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Breadfish
12-05-2008, 08:58 PM
Hi, I'm a 20 year old mild stutterer from New Zealand.

I'm a mild stutterer and by that I mean, if I want to, I can have a fluency of almost 100percent but it involves only speaking at particular times. Usually when I sense that I'm gonig to stutter I just dont talk at all, and I might start speaking 2 or 3 seconds later when it's gone. Most of the time when I've begun a sentence I usually won't stutter. The thing with this is that most of the time I don't say what I want to say, ie, I may have wanted to say something during a period when I knew I was going to stutter but I opt not to, for fear of stuttering, and when the time has come that I know I can begin a sentence with full fluency, the moment to say what I wanted to say in the conversation has passed. When I make the effort to disregard this, and start speaking whenever I want to despite having the feeling that I'm in a period of time where if I try to start speaking I'll stutter, I stutter pretty violently.
So I can hide it pretty well. If I want to I can maintain pretty much 100percent fluency by choosing to speak only at certain times. This makes me seem a lot more quiet and reserved than I actually am, and it pretty much makes me sick. And, unsurprisingly I have huge amounts of anxiety from all of this avoidance. It involves hiding a huge portion of my actual personality; people usually perceive that I'm a perfectly fluent speaker, yet I'm utterly controlled by the stutter in what I say, and when I say it.

Recently I've been trying to change my mindset, and saying whatever I want whenever I feel like saying it, regardless of the stutter, for this is obviously the first step to overcoming it to some degree, and no longer being controlled by it. Because I could carry on living the way I'm living, and stuttering very little, but being only a shadow of the me I want to be.
Whenever I do stutter infront of a stranger, and carry on with the conversation like it's nothing at all to be concerned about, it is a HUGE RELIEF, though this has only come about recently. In previous years when I stuttered infront of a stranger, I'd pretty much just recede back into embarrased silence and try and pretend that it didn't actually happen.

Anyway, that's probably a pretty long introduction. I look forward to hearing some of your experiences, and sharing some of mine.
Btw if you're wondering about the name, type 'marvellous breadfish weebl' into google; it's pretty funny in an utterly pointless sort of way.

Breadfish
12-06-2008, 05:54 AM
woops, posted this twice.

emily445455
12-06-2008, 05:11 PM
Oh yay! You got activated!

That's probably why my other thread was deleted.

Glad you are here :)

Box of Clocks
12-07-2008, 11:13 AM
Hi and welcome to the stuttering forum. I am also someone who hides my stutter quite a lot which I suppose is not the best approach to take. You seem to be getting over this though so perhaps I should follow your positive example.

Blueberrypie
12-11-2008, 11:23 PM
Hi Breadfish, good to know that you're finally activate :)
I see you're also from Auckland so welcome!
I'm also a mild stutterer and I've been trying to adopt similar approaches and attitudes towards my speech as you are. Looking forward to share some ideas with you.

Blueberrypie
01-05-2009, 10:19 PM
Hi Breadfish, not sure when you will next come online but I was wondering if you would like to chat on sometime since I think we share alot of similar ideas toward stuttering :)

Breadfish
01-06-2009, 01:24 AM
Sure, I'll PM you my hotmail address. I don't really use that much though, so tell me a time that you'll be on, or something.

agantx
01-08-2009, 04:58 AM
Hi, I'm a 20 year old mild stutterer from New Zealand.

I'm a mild stutterer and by that I mean, if I want to, I can have a fluency of almost 100percent but it involves only speaking at particular times. Usually when I sense that I'm gonig to stutter I just dont talk at all, and I might start speaking 2 or 3 seconds later when it's gone. Most of the time when I've begun a sentence I usually won't stutter. The thing with this is that most of the time I don't say what I want to say, ie, I may have wanted to say something during a period when I knew I was going to stutter but I opt not to, for fear of stuttering, and when the time has come that I know I can begin a sentence with full fluency, the moment to say what I wanted to say in the conversation has passed. When I make the effort to disregard this, and start speaking whenever I want to despite having the feeling that I'm in a period of time where if I try to start speaking I'll stutter, I stutter pretty violently.
So I can hide it pretty well. If I want to I can maintain pretty much 100percent fluency by choosing to speak only at certain times. This makes me seem a lot more quiet and reserved than I actually am, and it pretty much makes me sick. And, unsurprisingly I have huge amounts of anxiety from all of this avoidance. It involves hiding a huge portion of my actual personality; people usually perceive that I'm a perfectly fluent speaker, yet I'm utterly controlled by the stutter in what I say, and when I say it.

Recently I've been trying to change my mindset, and saying whatever I want whenever I feel like saying it, regardless of the stutter, for this is obviously the first step to overcoming it to some degree, and no longer being controlled by it. Because I could carry on living the way I'm living, and stuttering very little, but being only a shadow of the me I want to be.
Whenever I do stutter infront of a stranger, and carry on with the conversation like it's nothing at all to be concerned about, it is a HUGE RELIEF, though this has only come about recently. In previous years when I stuttered infront of a stranger, I'd pretty much just recede back into embarrased silence and try and pretend that it didn't actually happen.

Anyway, that's probably a pretty long introduction. I look forward to hearing some of your experiences, and sharing some of mine.
Btw if you're wondering about the name, type 'marvellous breadfish weebl' into google; it's pretty funny in an utterly pointless sort of way.

Hi Breadfish. Welcome to the forum. Like you I too had activation problems. Had to wait for an extremely long time...

Since you have mild stuttering and it seems that most of your problem is your negative feelings like a strong urge to hide your stuttering, it seems you need to attach them in order to be free. Here are some suggestions. One thing you can do is to use fake stuttering at times when you feel you won't stutter. This will force you to confront the situation and eventually remove all the stress. Another thing you can do is telling new people that you stutter. This will help you reduce your negative feelings. You can also try working on your speech in order to get your stuttering under control. Practice for at least one hour at home when you have free times. The rules you should practice are taking a good breath, easy onset and pull-out rule. With enough practice and hard work you will be able to control all of your blocks and with time prevent them. This means that you can potentially become 100% fluent most of the time in all situations. But remember this is not a cure. If you will stop practicing and using your rules, you will have a relapse and stuttering will return. So don't forget to practice every day! ;)