being made fun of?

[thaddeus]

I was just thinking about a situation that happened a couple years ago.I was at my friends house me him and his little brother and we had just got done playing football and just started talking,then his little brother hes 3 years young than us, amde fun of me for stuttering, now the thing that i dont understan is how can a person that stutters make fun of anotehr person that stutters because his little brother stutters to so i was kind of dumbfounded.
Actually all three of us stutter but our stutters vary, like my friend talks normally but stutters(a little more than the average non stutterer) every know and then he didnt start talking till he was five.
So have any of you been made fun of by another stutterer?:confused:

[grantM]

Hmm never in malice. I do know a stutterer who tells stuttering jokes when he goes to courses and support groups (the same ones every time lol) but I think he uses it as a tool to make stutterers laugh at themselves

[Box of Clocks]

Back when I was in school I would sometimes be made fun of due to my stutter. I remember one instance in French class where we were supposed to talk about our families and I couldn't say my sisters name. For a few weeks after I would get teased by one or two people who knew about the incident.

[grantM]

See I was so lucky in primary & secondary school. I was never teased about it and my friends never mentioned it.

[cjm555]

it happened to me once in school... back in grade school. but nothing has realy happened bad since then...

i got made fun of again a year or so ago when i broke up a fight... i just went on about how it takes a "big man" to need to make fun of somebody... i take it as it comes... if then feel the need to make fun of somebody to feel better about them selves then they arent worth it

[grantM]

Well I think I was helped along by attending a school of around 400 students. I knew basically my entire class from grade 1 to year 12.

[cjm555]

ya i had the same... my graduating class had 7 students in it... our town only has around 600 people lol

[grantM]

My town was slightly larger with 3-4 thousand.

[JDRow]

When I was younger I was made fun of a lot. At time time it felt like everybody made fun of me, but looking back it was just a few guys, but they did it a lot, for the entire time we went to school.

Now once in a while somebody might laugh or made a stupid comment, but that's pretty rare.

I've never been made fun of by another stutterer, though. That would be a pretty crappy thing to do.

[emily445455]

I have a feeling I was made fun of a lot when I was younger...for both my stutter and being overweight.

I have almost no memory of my life before high school.

[JDRow]

I have a feeling I was made fun of a lot when I was younger...for both my stutter and being overweight.

Yeah, I was made fun of for things other than stuttering, too. It was mostly the stuttering, but they'd also say stuff about other things, like that I was a freak because I wouldn't talk and I didn't have any friends, or saying I was because I didn't have a girlfriend or play sports. People who were looking for somebody to bully probably figured I was an easy target because I stuttered and wasn't going to say anything. It was the worst during middle school and then until about 10th grade, and then in 11th and 12th grade it wasn't as bad, but I wouldn't do any of it again under any circumstances.

I have almost no memory of my life before high school.

That's kind of odd. Do you know why?

[Jamus]

Never been made fun of by another stutterer. I've only met a handful of them. It would confuse me too though.

I was made fun of and mocked when I was growing up sure. Up through high school as well. But in junior and senior years not so much anymore. People start to grow up. Then again, some do not b/c I still get the occasional lost soul who laughs or mocks me. The difference now is, it does not effect me as it once did. And that is a very powerful tool on how one perceives his/her stutter.

[emily445455]

That's kind of odd. Do you know why?

I think it's my way of protecting myself.

Or I just have a bad memory.

Not really sure, I remember bits and pieces, but nothing much.

[Silent]

Yeah, I was made fun of for things other than stuttering, too. It was mostly the stuttering, but they'd also say stuff about other things, like that I was a freak because I wouldn't talk and I didn't have any friends, or saying I was because I didn't have a girlfriend or play sports.
Same here.

I was made fun of and mocked when I was growing up sure. Up through high school as well. But in junior and senior years not so much anymore. People start to grow up.
I think it's not only because they grow up, but also the higher the school the more selective it is and thus the higher the quality of your classmates. Since we're mostly nerds, we go to nerd schools, which bullies, gangsters, etc. don't often choose. Ok, it's an oversimplification but you get the gist...

[Bill Hargis]

As a child I was made fun of mostly by adults.

[Mullen]

I think being shunned and ignored is worse than being ridiculed. There's always a few bad apples in any group, but when one get's the sense that people in general prefer to avoid you, a feeling of isolation sets in.

[JDRow]

I think that people making fun of you can cause other people to avoid you, because they don't want to be made fun of too.

[Mullen]

I think that people making fun of you can cause other people to avoid you, because they don't want to be made fun of too.

