What aggravates your stuttering? pt.2

[Jamus]

I can't fathom why the first thread by Violet was locked up, there was no pointless arguing in there. But if a mod has a prob with it they can lock it again. I thought it was a great thread. Anyways, to continue it...

Originally Posted by Jamus
I tend to stutter less when..
[..]
- I talk to people who are familiar with stuttering or my own stutter.
- Talk to others who stutter.
- Talk to others who are open and honest and non-judgemental.

Originally posted by Silent

These are the most important factors for me.

I love talking to people who "get it", i.e. SLPs and other stutterers, or in situations where they're prepared for such strange things as a stutter and are required by law to give you the time you need - doctors, police officers (not in all countries ), etc. So, oddly, I find more comfort in official situations.

I hate talking to random people, such as strangers on the street or at clubs. They think I'm retarded or making fun of them, and they often ignore me and walk away. It kills my confidence.

That's so strange that some people think you are making fun of them in some way. It boggles my mind. I had this one guy, at a wedding we were both at, while I was trying to have a civil conversation with give me a dirty look and then shoosh me away and said 'what do you think that's funny or something? why don't you out of here'. He really thought I was making fun of him b/c of maybe the way he talked or something. I didn't catch anything, but then I was like 'what?', all confused. And then I started blocking when I was trying to tell him that I stuttered, so I thought the hell with it, this guy's a , and just ran for it :rolleyes:

I'm used to people wanting to get out of talking with me or ignoring me. I don't let it bother me anymore, it's not worth it. I do however, get in their face and tell them what's going on, that I stutter, and that they don't have to be rude. Then I usually walk away without giving them a chance to react. *shrugs*

[Silent]

I'm used to people wanting to get out of talking with me or ignoring me. I don't let it bother me anymore, it's not worth it. I do however, get in their face and tell them what's going on, that I stutter, and that they don't have to be rude. Then I usually walk away without giving them a chance to react. *shrugs*
I know it's the right thing to do, but I don't feel okay about it emotionally. Perhaps this is something to work on.

[Jamus]

I know it's the right thing to do, but I don't feel okay about it emotionally. Perhaps this is something to work on.

It is the right thing to do yes, but it should be right for yourself first and foremost.

I, like you now, felt the same in that I didn't feel good about doing that. Over the years though, I became aware of a lot of feelings about my stutter and now I have the most confidence I've ever had about who I am. First it was about about telling people about me, and my stutter. But now I feel it's my duty to inform people and educate people about stuttering and all of those who stutter.

[John Woo]

I find that a long time stay before my computer just playing PC games without saying anything to anyone always lead to my stuttering more severe.
And I will recover by talking with my parants and my friends and my colleagues. That's really weird.
I don't know why. Do anyone here have the same expirience with me?

[Bobby]

Having to repeat myself, that is the killer one for me.

Sometimes I go a while without stuttering, days and even weeks and then out of the blue someone says "sorry I didn't hear you"

Before I even repeat myself I already know I'm going to stutter.

Or ordering a vanilla milkshake, the word Vanilla gets me every time. So when I actually get the word out, I feel completely elated. Then the person serving me doesn't catch what I say, that's when everything crashes to the floor.

Welcome to 'block city' population ME.

Its a shame, because Vanilla milkshakes are just so ing awesome.

[emily445455]

Having to repeat myself, that is the killer one for me.

Sometimes I go a while without stuttering, days and even weeks and then out of the blue someone says "sorry I didn't hear you"

Before I even repeat myself I already know I'm going to stutter.

Or ordering a vanilla milkshake, the word Vanilla gets me every time. So when I actually get the word out, I feel completely elated. Then the person serving me doesn't catch what I say, that's when everything crashes to the floor.

Welcome to 'block city' population ME.

Its a shame, because Vanilla milkshakes are just so ing awesome.


Sometimes what helps me is I say something like "I'd like a milkshake....vanilla please, small" Instead of "I'd like a small vanilla milkshake". Sometimes mixing around my words a little bit helps me not stutter or stutter less, and they still understand your order just fine :)

[sst]

Yeah mixing words up works sometimes for me too. It's fun, too, isn't it? Hehe.

Mostly stress makes me stutter more, or a high pressure situation where I can't control. I can be a control freak. :) Sometimes being overly excited about something makes me stutter more, too. How strange.

[Silent]

Yeah mixing words up works sometimes for me too. It's fun, too, isn't it?
Like word substitution, it's no good.
Fun? Not for me. It's yet another trick that adds to the scenarios / combinations / permutations / etc. I have to analyze before I finally manage to say something vaguely resembling what I actually wanted to say.

