Any general but helpful tips

[Ster]

You guys have any tips? I hate when I stutter, I feel so embarrased when I do and nervous. Thanks

[Neptunes]

My advice is to try and be confident and stay focused, and say to yourself, "I can do this". If you keep going around withdrawn and sheepish other people will pick up on this and it will make your stutter worse, hold your head up high. I know what you mean about being embarrassed and nervous, beleive me, I have been there, but I am begining to learn that its all about confidence. If I stutter a bit if talking to someone new I tend to just look them in the eye and carry on as if nothing happend, that tells them that you are comfortable with it so they usually respond the same way, you could even say something like "oh yeah, by the way I stutter a bit sometimes" you will be suprised that most people won't even be bothered by it, two minutes later they will be worrying about what their having for dinner or thinking about buying a lottery ticket or something. And remember to smile and say "hello" (eaisier said than done if you stutter on "H's") doing that you have acknowledged everyone and you will feel more relaxed.

[EndOfHeart]

Those tips are good and I agree its about confidence.
Also don't try to think about what you are gonna say or if you will stutter. When I wanted or have to talk, I used to repeat over and over the word or words I wanted to say in my mind or sound it out a bit. But that seemed to make it worse. I know its hard to forget you stutter but try to think of something else but still focus on what you gonna say not how.

[Dug23]

Yeah i agree with the above totally. Its all about confidence and being positive. Repeating and getting hooked on what you are going to say as opposed to being spontaneous makes it tougher. I remember when i was younger i went through a phase of not being able to answer a phone without stuttering the hello part when i answered it. Each time the phone rang i was like oh no - here we go again and just got stuck on the h... ello. Then one day for some reason i just answered the phone without thinking and bam - it was fine and from then on i never had a problem. Just gotta break the viscious circle of being negative and relax. Its not easy but you can do it.

[Standingtall]

I agree with the other posts. We have been there my friend. You have confidence, just a matter of using it. People can pick up what we are feeling in different ways. I talk pretty good for a person that stutters, but when i do have a block or start stuttering, I keep going. I sometimes make it more noticable, add that extra a' or p's, to let the other people know, that I stutter and I don't mind letting you know it too. That is just my way of dealing with othe people and I think I am pretty successful with it.

[aKoChiC86]

Hello, I am from Sweden and yes, I stutter too.

I just want to agree with the above posts, particularly the one which said: "Dont think about what you are going to say, dont fear the words in advance". That is so true, let me make an example:

I am at a coffeeschop, I look at the menu. Now I know what I prefer, but here is the strange thing, and tragic also: I order what Im less likely to stutter on! I let myself being controlled by it! That is so wrong and evil :/

So i agree, do not repeat the phrases inside your head by stalling on certain words thinking "Would I stutter this word? Then replace it...". i try to live by this, but sometimes I cant help fear words inside my ehad before it comes out...