I get the sense that for a fluent person talking with stutterer is a bit unpleasant. Most people I meet have the courtesy and patience to deal with my stutter when it arises, but beyond that, they probably have the impression that I'm not someone they want to get to know. And I feel uncomfortable imposing my presence on others when I sense that they aren't comfortable with me.

There seem to be too many bad stereotypes associated with stuttering; and like you say, even for those willing to accept a stutterer there's the fear of the social implications of that acceptance.

[danalorenzana]

i can only think of being made fun of by another stutterer in my English class one day. he sits behind me, and the teacher asked me something and i blocked and he was laughing at me with a couple other people. i don't know if it was to be mean because i was afraid to turn around.... but otherwise i don't recall being made fun of by another. my best friend is a stutterer a little worse than me, and it never happened to him. we make fun of each other, but not in a mean way :)

[grantM]

Well he was probably deflecting his own problems onto you also

[thatCALIdude]

besides my dad ive never met another stutterer except for my speech therapist.

where are you people at?

[Be YOURSELF]

I've always been laughed at for my stutter. it hurts what can you do? telling them to stop inflames the situation so i gave up and learned to cope. How? by becoming a funny guy, so when people laugh, its cos i'm funny (at least that's what i think! i dont care about anything else).

I'm a very objective person so i try to see my stutter from a listener's point of view. And i did i understand that an initial encounter can be funny to listeners cos its an unusual sound. so i expect that and sometimes smile along, then discuss the stutter. this changes their perception of it, and removes the funny aspect

But sometimes, as a person who doesn't come across stutterers often, the way some people stutter is quite funny to me, i dont know why, but the sounds and facial expressions resembles images and sounds i associate to comedy.

I've only met 3 stutters that made me laugh. One guy at therapy who speaks very slow with facial expressions like "gurning", thats quite funny, check you tube for examples

the second one is Judy fuller, this guy is one funny comedian (he is a stutterer)

And the third,, this girl that repeats for like 1min - Grgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrrgrgrg rgrgrgrgrggrgrgrgrgrgr,

it was only funny at the first time

[thaddeus]

besides my dad ive never met another stutterer except for my speech therapist.

where are you people at?


Im in texas, ive met 3 other stutterers and were all friends, soon to be 4 now
theres a kid i havent seen since middle school he works at tomb thumb and he stutters, i never knew he stuttered cuz i knew his twin brother actually
but one night i was at tomb thumb(bought sum dog food and other stuff) and he was like paper or plastic but each word was a stutter, so thats how i found out plus the expression on his face trying to get out the words.

That was 2 months ago, i dont know how to make friends it usually jus happens u dnt go up to ppl an say "hey u wanna be friends" lol

what do u think?

[DKoz]

I used to get made fun of by non-stutterers but never by stutterers. It's like their making fun of themselves so the jokes on them.

[sst]

Most kids are ignorant and don't realize the things they say can hurt other people more deeply than they probably realize. I was made fun of by a couple people in grade/middle school, but after that I pretty much was invisible, which was a good thing. :)

If someone made fun of me now, which probably would rarely happen anyways, I wouldn't let them get away with it hehe.

[Derek181]

i have actually been getting made fun of recently by my teacher. i would ask him a question and start stuttering and he would mock me for a bit and then also i spelt a word wrong and i was like ahhhhhh geee oopss....... then hes like ohhh yah dont worry , i forgot your the one with the speech impediment. but i dont really think anything of it.... hes a good guy and he means well. i dont think some listeners understand that it can be a sensitive subject for some stutterers.

[spacebow]

My case is very different. I only started stuttering in middle school. And i guess middle schoolers are more mature? i was made fun of maybe a handful of times, and they weren't even that offensive. I was actually more frustrated at myself because I knew how it felt like to be fluent once upon a time.

[grantM]

Hmm personally I would have words with him and explain how it makes you feel

[chris2112]

i have actually been getting made fun of recently by my teacher. i would ask him a question and start stuttering and he would mock me for a bit and then also i spelt a word wrong and i was like ahhhhhh geee oopss....... then hes like ohhh yah dont worry , i forgot your the one with the speech impediment. but i dont really think anything of it.... hes a good guy and he means well. i dont think some listeners understand that it can be a sensitive subject for some stutterers.

Yeah that dudes an asshole. I was made fun of in elementary school and a little in middle school but I didnt even know I was being made fun of then haha. Kids would mock my stutter but I didnt care at all, so I can see how you wouldnt really care about this teacher, but man he has some problems.

[grantM]

Yes I agree I think he needs attitude adjustment therapy

[Derek181]

but i dont think he means anything by it. he just likes to bug his students a little. and why not learn to laugh a little at your stutter. iam sure if i sit down and talked to him. he would be very appologetic and wouldnt have even realized he was doing anything wrong. so it deostn really bother me that much. it would only bother me if someone was maliciously making fun of my stutter. like my teacher doesnt do it in front of the whole class....... only makes fun of me a little when iam talking to him or asking him for help. he does it in a jokingly way. i will see how it goes.

