as scary as you want it to be. All of us are scared of it. Sometimes you have to kick fear's ass and not let it hold you back. Hell I'm scared of my stutter right now!

Edit: I agree with you Emily. My friend's sister is mentally disabled (with I think Cerebral Palsy). I wouldn't want that kind of life. I'm a normal guy with a not-so-normal disability. But her disability is in a league of it's own. She is a happy person and doesn't let anything get her down. We should look at the people that have it much worse than we do, and use it as a way to not let us feel sorry for ourselves.

[happy7117]

to not let us feel sorry for ourselves.

If were not supposed to feel sorry for ourselves because we stutter, ho are we supposed to feel?

Happy and glad we cannot talk properly?? Sounds sort of twisted to feel that way.

[sst]

If were not supposed to feel sorry for ourselves because we stutter, ho are we supposed to feel?

Happy and glad we cannot talk properly?? Sounds sort of twisted to feel that way.

Why would anyone be happy and glad they cannot talk properly? Stuttering is terrible burden, I hate it. I wish I never stuttered. Things aren't black and white in this world, it's all gray. Jumping to conclusions doesn't solve our problems.

But, why should we always feel sorry for ourselves? What is this going to accomplish? Since I was a kid I've been told not to feel sorry for myself. I'm sure many other people have the same experiences. You make yourself feel worse by feeling sorry for yourself. It just enhances the problem, it doesn't make it better.

Happy, I think your life would be so much better off if you focus on all the good things you have done, instead of focusing on stuttering as this thing which consumes you. It won't make you a better person by dwelling on the negatives of stuttering. It sounds like you are surrounded by negativity, it is not a healthy way to live. I'm not sure how long you have had this view about your stuttering, but thinking like that leads to nervous breakdowns.

I'm 23, I never thought I've be giving out advice to anyone. I didn't think anyone would need it. :o

[emily445455]

I for one am thankful it is not something really, really, really serious. Sure stuttering affects my daily life...but I am thankful I am not affected by a wheelchair, or mental retardation, or being confined to a hospital bed...

[emily445455]

Or what my grandpa goes through everyday....waking up and not knowing where he is, who the woman lieing next to him is, or even who he is! :(:(:(:(

[sst]

Or what my grandpa goes through everyday....waking up and not knowing where he is, who the woman lieing next to him is, or even who he is! :(:(:(

That is heartbreaking! I know exactly what your talking about. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease. I hope soon there will be a cure. :(

[emily445455]

I don't know much about cord blood...but if it would help my Gpa (who has Alzhiemers) or my Uncle (who has MS) at all, I'm donating my babies's cords.

[sst]

I don't know much about cord blood...but if it would help my Gpa (who has Alzhiemers) or my Uncle (who has MS) at all, I'm donating my babies's cords.

Oh yeah, stem cells can be used from umbilical cords of babies, it's not quite as good as other forms but it's still a great method of getting the cells. You're a great person, Emily! :cool:

[happy7117]

Stuttering is terrible burden, I hate it. I wish I never stuttered.

I feel the same way. But isn't that feeling sorry for ourselves??

You make yourself feel worse by feeling sorry for yourself. It just enhances the problem, it doesn't make it better..

Extreme stuttering is the cause for me feeling sorry for myself. It is wrong to be gratefull for not being able to "spit it out".

It sounds like you are surrounded by negativity,

Only one source of negativity that surrounds me. Can you guess? And if you would like my help in knowing what my biggest negativity is (because I gratefully accept help from others with my speech), I will tell you?

I'm not sure how long you have had this view about your stuttering, but thinking like that leads to nervous breakdowns,

I'm past nervous breakdowns. Never had one. I don't need a nervous breakdown because stuttering IS my nervous breakdown.;)

I'm 23, I never thought I've be giving out advice to anyone. I didn't think anyone would need it. :o

"Advice is free. To make use of it costs." I need to give credit to the source that quote is from because it's not mine. It's from the Book Shop Owner in King's Quest 6.

[happy7117]

. I hope soon there will be a cure. :(

Same goes for us stutterers. It baffles me why there is no cure. Stuttering has been around too darn long to not have a cure.

People say there is no cure for stuttering. Is that true?? Or are those doctors not interested in stuttering enough to find one???

And reasons for stuttering? People say there is no reason. Is it that doctors do not give a hoot in finding some answers for us??

[emily445455]

There are lots of diseases that have been around for a long time yet have no cure.

[JDRow]

I also agree with Emily: there are a lot of people who have it a lot worse. There are a lot of conditions that I hope I never come down with, and I'd be very, very happy to stutter instead.

Stuttering is kind of scary, but recently it occurred to me that it's not as scary as I've made it out to be. I mean, it's not like anything new and really awful is going to happen. If I stutter really badly around somebody and they're a jerk about it, what are they going to do? Laugh? Imitate me? Walk away? Say something rude? I've already had people do those things, many times, and it sucked at the moment, but then I was fine. And next time it happens I'll be fine, too.

I'm just starting to realize that there's no reason to be so scared of what other people might say or do. If I managed to get through junior high and high school, when I was miserable and had no friends and was surrounded by assholes, what can anybody say to me now, when I'm an adult and am engaged to an amazing person and have friends and am happy, that would be that bad? Nothing. Any crappy thing somebody might say or do I'm sure I've already heard and dealt with, and so it's not anything I need to worry about.

I sound much more convinced of this writing it out than I really feel about it, but I do think it's right. Nothing is going to happen that you haven't handled before, so there's nothing to be that scared of.

