Angry all the time.

[Zilaem]

Sigh, how to put it? I HATE stuttering! It's the worst thing that has ever happened in my life, I cant grow, im not enjoying life right now. Before you ask, im not a suicidal person, im a very proud individual that happens to be good at many things, but I cant stand the failure of my stuttering. I think im being too hard on myself, but that's how I feel and I cant let that go, like a HUGE thorn on my side.

I went from being an outgoing person in highschool to a cynic loner.

Sorry, my english its not my first language. I hope you understand what im trying to say.

[helen85]

Hi Zilaem.
I know how you feel, everyone how stutters goes thought rough times, and sometimes it feels like it will never end, but it will get better just keeping putting yourself out there and keep trying. Try not to concentrate on the bad things that have happened at the end of the day reflect on the good and positive things that you have done.
Also try not to see stuttering as a failure, (a challenge yes) but all challenges can be overcome, can they not?
And whatever happens keep trying you will get there :)
Helen

[emily445455]

I understand. Although I don't see stuttering as a failure. It is something most people are born with...something they can't help, thus I don't see it as a failure. I also hate stuttering, but am trying really hard to accept it along with accepting all aspects of myself. Hope you feel better.

[Berbatov]

Sigh, how to put it? I HATE stuttering! It's the worst thing that has ever happened in my life, I cant grow, im not enjoying life right now. Before you ask, im not a suicidal person, im a very proud individual that happens to be good at many things, but I cant stand the failure of my stuttering. I think im being too hard on myself, but that's how I feel and I cant let that go, like a HUGE thorn on my side.

I went from being an outgoing person in highschool to a cynic loner.

Sorry, my english its not my first language. I hope you understand what im trying to say.

My first language is not English either but I know how you feel, friend. I think we are too hard on ourselves, including me, but you got to live with it and find the best way to manage it, as there is no cure for it!

Not everyone is so bad when you stutter with them and don't assume that fluent speakers are liked by everyone, just because they are fluent. So smile and maintain eye contact when you speak to fluent speakers and when you have a block, say to them that, you have a bit a sutter and need some time to finish your sentance. Not everyone is perfect but just bcoz you stutter, it doesn't mean you can make friends, you just have be to brave and make the first move wheter to make casual friends to girlfriends.

[urbanmermaid]

My first language is not English either but I know how you feel, friend. I think we are too hard on ourselves, including me, but you got to live with it and find the best way to manage it, as there is no cure for it!

Not everyone is so bad when you stutter with them and don't assume that fluent speakers are liked by everyone, just because they are fluent. So smile and maintain eye contact when you speak to fluent speakers and when you have a block, say to them that, you have a bit a sutter and need some time to finish your sentance. Not everyone is perfect but just bcoz you stutter, it doesn't mean you can make friends, you just have be to brave and make the first move wheter to make casual friends to girlfriends.

Berbatov, are u by any chance bulgarian

[milknbutter]

Well, it's not as bad as being blind or deaf.

[Be YOURSELF]

"Two little mice fell in a bucket of cream. The first mouse quickly gave up and drowned. The second mouse, wouldn't quit. He struggled so hard that eventually he churned that cream into butter and crawled out. Gentlemen, as of this moment, I am that second mouse. "

Never Give up, I think having a stutter is a struggle test, those that never give up and try try try again will one day be what they want to be, those that give up will remain as they are.

[godmir]

"Two little mice fell in a bucket of cream. The first mouse quickly gave up and drowned. The second mouse, wouldn't quit. He struggled so hard that eventually he churned that cream into butter and crawled out. Gentlemen, as of this moment, I am that second mouse. "

Never Give up, I think having a stutter is a struggle test, those that never give up and try try try again will one day be what they want to be, those that give up will remain as they are.

Nice anecdote BE YOURSELF. It is a great motivator for sure, but how about looking at it from another point of view. That quote considers that everyone is equal and that the first mouse just GAVE up due to lack of motivation or just thought that it was pointless! How about this:

"Two little mice fell in a bucket of cream. The first mouse didn't have what it takes (as he was genetically weaker than the second mouse) and so, with the loss of his stamina also came the loss of his will to live, and so he drowned. The second mouse............you know the story from here."

