I dont want to be a mute for the rest of my life

[202]

I cant even say "thank you" I stutter the worst I've ever heard of, and Ive been trying for years to get a speech pathologist but it feels like the world is conspiring against me to prevent me from getting help(greedy ass insurance wont pay for local speech pathologists).I dont know what to do.This is no ing joke, this is serious.What am I going to do with myself? I need some ing help.I cant get a girlfriend because I cant/wont talk, hell, I dont even have any friends at all because I cant talk.What can I do?

[JDRow]

202, are you still in high school? Have you tried getting speech therapy through the school? If they don't have a good therapist for you, I'm pretty sure that the school district has to provide you with access to a therapist who actually knows something about stuttering. I'm not entirely sure, but I think that's how the law works. I can ask my girlfriend's dad about it later, because he knows how that stuff works.

[sst]

202, don't fret. I've been in the same situation as you. No friends, nobody to love, and all the rest of the bad shit that comes with stuttering.

If you're still in high school, as JD said, your school has to offer you help for your stuttering. I was in speech therapy for the first 8 years of school, then in high school I quit going because I hated my life.

I also don't have insurance, it's a pretty scary situation to be in. I mean, what if I get really sick? I'm pretty ed. I would rather get medication for stuttering than go back to a speech pathologist. I still have bad memories from doing it. :o

One thing I have to say is, things will get better. I promise they will. I used to weigh almost 380 pounds a few years ago. I lost almost 200 pounds since 2005. I know first hand what stuttering can do you to you. It s up your mind and makes you wallow in depression, and I ate to feel better. I just got sick of it, and I wanted to become a new person. So for once in my life, I followed through with an idea. After I improved myself, the friends and the person who I love came after.

[Box of Clocks]

One thing I have to say is, things will get better. I promise they will. I used to weigh almost 380 pounds a few years ago. I lost almost 200 pounds since 2005. I know first hand what stuttering can do you to you. It s up your mind and makes you wallow in depression, and I ate to feel better. I just got sick of it, and I wanted to become a new person. So for once in my life, I followed through with an idea. After I improved myself, the friends and the person who I love came after.


If you don't mind me asking what specifically did you do in order to make things better? I see that you mention that you lost a lot of weight so good on you for doing that but what other steps did you take in order to improve your situation?

[sst]

If you don't mind me asking what specifically did you do in order to make things better? I see that you mention that you lost a lot of weight so good on you for doing that but what other steps did you take in order to improve your situation?

Well, I moved to another state for about a year just get away from everything. It really helped, and I got to have another perspective on life. I learned that things aren't really so bad. I got my first job when I moved out of state, and I felt like I really accomplished something, and overcame my fears and anxiety. It was a great year, but nothing lasts and I had to move back home (I made some mistakes). But I'm forever changed by being out on my own.

202, if you are in high school, perhaps a change of setting might help you after you graduate. My stuttering drastically reduced when I got away from my family and situation where I live now. Maybe it won't work for you, but it might be worth it to try. It is easier said than done and does require money and planning, but it worked for me.

Of course, speech therapy is what you said you really wanted, so I would first focus on finding someone to get the help you want. Nothing is hopeless, just remember that! :)

[happy7117]

I cant even say "thank you" I stutter the worst I've ever heard of, and Ive been trying for years to get a speech pathologist but it feels like the world is conspiring against me to prevent me from getting help(greedy ass insurance wont pay for local speech pathologists).I dont know what to do.This is no ing joke, this is serious.What am I going to do with myself? I need some ing help.I cant get a girlfriend because I cant/wont talk, hell, I dont even have any friends at all because I cant talk.What can I do?

You, YOU 202 and I are on exactly the same page and wavelength. Finaly, another person who has another nightmarish sitaution of stuttering like me and I bet you are thouroghly pissed and fed up too to no end, aren't you??

I am living through a daily hell literaly with my own stuttering. Read my previous threads to hear my daily situations with inconsiderate listeners.

I have tried IN VAIN to get a device which I know will help me, I the numerous therapies I have already tried were the wrong therapies. In other words, if therapies were shoe sizes, they did not fit me:D

I have often considered going as a mute,or have felt that way as I can barely talk at all. Stuttering tremendously makes me feel like I am a mute, as the feeling of not being able to talk hardly at all makes me clammed up.

Girlfriend?? I know exactly how you feel. I am 30. I am still single. This is rhetorical(I am just questioning out loud), but why do you think I am still single?

Had I been adequetly fluent, and not afraid to talk with SOME stuttering, I would have a babe by now???

Every day, is a daily event with the stuttering battle.

[happy7117]

202, are you still in high school? Have you tried getting speech therapy through the school? If they don't have a good therapist for you, I'm pretty sure that the school district has to provide you with access to a therapist who actually knows something about stuttering. I'm not entirely sure, but I think that's how the law works. I can ask my girlfriend's dad about it later, because he knows how that stuff works.

I went through "therapy" through the school when I was in Junior High, High School, and Elementary. It did absolutlely diddley squat. Needless to say, I quit going after I realized what a waste of time it was.

It was a whole period of class time as well. Luckily the therapy was during a study hall, so I did not miss any important class lessons for any of my main subjects.

Since it was study hall though, I just quit the therapy B.S. by not showing up, and stayed in study hall as I should of anyway.

Real therapy, that is if you OR I can afford it, might not work at all. Not all therapy will help stutterers, as going through numerous therapies I found out.

Trial and error- we keep trying different things, and untill we find the right one, we keep trying our different options or therapies. The therapies that don't help, we quit, and try something else.

[sst]

Real therapy, that is if you OR I can afford it, might not work at all. Not all therapy will help stutterers, as going through numerous therapies I found out.

Couldn't the same thing be said about "stuttering devices"? ;)

Happy, going as a mute is not a choice we as stutterers should make. :p Only in our darkest moments should we consider it. It's important to deal with our situations and try to improve on them.

Many people have reported on therapies that do work. But you have to want to make it work for you. Perhaps you have a view that nothing can help you, and you gave up? Because, you and I did the exact same thing in high school. We both stopped going to our speech therapy session. For me, I was stubborn and didn't think I needed it. My life was shit and I didn't care. If I had the money and the confidence to go through all that again, like I did in school, I probably would. But right now, I can't and probably won't.