[JDRow]

I think that's a really uncool thing for a teacher to do, because a student may not feel like they can tell the teacher, "I really don't like that." Even if they didn't mean it in a mean way, it's still hurtful if somebody makes fun of your stutter. I'm just thinking, if a student with an accent was talking to a teacher, or a deaf student, and the teacher made fun of how they sounded, that would just not be okay. I don't think it's okay to make fun of a student, even jokingly, for stuttering, either. I know that, when I was in high school, if a teacher had made a joke about my stuttering, even just to me, I would have avoided talking to them by any means necessary from then on. It's good you didn't react that way, but some people might, and the teacher should be sensitive to how people might react.

[Dustin89]

No teachers ever made fun of me but a few students did, It all stopped in high school...I got bigger and started getting into alot of fights...I think after that it all stopped.

[freedive]

While I've never heard of one stutterer mocking another, I wouldn't worry too much about it. He's probably just projecting his own insecurity onto you.

I agree that the teacher is out of line, even if it's not meant maliciously.

Even though it sucks, I'd rather be laughed at than pitied. I can't stand it when I have a block or something and the listener puts their hand on my shoulder and says something along the lines of "It's okay, sweetie, don't worry" with a look on their face like their dog just died. I know they mean well but it is demeaning.

[nate]

While I've never heard of one stutterer mocking another, I wouldn't worry too much about it. He's probably just projecting his own insecurity onto you.

Even though it sucks, I'd rather be laughed at than pitied. I can't stand it when I have a block or something and the listener puts their hand on my shoulder and says something along the lines of "It's okay, sweetie, don't worry" with a look on their face like their dog just died. I know they mean well but it is demeaning.

People always allude to my stutter. Sometimes in fun...sometimes in frustration. Even just recently I was having a convo and I went "i-i-i-i... and blocked. And my business partner was like, "i-i-i-i...what?" I just dont care really. Now when I think of it I get a knot in my pot-belly:D but it'll pass.

Other times i get into trouble. Just now I was a passenger in my best friends car. He was trying to back into a parking space the size of a ing postage stamp. So he told me to watch out on the left side for him while he squeezed in. And to tell him if he got too close.
As he started to get closer I swear I started to say Stop. Somehow I blocked, and blinked and the next thing I heard was a bump. The result was that he had dented (only slightly) his BMW and it was all my fault!
He got out of the car and yelled at me for at least 15 minutes before the owner of the other car came out and started yelling at me too.

Robba: "I told you...didnt I tell u to tell me to stop when i got too close? what did i tell u? Now look what you've done. My car...do u know how much this is going to cost? What is so hard about saying Stop. S-T-O-P...St-op, S-top."

Me: its just a small dent!

Robba: Oh now u can talk! "it's just a small dent"...look at it! LOOK HERE! HERE. this is metallic paint foo! i have to respray the whole car! i can never get this tint back.

Me: i'll pay for it.

Robba: i dont want yo bloody money. Thats not the point. It's the principle. what if there was a child there? what then? i just asked u to do a small thing. Say Stop! ST-OP. U could have even hit the car with your hand.

me: u dont understand, it happened so fast.

Robba: u better get this stammer thing sorted out. i'll even in pay for it. but i cant deal with this. LOOK HERE! HERE! i think i need to panel beat it. Shit! SHIT! even if i get the kit...! Jersey...

Me: what can i do....to make it.

Robba: I cant talk to u right now. i dont have the patience. This could've been someones life! get this thing under CONTROL! What if were dying? and u have tell someone. Just learn to say easy things, St-op. START WITH STOP. St-op. STOP! ing STOP. It cant be that hard! Jersey, JERSEY are u even LISTENING???


I actually recorded this on my cellfone LOL( i dont call, i text). its was too funny, i think what made him even more mad is that i found the whole thing a riot. i laughed so hard coz it reminded me of Adam and his extreme worst case scenarios. so i transcribed it on here. I love Rob still. and he has since apologized over a on-the-house beer which wasnt even necessary.
A free beer a day, keeps the Zoloft away.
Nate

[Bobby]

There was one time in Year 11.

It was Thursday night and I got this call on my mobile, and this person put on a fake stutter and was saying "Hi, this is John from the stuttering institute I have a few questions I need to ask you" at the same time I could hear people in the background laughing.

I recognised the voice so I asked who it really was. Turned out it was was someone from school. I basically said "dude, you are the first person to actually make a joke about my stutter, and on top of that, you are the last person I would have thought would actually try and make joke out of it". That's really all I could come up with, and it seemed to have put him in his place because he soon apologised and then hung up.

