My situation, my limitation

[aKoChiC86]

newbie on this forum as I am, I see a lot of spirit in here. I like the idea of sharing advices and experiences, so we are not alone. Of my social circle, I am the only stutterer.

I recently wrote a huge post, but I got logged out so all got erased :/ Anyway, I sum up :)

By stuttering I get limited, and maybe you feel the same. By limitation I mean that we want to say something, but we dare not in fear of stuttering and hence showing our "flaw". In many occasions, I seem the asocial, silent type.

This is partly because I dont have any interesting to say at the moment, but it's mainly because I fear stutter! I can have a whole phrase or topic i want to bring up but they stay in my mind, therefore its hard for me to make a joke to. Who laughs at a joke that is delayed and interrupted with. "um, I mean.. "

lately I have felt like just forcing the words out, but even so, there is a real blockade! I have provblem making the first sound, I stay with mouth open and nothing comes out, I hold my BREATH.
I read a post and someone emphasized the importance of breathing, and I got enlighted. I notice when I stutter or have trouble speaking, I build up tenison in my breath. I inhale-inhale-inhaaalllle - hoold my breath - and then stutter a word.

This was reallt a description of my situation, I have no real question but I'd be glad if you would develop this, maybe giving me advices or reflecting...

my first post... ;)

/Andreas

[EndOfHeart]

Really only advice I could give is to have more confidence, as you see in a few other posts that seems to be a major problem. But of course you can't just develop confidence quickly, takes lots of time.

I'm 19 also and go though the same situations as you do like breathing different then just not saying anything even though I want to. So I'm known as the silent type as well but no one knows I stutter only some friends and they don't care that much.

[Iced Tea]

If your social group only includes people who know you well, there is no way they will think you are anti social. You stutter and sometimes you can't or don't want to talk.

I have the same problem; sometimes I have so many funny things to say but I can't because I'm having a really bad stuttering day. It frustrates me to no end and I get more worked up the next time because of it. But I eventually overcame it.

Just be yourself, tell your jokes, your friends will find them funny no matter the rate at which they come out. This will help you relax and things will get easier. :)