My point is that we all consider ourselves equal to someone else, but in reality, no one is equal to another; physically, mentally, emotionally or any other way. I think this often gets over-looked.

Just my three cents! :)

[Mullen]

My point is that we all consider ourselves equal to someone else, but in reality, no one is equal to another; physically, mentally, emotionally or any other way. I think this often gets over-looked.

The personal biography of each one of us is unique as well. So much in life is arbitrary: the family we were born into, the people we meet (both good and bad), the fortunate breaks we experience (or don't experience). We even have different ideas about what it means to succeed in life.

But one of the greatest strengths anyone can have in adversity is adaptability. It's the sort of quality that gives life its dignity.

[Be YOURSELF]

[QUOTE
"Two little mice fell in a bucket of cream. The first mouse didn't have what it takes (as he was genetically weaker than the second mouse) and so, with the loss of his stamina also came the loss of his will to live, and so he drowned. The second mouse............you know the story from here."...)[/QUOTE]

Given your scenario : If only it knew the milk will curd for it to walk out during struggle, I bet it would've struggle longer. stutterers know we can sometimes speak fluently, giving up on speaking all together will not help you achieve what you want. The struggle to speak can make you stronger and give you the confidence to say what ever you want. I know I can speak fluently sometimes, so I loose nothing if I at least try to speak. I've a good job as an analyst because on one of my countless interviews, guess what happened? my speech decided to be fluent a little bit.

[Thecoherentman]

My point is that we all consider ourselves equal to someone else, but in reality, no one is equal to another; physically, mentally, emotionally or any other way. I think this often gets over-looked.

Just my three cents! :)

However, we must accept responsibility in what we are, what we do and the way we see things. Otherwise we continue stuttering and blame it on the devil that made us to do it.

[Jaykon]

[QUOTE=Be YOURSELF;36574]"Two little mice fell in a bucket of cream. The first mouse quickly gave up and drowned. The second mouse, wouldn't quit. He struggled so hard that eventually he churned that cream into butter and crawled out. "


love this!

[Thomkatt]

Ha ha. I laughed at the little mice stories.

[Perad]

Sigh, how to put it? I HATE stuttering! It's the worst thing that has ever happened in my life, I cant grow, im not enjoying life right now. Before you ask, im not a suicidal person, im a very proud individual that happens to be good at many things, but I cant stand the failure of my stuttering. I think im being too hard on myself, but that's how I feel and I cant let that go, like a HUGE thorn on my side.

I went from being an outgoing person in highschool to a cynic loner.

Sorry, my english its not my first language. I hope you understand what im trying to say.

I went through this phase, then I am came out the other side *yay*. I have done a load of stuttering courses and I always used to hate how older people would say that you will get over caring about stuttering. However, to some extent they have a point.

When I was in my teens I would be very self concious all the time. I would stay quiet just to avoid stuttering. I would avoid the phone and I would get annoyed if I was cornered by someone who wanted/needed me to talk.

Then I left school and needed to either get a job or do some further education. I was thrown into environments where I knew no one. At this point I had the choice to either sink or swim. I am by no means the most out going person but I am far from a hermit. I feel that I have to make a bit of an effort to be social but this effort pay's off.

Kids can be mean but on whole, most people don't care if you stutter or not. If you can get your head around this and learn to laugh at yourself a little you will find life with a stutter far easier.

[Iron Cable]

I went through this phase, then I am came out the other side *yay*. I have done a load of stuttering courses and I always used to hate how older people would say that you will get over caring about stuttering. However, to some extent they have a point.

When I was in my teens I would be very self concious all the time. I would stay quiet just to avoid stuttering. I would avoid the phone and I would get annoyed if I was cornered by someone who wanted/needed me to talk.

Then I left school and needed to either get a job or do some further education. I was thrown into environments where I knew no one. At this point I had the choice to either sink or swim. I am by no means the most out going person but I am far from a hermit. I feel that I have to make a bit of an effort to be social but this effort pay's off.

Kids can be mean but on whole, most people don't care if you stutter or not. If you can get your head around this and learn to laugh at yourself a little you will find life with a stutter far easier.The story of my life.;)