Roots of Friendships

[GoodGuy]

Do you guys know the reasons why your friends are friends with you in the first place? How did you meet them? and How did you become friends anyways?

Currently, I certainly have more than a handful of friends, but it all started when one of them took pityon me. Pity. He saw that I was a loner, and he decided to become my friend? I don't know, but that makes me half-disgusted. I don't want any friendships built on pity, it makes me feel weak and pathetic. I don't want to be felt sorry for by anyone. Nevertheless, because of that guy, I'm quite popular in school, so I guess it's an alright trade?

[Penelope]

It might be true that this person decided to take the initiative and to approach you and strike up a friendship with you because he saw you were by yourself, but I doubt he'd still be your friend if you didn't have something to offer.

Now you have friends and are seen as popular, there is no reason for this guy or anyone else to feel pity for you for being a loner, yet they still like you. Have more faith in what you have to offer as a friend.

[jenna343]

True friends can be treasured for better or worst.no matter how far you are still you can be friends as long as you can communicate with each other.

[emily445455]

I have a friend like that. She wouldn't admit it was pity....but she saw I always stood and sat alone during class so she came over to talk to me. Our friendship isn't much of a friendship since we have almost nothing in common.....so we don't hang out, and not that I've graduated I don't think I'll see much of her now at all.

Another friend I met at church, but she's kind of flaky and we don't do much together because she never calls me back, etc.

Yup, that's about it....I have virtually no friends....

[Zachary]

Blah. If they are only befriending you out of pity, then rake them for all they are worth. No room for scruples in this situation. Sleep with his GF too if you can. Or steal the attention of his parents. Parents adore cute, plucky disabled kids. If they're Christian they'll think you're like Moses reincarnate. Don't forget to buddy up with his pets. Usurp him as the alpha in this relationship too. Target the roots of his self-esteem and confidence. When everything in his life favors you over him, you've won.

:D

Aside from that, never take a pity lay unless you plan to thoroughly dominate and demean the chick during the process. This ties in with the advice I've just given.

[GoodGuy]

Woah, now that sounds like a plan! I'm adding that to my to-do list. :D

[JohanZombie]

Zachary: :D