Desperate advice needed!

[anxietyATTACK]

Hi guys, glad to be here!

Ok lately I've been really stressed over this girl that I met on vacation. So basically when I get nervous, I kind of tend to block alot but I am a master at hiding my stutter and know several words to get my self out of a block. I'd say its mild but it can be a bit worse sometimes. When I was with her I didn't tell her about my stutter and (maybe) she thought I was awkward or something since I was pretty nervous at points of some conversations. I don't think she assumed that I had a stutter brought on by anxiety and I feel really bad now that I didn't tell her. When I was drinking over their it was easier because it was realaxing but in the afternoons when I didnt have any drinks I was quite nervous if I were to speak with her.

She actually lived not that far from my place and we exchanged myspaces because she may have wanted to see me sometime. So I messaged her and she didn't get back to me. I'm not sure if I should say that I came across as an awkward person because I get really nervous because of my stutter. I really wasnet that awkward but maybe I was a little. I would like to see her again but god damn stutter really messed things up for me.

Talk about depressing!

[agantx]

You shouldn't worry about it. Try to contact her again and see if she will respond. If not there are plenty of other fish in the sea for you! Next time be honest from the very beginning about your stuttering. This will save you a lot of stress and worrying over nothing! ;)

[anxietyATTACK]

You shouldn't worry about it. Try to contact her again and see if she will respond. If not there are plenty of other fish in the sea for you! Next time be honest from the very beginning about your stuttering. This will save you a lot of stress and worrying over nothing! ;)

Ya so I shouldn't tell her that I have a stutter because thats kinda awkward over email or?

[yonex]

You shouldn't worry about it. Try to contact her again and see if she will respond. If not there are plenty of other fish in the sea for you! Next time be honest from the very beginning about your stuttering. This will save you a lot of stress and worrying over nothing! ;)


yea life is hard and unfair so man up and message her again. If not maybe call her if you have her number.

[emily445455]

I don't think she was turned off or felt akward because of your stutter. Well maybe...not all girls are nice. But if she's interested, she'll get back to you...if not...don't worry about it. :)

[Box of Clocks]

If you haven't already you should check the status of the message to see if it has been read or not. Its possible that she just hasn't seen it yet. If she has read it but not replied that doesn't look very good at all but there would be no harm in sending a second message. If she still doesn't respond though then I wouldn't send any more after that as it may look a bit desperate.

I also think it would be a good idea to tell this girl in the message that you stutter and also to tell any other girls that you might meet in the future early on aswell. It might be embarrassing for you to bring it up but it will take a lot of pressure of you and it is good to be upfront and honest.

[anxietyATTACK]

I don't think she was turned off or felt akward because of your stutter. Well maybe...not all girls are nice. But if she's interested, she'll get back to you...if not...don't worry about it. :)

Haha, easy for you to say don't worry about it. Tried that and it didn't work out so well.

I'm not sure if I should tell her in the message because it just feels wierd to me that I didnt tell her about my stutter while I was with her and now I'm her back telling her.

[emily445455]

don't message her too often...then you just look pathetic :-P

[Tinkabell]

Have you considered that she might know that you may have a speech impediment (that's if she doesn't know about stuttering)? I thought I could hide it from my husband (then he was someone I met). One day, he suddenly said that I sounded cute when I stutter. Looking back, he knew from the start but never said anything. I hardly ever stutter with my husband.

Maybe you don't have to tell her until you are ready, or maybe she'll ask you if you do contact her and get serious.

Good luck!

[jak]

Most times we think we hide it alot more then we do ! When I was young I thought I hid my stutter then I found out everyone knew anyway so why bother .it just gives you more stress .if she wants to be with you she must accept who you are ,you cant hide it forever