Wedding vows

[JDRow]

As I mentioned, I'm getting married this summer, and I have no idea what I'm going to do about the ceremony. We're inviting about 100 people, and I've never been in front of that many people before, much less had to talk in front of them. We had our first meeting with the priest to plan the ceremony, and I just want to say as little as possible, preferably just "I do." He's flexible, but not that flexible.

For those of you who are/have been married, how did it go? Did you just have a traditional ceremony and say all the stuff you were supposed to say? Any suggestions, other than eloping?

[cjm555]

i have never been married but... just think of it as its just you 3 (you, your wife, and priest) and read over what you have to say... in some way its just like another speech.


BTW congrats! lol

[emily445455]

Congrats! :)

I was 100% fluent during my vows...but I do not remember saying them. I was so focused on not stuttering (and crying) that I totally didn't pay attention to what I was saying.

Don't do what I did :(

If I could do it over again I wouldn't worry about stuttering. I would focus on him, my husband to be, look into his eyes, study his expression, take in every second to be cherished in my memory. If I stuttered, so what...no one could really hear me anyways. I think my bridal party and the first row of the church pews. I would definitly do it differently if I could...

[grantM]

I thought I would have been 100% but I struggled a little. I did not feel nervous at all though

[Happy stutter23]

Congratulations man!wow the big step in a man's life.In my country we don't have wedding vows,you just have to say 'I do" in front of the mayor(this is the civil matrimony) then we go to the church and the priest holds a beautiful ceremony(religious matrimony) and that's it:D you are hooked for life hahaha.

[Adrian]

I thought I would have been 100% but I struggled a little. I did not feel nervous at all though

I was terrified, but somehow managed to do my vows 100% fluently. I spent about three hours that morning practicing costal breathing (McGuire). I also think repeating the ministers words helped.

[nate]

congs JD
dont do it!!!
nah i'm just playing. Good for you man
have your best man say them (the vows) just under his breath next to u. choral effect. u'll get thru it like a hot knife thru butter.
Nate

[sst]

Good luck JD, you guys make a cute couple.

By the time I get married, it will be legal everywhere. Hopefully in my 30's. I plan to get hitched in a drunken ceremony in Las Vegas. It's been my dream every since I was a little boy.

Great, now I'm starting to get all teary-eyed.

[bignick]

Congratulations to you both.

I was a complete mess reading my vows in church and I cringe every time we watch the ceremony. While watching back we realised that I was swallowing loads and loads before I spoke and you could see the fear in my face and the low point of the ceremony for me was when I struggled on the words to love and honour.
Luckily the camcorder ran out of batteries so we only see about 15 minutes of the service.

Nick.

[Silent]

I don't know much about these things, but I'd skip the church ceremony and keep all the rest to a minimum.

Good luck!

[Count]

As I mentioned, I'm getting married this summer, and I have no idea what I'm going to do about the ceremony. We're inviting about 100 people, and I've never been in front of that many people before, much less had to talk in front of them. We had our first meeting with the priest to plan the ceremony, and I just want to say as little as possible, preferably just "I do." He's flexible, but not that flexible.

For those of you who are/have been married, how did it go? Did you just have a traditional ceremony and say all the stuff you were supposed to say? Any suggestions, other than eloping?


I'm not married, but still I could give you this little advice. Well, it's your and your future wife's big day, isn't it? You both should enjoy it and don't care about the rest. I think stuttering should play the most unimportant role on your wedding.

[Count]

In my country we don't have wedding vows,you just have to say 'I do" in front of the mayor(this is the civil matrimony) then we go to the church and the priest holds a beautiful ceremony(religious matrimony) and that's it:D

Are you from Germany as well? :D

[nik037]

Hello
Congrats! I went to my BF's brother's wedding last weekend and totally thought about that the whole time they were saying their vows. My BF and I are planning on getting married soon as well and I am stressed about what to do.

Depending on the type of stutter you are, repeating after the priest may be very helpful to you. Also, I know if I talk very quiet that helps, and that matters is if your fiance hears you. I would def avoid using a MIC, if ur ceremony is large, that will just stress u out more knowing EVERYONE WILL hear you.

I think in my ceremony I just want to repeat "I Do" but before that, maybe allow time to just say a little something to each other, not repeating exact vows. Maybe that lessen the stress if it is your own words and know one is expecting you to say exact words...at least thats what I am going to try. :o