Reaching our Potential??

[omarious]

hey everyone, the past few months have been pretty tough on me. My stuttering has gotten worse. the worse its ever been actually. I am currently working at a landscape company and have future plans to move out west and get a "real" job. by real i just mean in an office or something. I have just finished university with a finance degree, CSC creditation and CFA level 1. Therefore, i should be able to get a decent job under normal circumstances.

But recently, i have come to face a reality that i believe will be true for the rest of my life. I think, no matter what i do, how hard i try, i NEVER LIVE UP TO MY POTENTIAL. either because i will shy away from opportunities or not get deserved promotions because of my stutter. i feel that the best i can hope for is like 60-70% of my potential.

because of this i have been thinking more and more of just doing landscaping or other areas instead of following in my finance education.

does anyone else have these thoughts??or if you are older and in an established career, is this true??

just had to put this out as it has been on my mind a lot recently.

[Mullen]

I am currently working at a landscape company and have future plans to move out west and get a "real" job. by real i just mean in an office or something.

I worked in an office for three years: it was hell, like being a caged animal, a caged animal crunching numbers.

[Stevelaz]

Omarious,

I am in the finance industry and I have a stutter. I took as many exams (CSC/IMT/PMT/CIM/TAC/FCSI etc) as I felt I needed more than the average fluent person when getting work, but it all boils down to being good at what you do.............you are obviously smart as CFA is a buggar of a course and with a good firm you will be fine.

I was a management consultant for 8yrs (with a stammer) - be confident and you will be fine.

In fact, in some sick and twisted way, the stammer made me work harder and achieve more as I felt I needed to because of my stutter.

I'd rather not stammer, however I have a good handle on it now thanks to hard work on the Mcguire programme....it's not a cure, its bloody hard work, but its better than being an out of control stammerer.

Stick with it and you will be fine.

I 'disclosed' my stammer to my boss (as if he didn't notice anyways !!!) but the tension went away straight away and it made life easier.

I've worked in offices all my life - you meet the odd idiot, but on the whole people dont care about it as much as you think

Good luck

[omarious]

Omarious,

I am in the finance industry and I have a stutter. I took as many exams (CSC/IMT/PMT/CIM/TAC/FCSI etc)

what are some of those and what areas do they concentrate on?? which ones do you recommend?? i could look it up, but.....

[Stevelaz]

Omarious,

The point is not about exams taken or courses done, its all about how you see yourself.

I went through years of seeing myself as a "stutterer" and that was what defined me, now I am more of the opinion that I am a normal regular person who happens to stutter at times.

We always concentrate on when we were bad rather than celebrate the times when we were fluent (good).

Concerning the courses, it depends on what part of finance you want to be in, if you want to be a research analyst or a portfolio manager, stick with the CFA, its what employers want.

If you are going down the "retail" route, IA, advisor etc look at the Canadian Securities Institute (CSI) - assuming you are in canada.

Cheers

[Standingtall]

But recently, i have come to face a reality that i believe will be true for the rest of my life. I think, no matter what i do, how hard i try, i NEVER LIVE UP TO MY POTENTIAL. either because i will shy away from opportunities or not get deserved promotions because of my stutter. i feel that the best i can hope for is like 60-70% of my potential.

Hate to say this my friend, but ur a normal person to think this way. many NON-PWS have not even touch their full potential. I have been in my career now for 20 yrs and yet i still feel i can do a lot more. My siblings pretty much grew up in the same home enviroment, but yet i am the most successful. Not bragging of course. :D I say use what u have said to motivate yourself, because u have not reach ur full potential, because u are going to find when u think u reached it. U will raise that bar scale. Good luck my friend.

[omarious]

Hate to say this my friend, but ur a normal person to think this way. many NON-PWS have not even touch their full potential. I have been in my career now for 20 yrs and yet i still feel i can do a lot more. My siblings pretty much grew up in the same home enviroment, but yet i am the most successful. Not bragging of course. :D I say use what u have said to motivate yourself, because u have not reach ur full potential, because u are going to find when u think u reached it. U will raise that bar scale. Good luck my friend.

i know a lot of people dont live up to their standards, but im just saying, i feel i wont come close. Whenever i try to explain anything to anybody, i always come off sounds stupid, and that i dont know what i am talking about. But in my head, i had the perfect response.

I guess im just getting frustrated by not being able to say what i want to say, and always coming off sounding a lot stupider that i should. (stupider...ha, bet that made me sound stupider!!)

[Standingtall]

i know a lot of people dont live up to their standards, but im just saying, i feel i wont come close. Whenever i try to explain anything to anybody, i always come off sounds stupid, and that i dont know what i am talking about. But in my head, i had the perfect response.

I guess im just getting frustrated by not being able to say what i want to say, and always coming off sounding a lot stupider that i should. (stupider...ha, bet that made me sound stupider!!)
i understand what u are thinking. I have this great speech in my head and when the time comes to give that presentation, i am no way close to what is in my head. Even when i use cue cards to keep me on track. Once i start talking, and on a subject, i think i need to explain further and then i lose my train of though and i sound confusing trying to go back to the original idea i had. not very professional at all. LOL!!!

in regards to your potential, u will always raise ur potential to new hights once u reached it and u will start thinking u have not reached it yet. Look how far u have come so far. Don't stop and keep reaching my friend.

[omarious]

i know that i can always better myself. but as far as what i can do, i dont think ill do it. In the end, im probably going to ignore what i would love to do, and just do something that is easy for me to do and pays the bills. all i really want is a cabin in the woods and live off the land. i dont think i have the guts to put myself out there in order to do what i want. i will always be the little that everyone steps over. just the way it is.

[annalisa7]

I think about this all the time...

I was complaining about it just the other day. That it really doesn't matter what career I choose, I won't be able to get around or get out of talking.

And while, I can be resourceful at times, find ways around it or having someone else speak or me, it still really hurts because I WANT TO DO IT, but feel like I can't most of the time.

My business relies on getting out there and talking to people. There are many opportunities that I know go to less talented dancers than me, because I find it horribly difficult to put myself out there.

Luckily, I'm able to teach without many problems, but between talking on phone and visiting establishments to drum up business...lots of my chances are wasted due to inaction.