I'd milkshake a please small vanilla! :eek:

[emily445455]

Like word substitution, it's no good.
Fun? Not for me. It's yet another trick that adds to the scenarios / combinations / permutations / etc. I have to analyze before I finally manage to say something vaguely resembling what I actually wanted to say.

I'd milkshake a please small vanilla! :eek:

Lol!

To me, it's not word substitution...you still have to say all the words, just in a different order.

If someone feels comfortable stuttering in a situation like that, that's great! I know for me...I don't, I don't like stuttering at restraunts because they are usually loud and the waiter/ress goes "WHAT??" right in the middle of what I'm trying to say, lol. Then I have to start all over again...what a drag.

[sst]

Well I usually don't substitute words, but if I'm having a bad fluency day then I do. It's a bad crutch and a bad habit but it works hehe.

[Jamus]

I substitute words once in awhile, but I mix my words up often. I feel it still is a way to substitute words, and I don't want to be doing that. It's been a learned habit for me for years and it's going to be difficult to break it. But if I didn't mix my words up it would cause me a lot of stress b/c I would be stuttering a lot more, and I of course don't want to be doing that either :rolleyes:

[Violet]

Having to repeat myself, that is the killer one for me.

Sometimes I go a while without stuttering, days and even weeks and then out of the blue someone says "sorry I didn't hear you"

Before I even repeat myself I already know I'm going to stutter.

Or ordering a vanilla milkshake, the word Vanilla gets me every time. So when I actually get the word out, I feel completely elated. Then the person serving me doesn't catch what I say, that's when everything crashes to the floor.

Welcome to 'block city' population ME.

Its a shame, because Vanilla milkshakes are just so ing awesome.


Omg i love vanilla milkshakes :D if i can't say it at the time i get someone else to order it for me.. cause i find that i don't block as often if i talk quietly.. so i can just tell someone what i want and then say i'm gonna get a table ;)

i'm sort of like that too.. i can go for weeks without visibly stuttering.. well thats a lie.. if i was talking to a person who stuttered or a speech therapist they would be able to tell i was stuttering.. but just talking to a random person i can sort of cover it to look like i forgot something, or am distracted, or just a bit crazy.. :D and i would only really get caught out majorly if it was like a question about my name or something specific like that..

.. but recently it has gotten HEEPS worse ..and i don't know what to do.. its christmas holidays and my speech therapist has gone on holidays grr..
like this always happens every few months or so, particularly on holidays, and i start to have sounds which i cant get out which i could previously say easily.. like "S" and "L" and "M" which i prolong on, and earlier this year i was fine with.. so i would say that in the past two months i have gone from being mild to moderate-severe :eek:
but i reckon if i work hard enough by the end of the holidays i'll be a stable mild-moderate again and then i will eventualllyyyy get back to mild... hopefully.. fingers crossed.. haha

[Violet]

Sometimes what helps me is I say something like "I'd like a milkshake....vanilla please, small" Instead of "I'd like a small vanilla milkshake". Sometimes mixing around my words a little bit helps me not stutter or stutter less, and they still understand your order just fine :)

oh i do that ALL the time! so much so that my sentences don't make sense :cool:

I mostly block, so when i speak its like running in a maze, and i keep hitting dead ends (blocks) so i have to go back (refraising sentences of what i have already said) and then try a different route (word substitution/ changing the words around so i can get the evil word out) but now i have been having more prolonged sounds so they would be like .. *thinks* the ground is covered in slime and i'm sliding down it. :D

[Count]

I hate it when people ask me to repeat what I've just said. On a bad day I stutter terribly then. :mad:

[Imperfection]

I stutter more when...

-with a group of people (esp. if they don't all know I stutter)
-giving a presentation where I don't have control over what I need to say
-reading aloud in class
-introducing myself, saying my birthday (esp. being forced to say things like that that I cannot change)
-ordering some types of food
-calling someone or some place on the phone when they don't know who I am (if I have to introduce myself)
-having to repeat myself

I stutter less when...