[Zachary]

I was just thinking about a situation that happened a couple years ago.I was at my friends house me him and his little brother and we had just got done playing football and just started talking,then his little brother hes 3 years young than us, amde fun of me for stuttering, now the thing that i dont understan is how can a person that stutters make fun of anotehr person that stutters because his little brother stutters to so i was kind of dumbfounded.
Actually all three of us stutter but our stutters vary, like my friend talks normally but stutters(a little more than the average non stutterer) every know and then he didnt start talking till he was five.
So have any of you been made fun of by another stutterer?:confused:

I haven't met too many other stutterers, so no. However, he probably thought since he stuttered as well, it was okay. I could give loads of examples as to why I think this is true, but I don't want to risk coming off as politically incorrect =p Haha!

Aside from that though, he's young, no worries. I will admit my most awkward moments have come from being made fun of by children. I'm not quite sure how to react. I think it has a bit to do with the parents actually. Most of the time the parents will scold their children very harshly, whereas I just want to inform them (no harm no foul, ya know?).

[freedive]

Nate, I know you said he's your best friend but I think he was way out of line. As your best friend he should have a pretty good idea as to the impact that stuttering has had on your life, much more of an impact than say a dent on his car. There's no excuse. Knowing myself, I would have kicked the shit out of his BMW then been like "LOOK HERE!!" But maybe you're just a bigger man than I am.. :)

[thatCALIdude]

thankfully i havent really been made fun of in my life, i know kids can be cruel.

[grantM]

i know kids can be cruel.

So can adults....you have to get over it

[thaddeus]

I haven't met too many other stutterers, so no. However, he probably thought since he stuttered as well, it was okay. I could give loads of examples as to why I think this is true, but I don't want to risk coming off as politically incorrect =p Haha!

Aside from that though, he's young, no worries. I will admit my most awkward moments have come from being made fun of by children. I'm not quite sure how to react. I think it has a bit to do with the parents actually. Most of the time the parents will scold their children very harshly, whereas I just want to inform them (no harm no foul, ya know?).

I can think of many reasons why he did it, and thought it was okay but it was just a real true scratch your head,whats the point in that moment. I've never been made fun of by little kids I usually take my time to pronoun the words and breathe so that works for me only when I'm around little kids though can't do that around teens and adults I always feel like I'm being rushed so I don't talk.

As for the teacher thing dude the firs thing you should do is talk to the teacher one on one, maybe he's a new teacher fresh from college and is still in the college frat mentality and thinks of his students as friends/associates rather than having the relationship of TEACHER astablished. So talk to him then go over is head and report.

[nate]

Nate, I know you said he's your best friend but I think he was way out of line. As your best friend he should have a pretty good idea as to the impact that stuttering has had on your life, much more of an impact than say a dent on his car. There's no excuse. Knowing myself, I would have kicked the shit out of his BMW then been like "LOOK HERE!!" But maybe you're just a bigger man than I am.. :)

:D i could get all bent out of shape but he doesnt deserve it and he's a good bloke. but he loves his car 2much. he says BMW stands for Be My Wife. so it was like i'd dented his wife:D LOL. plus he's bigger than me and if i kicked his car he'd kill me 4 real.

Next time though!
Nate

[flower]

got made fun alot in middle school that it made me totally sick we would read outloud in english class and the whole class would be laughing behind i sat in front and this big fat teacher would sit it front of me and use her dirty ugly fingernails and point to the words in the book as she thought it would help me to move along and read aloud anyways. and also everyday at recess the same kid would call me stutter face day after day it was horrible. In high school i think people grow up and it let down a little bit but the scars last a life time. so sad.

[rodnorp]

When i was 12 i was sent to live with my father in Texas; because my mother had a stroke. I was in middle school. The kids in Texas were so mean and cruel. I remembered this one kid called me retarded. I was so ashamed I cried.
We eventually moved back to Albuquerque Where I attended high school. It was a totally different story. Nobody made fun of me. I was elected into student council. Acted in drama, and was in the band, and choir.
It was hard getting over the trauma of (Texas) middle school. Therapy helped.
Now as an adult i just say. F**k um! I am who I am.

R

[RingSideBoxer]

Yea, i can cope with you on that one. About a year ago a best friend made fun of my stuttering and i was shocked when i saw that a best friend of mine that i knew for years made of of my stuttering. I thought to myself "hey! If i make my stuttering a joke too to all can be on a positive attitude." So i quickly made up a joke saying "You can't out stutter the stuttering master!" I know i was a bit corny, but hell it made everyone laugh!