[sst]

Same goes for us stutterers. It baffles me why there is no cure. Stuttering has been around too darn long to not have a cure.

People say there is no cure for stuttering. Is that true?? Or are those doctors not interested in stuttering enough to find one???

And reasons for stuttering? People say there is no reason. Is it that doctors do not give a hoot in finding some answers for us??

Stuttering isn't the same as Alzheimer's, Cerebral Palsy, AIDS, or cancer. It's a neurological disorder as far as I know, with no known cause and no cure.

I'd love to find a cure for stuttering, I'd love to take a magic pill and be done with it. But I'd rather have scientists focus on lethal diseases than something like stuttering. I would feel too selfish to think otherwise. People die everyday for something that we can probably cure if we just focus on it.

Causes? Lots of things could have triggered it. I had a ed up childhood. That could have caused it. Nobody will probably know what causes most kinds of stuttering.

[JDRow]

Causes? Lots of things could have triggered it. I had a ed up childhood. That could have caused it.

I don't think a bad childhood could cause stuttering. I had a pretty crappy childhood, but my siblings were raised in the same house, and none of them stutter. I don't doubt it might have made it worse, but I think there must have been some other reason why I started stuttering.

[Bill Hargis]

Same goes for us stutterers. It baffles me why there is no cure. Stuttering has been around too darn long to not have a cure.

People say there is no cure for stuttering. Is that true?? Or are those doctors not interested in stuttering enough to find one???

And reasons for stuttering? People say there is no reason. Is it that doctors do not give a hoot in finding some answers for us??there has been very little medical research done on stuttering because no one considers it a disease or handicap and it is. Most people just consider it a source of amut. Most insurance companies don't recognize it either. It will take legislation, I continue to write my congressman and senators. If you all would join me, let them know we vote. They spend millions trying to find a cure for baldness, none for stuttering.

[sst]

I don't think a bad childhood could cause stuttering. I had a pretty crappy childhood, but my siblings were raised in the same house, and none of them stutter. I don't doubt it might have made it worse, but I think there must have been some other reason why I started stuttering.

Yeah, you are right. I didn't have a bad childhood when I was very young, and I've stuttered since as far as I can remember. Most of the bad things happened after I started to stutter. I think it's probably just something we're born with.

[JDRow]

Yeah, you are right. I didn't have a bad childhood when I was very young, and I've stuttered since as far as I can remember. Most of the bad things happened after I started to stutter. I think it's probably just something we're born with.

Yeah, it's hard since we don't really know. It seems like some people want to think that stuttering is all because of how they were raised or how they think, and some people want to think it's all because of their brain chemistry. I don't know. I tend to want to think that things that happened in my life have nothing to do with it, but that's probably not the case. I was punished for stuttering when I was growing up and I'm sure that screwed me up and made it a lot worse.

But it sort of gets at the stuttering being scary thing, which is that it's scary I think because a lot of awful things have happened because we've stuttered, but in some ways that should make it less scary now, because it's not like anybody is going to do something we haven't already dealt with. I've just been trying to look at it from the perspective that I've already dealt with people being really shitty to me because of my stutter, I got through and I'm fine, and there's really nothing new that could happen that I should be scared about.

[sst]

Yeah, it's hard since we don't really know. It seems like some people want to think that stuttering is all because of how they were raised or how they think, and some people want to think it's all because of their brain chemistry. I don't know. I tend to want to think that things that happened in my life have nothing to do with it, but that's probably not the case. I was punished for stuttering when I was growing up and I'm sure that screwed me up and made it a lot worse.

But it sort of gets at the stuttering being scary thing, which is that it's scary I think because a lot of awful things have happened because we've stuttered, but in some ways that should make it less scary now, because it's not like anybody is going to do something we haven't already dealt with. I've just been trying to look at it from the perspective that I've already dealt with people being really shitty to me because of my stutter, I got through and I'm fine, and there's really nothing new that could happen that I should be scared about.

JD, you are so right!

We've all dealt with terrible things because of our stuttering. Being teased, harassed, and even worse things than that. I think it's still scary for a lot of us because even though we're used to dealing with bad situations, we don't want to go through them again. But perhaps we all have to, to grow as people. We have to make those bad experiences toughen us and not let it get us down in the future. But it is easier said than done, for me at least! I'm a 23 year old guy but sometimes I'm more scared than a kid. :rolleyes: Edit: I just realized you're 23, too! How strange hehe.

I was also punished for stuttering when I was growing up. Specifically my mom, who has issues and usually didn't have the patience to sit and listen to me stutter my head off. So because of that, I'm a very apologetic person and I worry a lot. :o

[happy7117]

Stuttering isn't the same as Alzheimer's, Cerebral Palsy, AIDS, or cancer. It's a neurological disorder as far as I know, with no known cause and no cure.

I'd love to find a cure for stuttering, I'd love to take a magic pill and be done with it. But I'd rather have scientists focus on lethal diseases than something like stuttering. I would feel too selfish to think otherwise. People die everyday for something that we can probably cure if we just focus on it.

Causes? Lots of things could have triggered it. I had a ed up childhood. That could have caused it. Nobody will probably know what causes most kinds of stuttering.

If there was a way to cure others of their own problems as well as our own stuttering, I bet we would feel much less selfish.;)

[troutbum]

There are lots of diseases that have been around for a long time yet have no cure.

exactly emily. my father died from Parkinsons 4 years ago......no cure

[troutbum]

my father died from Parkinsons 4 years ago.....no cure