Fixing lost friendships

[nerrad]

I had this friend who I've known since I was about 7 or 8 (I'm now 16). We used to be really close up until I started high school 2 years ago. I was over his house just about everyweekend. And then when I started highschool, my self-esteem crashed a long with a lot of fluency I had. So I pretty much just stopped talking to him and everyone else. I haven't talked to him since January but even before then I hadn't seen him sincethe summer before. Now that I'm getting texting back in a few days, it's going to make it a hell of a lot easier to communicate with people I'm not able to personally communicate with at the moment. I'd like to be friends again, so how should a PWS go about reconnecting a friendship that was crushed by stuttering? Do I just tell him I've been going through tough times and I didn't mean to cut him off?

[Iron Cable]

First off, I should say that if he's was such a close friend, the stuttering realy wouldn't bother him. You should never distance yourself from friends and family only because your afraid of stuttering when you speak to them, because....who can you talk to, if not them.

When you talk to your friend, you should explain to him what happened and hope he understands. Of course, I don't know what kind of relationship you had, but if you two were close, I'm sure he'd be happy to here from you.

[DKoz]

I'm sure if you just explain it to him that your life changed due to stuttering, than I'm sure everything will be fine. If he doesn't than he's an a#@hole. He must have noticed this. I have a friend that became very depressed because he had certain things going on in his life and we didn't speak for about 5 years. Then out of the blue he called me one day and we have been hanging out ever since.

When you contact your friend, tell him it wasn't personal or against him and just explain the situation to him.

You'll be fine!

[nerrad]

Thanks guy. I don't think he's the type that would be mean about it. He already knew about and accepted my stuttering. But when it started getting worse, my self-esteem mixed into that ands I just pulled back from everyone.