Do you let others finish your sentences when you are stuck??

[Ails]

Do you let others finish your sentences when you are stuck??
Do you let others finish your sentences when
you are stuck?? Why or why not???

People say it's not right to
finish a stutterers sentence--
but i highly disagree..the stutterer
feels total desperation to get
the word out, and the word is
on the tip of the toung but it just
won't come out!!

That happens to me alot- I
may be going along fine, i come
to a word- and i get stuck on it--
and it's literaly on the tip, of
my toung- and I can visualy see
it coming out.. and at that exact
moment that i get stuck, that
someone who should not be
interupting has to be patient
and not help the stuttering-
while the stutterer is taking
what seems forever to say a
word which he can see in his
head but just can't spit out!!

Personaly if i get stuck on a
word that I feel I can say in
my mind, but not physicaly, I
would love the listener to
help me out!!

My point-

I would much rather have a
listener help me out if I get
stuck on a word or thought,
then have them wait what
seems like eternity for me to
spit out a word!!

And no, to me it's not interrupting--
for a stuttering person,
one who helps by filling in a word or
couple words one is stuck on could
be very positive and helpfull..it should
not seem rude or mean for a listener to
help a stutter with what he wants
to say!!

But on the other hand, if a regular
person who does not stutter can
get his point across easily without
trouble, he should not be interupted!!!

So in other words listening
to a stutterer can be just as
nice as listening to a non-
stutterer as long as the person
knows that interupting can
be helpfull for those who are
having trouble talking!!

If the stutterer would like
the listener to interrupt to
help him with words he has
in his mind but cannot physicly
say, I say help him-- but the
stutterer should let the listener
know if he would like to be helped
beforehand if he gets stuck..

Like, before meeting someone
for the first time say something
like "I stutter and lots of words
I get stuck on I can visualize saying
them right in my mind but they
wont come from my mouth- so i
would appreciate it if you see me
having obvious trouble, instead of
waiting quietly and patiently, feel
free to help me out by filling in my
words or just anticiapte what I am
trying to say, and answer me based
on what you know I am trying to say--
it takes the frusteration off me- and
keeps the conversation going..

[Nemo]

This is a much debated issue, and I agree with you. When I was a child I loved it and was very grateful when eg. my mother put me out of my misery by helping me say a difficult word or sentence.

Like with so many stuttering issues, it depends on the individual, perhaps also on the age of the individual. Most PWS would probably prefer not to have their sentences finished, but this does not apply to all. As you say, a PWS should inform listeners whether they should finish his / her sentences or not. It's all part of being open about your defect and letting others know how they should handle you.

[prg5001]

yes, I let others have a go, it's only polite.

I also finish other people's (non-stutters) sentences off for them too.

Cheers,

Paul

[grantM]

A personal issue. I may let the listener finish for me but I would complete the word myself anyway. I do not see it as being rude at all

[Bill Hargis]

I'd much rather they finish for me than say spit it out or some other stupid thing. I used to have blocks that I could not recover from and it helped for someone to finish for me.

[twk117]

I agree, I prefer people finishing a word that I'm stuck on. It's actually quite odd with me, I can be stuck on a word and as soon as the person says it I can instantly say it without trouble

[Zachary]

It depends for me. If they know for sure what I am going to say, then its not an issue. I do find it annoying when someone tries to guess multiple times at finishing my sentence, each time incorrectly.

[emily445455]

I absolutely hate it when people finish my sentences for me.

[Skye]

I actually find it somewhat helpful. I mean, if people do it continuously and never let me finish what I'm saying, then it gets really obnoxious, but from time to time, if I really just can't get the word out, then I find it helpful.

[troutbum]

same here emily, i hate it when people finish sentences for me as well. i have kindly told people to "not do that" because it does not help me at all.

[jamesm]

Yea, I don't really like it when other people finish my sentences. For me, at least in the past (I never stutter repetitiously anymore, only blocks), the people who finish the sentences do so in a some what pompous manner, like they think they know exactly whats on my mind and I'm so easy to figure out or that I am so predictable, like I have some sort of simple mind. Like them thinking, "I knew what you were going to say before you said it". LOL, then again it was probably all in my head. Like Zachary I think its funny as hell when people sit there and guess every "t word" in the dictionary if I am saying "t-t-t-t-t....". I guess they aren't as good at the "game" as they thought they were. :)

[Jeff99]

it's a must to finish your own sentences a must otherwise your giving your power away. and next time you say that word it creeps up on you "someone had to help me say this work last time" your feeding the fire as they say.

finish your own words and sentences hold your head up high tell yourself i can get my point across in my time.

i know some people like others to finish it for them get it over with etc i can't understand that. but IMO i think ithas a long term negative result and a massive dent in your own self belief that you can say what you need to in YOUR OWN TIME

[Zachary]

Yea, I don't really like it when other people finish my sentences. For me, at least in the past (I never stutter repetitiously anymore, only blocks), the people who finish the sentences do so in a some what pompous manner, like they think they know exactly whats on my mind and I'm so easy to figure out or that I am so predictable, like I have some sort of simple mind. Like them thinking, "I knew what you were going to say before you said it". LOL, then again it was probably all in my head. Like Zachary I think its funny as hell when people sit there and guess every "t word" in the dictionary if I am saying "t-t-t-t-t....". I guess they aren't as good at the "game" as they thought they were. :)

You mentioned another type of sentence finisher that annoys me; the people who think I'm simple and/or they have me figured out. Its whatever I guess, I try not to let this stuff get the best of me, lol :D I've grown to be kind of the opposite, I rarely block these days but I have killer repetitions. Its like I'm trying to start a car or something, LOL.

:rolleyes:

[dkroner]

It depends for me. If they know for sure what I am going to say, then its not an issue. I do find it annoying when someone tries to guess multiple times at finishing my sentence, each time incorrectly.

Yea I have to agree with that. Although I definitely let others finish for me, and am more relieved when they do so the conversation can continue without harping on that eternity that it takes for me to say what i need to, when they start to go down the list of possibilities I just want them to stop and let me say it. I would give the listener two, three guesses max, to figure it out. After that, I'm on my own haha

[chris2112]

It depends for me. If they know for sure what I am going to say, then its not an issue. I do find it annoying when someone tries to guess multiple times at finishing my sentence, each time incorrectly.

I agree, I have a friend who finishes whole sentences for me that are completely wrong hahah. I usually don't like when people finish my statements, especially my parents, it cuts off practice lol If I'm having a rarely bad time for some reason I do find it helpful though.

[Be YOURSELF]

A lot of the time we don't have a choice, people just do it, it will even take longer to tell them to not finish the sentences

[grantM]

Yes but it is human nature to lend assistance to people. They are just trying to help. Give'm a break mate. Unless of course they have been told not to but continue to do so :)

[emily445455]

same here emily, i hate it when people finish sentences for me as well. i have kindly told people to "not do that" because it does not help me at all.

How do you tell them that? I've been trying to think of a way to tell ppl not to finish my sentences but I don't want to come off looking like a jerk.