-chatting with someone I know well one-on-one
-speaking in small groups (around 5 or less)
-presenting with groups (esp. if I am not given text I have to read)
-just talking (no words I have to go by)


That's all I can think of right now. *shrugs*

[cjm555]

more:
when around new people
having a bad day
when i'm nervous (prety much covers it all)

less:
with people i know
people who know i stutter and are ok with it
when i'm drunk lol
when playing paintball

[mizzOe]

When I have to repeat myself..
When I'm driving people [friends mostly] around and they start convos in the car..
When I'm feeling depressed and lonely :( lulz

[JDRow]

I stutter more when I'm asked to repeat something (and I don't talk very loudly, so that happens pretty often, even when I don't stutter or don't stutter much on what I said), when I'm talking to somebody who doesn't know I stutter or who gets impatient or annoyed with it, when I'm talking to more than one person, if I have to talk on the phone, if I'm tired or not feeling well, or if I'm trying to explain something complicated.

I stutter less when I'm talking to somebody I know really well who I feel doesn't mind that I stutter.

[Violet]

I stutter less when I'm talking to somebody I know really well who I feel doesn't mind that I stutter.

So many people have been saying this, and everytime i have read it i've been like 'yeah yeah me to' .. but after rethinking about it.. i find i actually do stutter quite alot around people who don't care.. well actually its more i stutter more when i don't care what they think because to them it has just become the norm, so they expect it more and they understand it slightly more, so i'm not freaking out about freaking them out, so i forget to be freaking out about my stutter.... Where as if i greatly care what they think i won't stutter as much because i subconsciously control everything i say in normal conversation with them that i force myself to hardly stutter. if that makes any sense at all? Like its just that i can sort of appear to be 'normal' by controlling EVERYTHING i say because i am hyper aware of everything and don't let any loop holes slip through..

[cjm555]

So many people have been saying this, and everytime i have read it i've been like 'yeah yeah me to' .. but after rethinking about it.. i find i actually do stutter quite alot around people who don't care.. well actually its more i stutter more when i don't care what they think because to them it has just become the norm, so they expect it more and they understand it slightly more, so i'm not freaking out about freaking them out, so i forget to be freaking out about my stutter.... Where as if i greatly care what they think i won't stutter as much because i subconsciously control everything i say in normal conversation with them that i force myself to hardly stutter. if that makes any sense at all? Like its just that i can sort of appear to be 'normal' by controlling EVERYTHING i say because i am hyper aware of everything and don't let any loop holes slip through..

when i am around people such as friends and family i dont realy have a problem with my stutter... my main reason for stuttering is i know what sounds i get stuck on and start freaking out when i'm coming up to them. if i can avoid the word i do but its not always possible... like i have a problem with words that start with the letter "C"... what a crock it is that my name is Curt and i have a hard time introducing myself lol

[nate]

...don't let any loop holes slip through..

is it me or is that an oxymoron? good one Anthea:p
Nate

[sst]

I stutter less when I'm talking to somebody I know really well who I feel doesn't mind that I stutter.

I stutter much more when I'm around people I'm comfortable with. With strangers, it's like I have to pretend to be someone I'm not, so I don't stutter.

[Zachary]

I think we're all pretty similar. I can pretty much agree with everything already posted. To reiterate though :p

Some stuff that makes my stutter worse:
-Doing anything in front of a group
-Strangers
-Being distracted
-Loud noises/background noises/annoying noises
-Having to repeat myself
-Not talking/socializing enough
-The morning after drinking (gotta pay up for the increased fluency the night before I suppose, haha)

Some stuff that makes my stutter better
-Controlling my breathing (using my diaphragm)
-Being with close friends/relatives
-I usually won't stutter when talking about something I'm REALLY into (MMA, PC gaming, PCs, music, clothes)
-I usually won't stutter when explaining to someone I stutter (go figure)
-I experience increased fluency when explaining concepts
-Hydrocodone (my thoughts flow really smoothly, I get very conversational)

I had this one guy, at a wedding we were both at, while I was trying to have a civil conversation with give me a dirty look and then shoosh me away and said 'what do you think that's funny or something? why don't you out of here'. He really thought I was making fun of him b/c of maybe the way he talked or something. I didn't catch anything, but then I was like 'what?', all confused. And then I started blocking when I was trying to tell him that I stuttered, so I thought the hell with it, this guy's a

I've ran into a few people like that. In fact, I encountered one just last weekend. A friend invited me to tag along with him to a bar. I was approached by an older woman who seemed nice at first. She complimented me and asked my name. Of course I stuttered really badly. She proceeded to laugh hysterically, I attempted to explain the situation, and she just kept laughing. Haha! Its whatever. She ran back to her table and shortly after one of her friends came over, asked if I stuttered, and apologized for her.

Luckily, encounters like this are few and far between. Most people seem to be pretty understanding.

[emily445455]

I stutter much more when I'm around people I'm comfortable with. With strangers, it's like I have to pretend to be someone I'm not, so I don't stutter.

Same here.