Consequence, so what?

[aKoChiC86]

Jus recently today, I experienced another of my major verbal-blocks. I was just going to ask my mom if she used to make "Glögg" (swedish drink) at X-mas, but I felt the words just pushing against the wall.
Eventually I didn't say anything about that...

Tha made me think, as many times before. What if I HAD dragged the words out, would I've stuttered? Ill never know, would she been glad that I asked? Dito...

A lot of the times we feel blocked, the state with the FEAR of stuttering, we concern ourselves with the consequences. And most of the time we expect the worst, for example that the listener would be fed up and, in this case, my mom would think miserably for me as her son.

( Now, I don't write this about the actual stuttering, I'm meaning the state where one has words to say but the mouth remains closed and one is so certain one will stutter upon saying them! )

Sometime, I would like to just "go for it". What do I mean with that? Well, I mean just ignoring the fearful consequencs we so nicely have printed in our minds, and PUSH the words out. That push may make words stutter, or not... How will we know - by trying. I lack the dare to do it among people.

This has, for me, a lot to do with my secrecy and hus-hush. Although most of my social vicinity have heard me stutter sometmes, I still are'nt open with it.
That's not good.

All above I wrote just to share, and although I didn't really state a question, I'd appreciate some ideas... :) I mean, what do you think about the fear of consequence and why we block words?

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I recently read this fine article about John Harrisson, which I think you should read. Among other things he brings up that stuttering is mainly caused by the way be confront people, meaning it's not only our speech, but our feelings as well. Many of you may have heard of this, and.. it's quite a no-brainer :)
Interesting though..

Be well, oh and when talking to people, force eye-contact, make the person notice you notice oneself.


http://www.mnsu.edu/comdis/kuster/I...rrison/john.htm

[Standingtall]

Interesting topic, I use to think how bad my stutter is going to be before jumping into any conversation. Today, most times, I jump in if the topic interest me and give my two cents worth. I guess it will depends on the topic if you feel like you have to 'go for it' and not worry about the consequences. Unless you want to prove to yourself you can. I usually make a noise or grunt to grab their attention and usually stutter on the first word and the rest just flows out. Well that is my two cents.

[Antman5434]

my thought on the topic is don't even think about the consequences just express your opinions, you'll may have something that grab the listeners attention. My not expressing yourself, just lowers your self esteem.

[Perad]

You will feel better after saying the word. Mainly because you get this "Glogg" drink.

By not even attempting to say a word you are letting your stutter govern your life. Its this that you should wary of.

And you should really strive to not let it impact your actions.

[Once Social]

aKoChiC86.

I treat stuttering exactly the way you do. Most of the time I try my best to keep my stuttering blocks a secret. I think I do this because a fear of embarrassment, looking "stupid", and I don't want people to feel sorry for me. Sometimes there are moments where I'm talking to people and I can care less if they know I stutter, but then the next day I'll develop that same fear again ~ it's frustrating.

This is the one thing that's baffles me though. When I really think about it, I don't mind stuttering around people. It's the stuttering blocks that kill me, but don't we have blocks because we're afraid to stutter?
what do you guys think?

[aKoChiC86]

It's the stuttering blocks that kill me, but don't we have blocks because we're afraid to stutter?
what do you guys think?

Yes, that is true. At least that's logical... Since you don't feel embarassed stuttering among people, but still get the blocks - that's a thinker.
Sat down with a friend at the coffeeshop yesterday and started chatting. I have never stuttered more words with a firend than that moment. I had a bad day, and as I said, it ended up with a block at the dinner table.

Don't know about you guys, but I hate blocks :)
When I am encountering one, I breath slowly and syaing to myself.. "now, say it!", but I just exhale empty air and build up the tension furthermore...

At that point, what keeps me from expressing myself IS the fear of stuttering. At that point I am convinced that I will stutter at the beginning of the eventual sentence. That must change, my attitude. Maybe I don't stutter, I'll never know.

It's important to get to know ones stutter and the reasons and consequences, all these are factors against a complete awareness. But as said up there, it's the attitude towards converations we must alter, not the way we spak. The way we speak should only be put in mind as WE PROGRESS. Until we are enlighted... :)