Duno what to do with me life

[Blueberrypie]

Hi all, I've just graduated fro muni with an architecture degree and already I'm working in an archy firm. Most people would see this as a very good opportunity but after 3 days of working I'm beginning to feel quite paincky about my current situation.

Basically, my supervisor who's in charge of my team is quite a difficult guy to work with. He's mean, rude, impatient, eratic person who is also bad at managing people. The colleagues here are generally nice, but I'm having difficulty connecting with them (I'm currently in beijing however my mandarin isn't all that pro since I've been away from china for almost 13years). And finally, being one of the very few females in a man's profession makes it even harder for me to get along with the guys.

So already there is some tension at work, And since I'm quite a socially awkwark person who's generally quite nervous around new people, this tension really doesn't help me to feel ease at work. It's only been 3 days and already my supervisor has asked me to ring other commpanies. And as you 're all probabaly quite familar with, phone calls are horrifying experiernces for me. With my lack of skills in manadarin, needless to say, I stutter on the phone quite easily, and other people at work can hear me. Even before talking to the person on the other end I start to get nervous, feel dizzy or get pain in my body.

The work here is also quite difficult, I'm not all that familiar with the computer programs they use so I feel like bit of an idiot.

And so all in all, work is really beginning to worry me about my future. I thought that being in china, somewhere that I was once familiar with, somewhere to do with my heritage that I would feel comfortable with the people here, but really, as long as they're strangers I would feel nervous, it doesn't matter where they're from or what genda/age, as long as they're unfriendly it doesn't help me with me nerves and speech.

So my question is, where can I live? What can I do, or can I change my way of thinking somehow? Perhaps I'm missing some form of enlightenment?

Sorry if all of this sounds like a jumbled bunch of info, everything's going through my mind atm.

Any help would be greatly aprpeciated!
Thank you all heaps!

[Breadfish]

Relax. Three days won't tell you anything. Do you really think that you'll get anywhere in life, yet alone where you want to get (wherever that might be), if you can't stick with something? Even if you ultimately decide that what you're doing right now doesn't suit you, having seen it through to some extent might help you decide where to go next.

[Box of Clocks]

Sounds like your having a tough time at work at the moment but like Breadfish said I think you should give it a bit more time before starting to panic. Things like getting familiar with the computer programs and the language will improve as time goes on so you may find your stress levels start to decrease and thus your stuttering gets a little better. Over time you may also start to develop friendships with some of your co workers.

[Nemo]

The first days at a new job after university are usually VERY tough and stressful, and you have my sympathy. Just do your best, and don't worry about the rest. Take each day at a time, try to survive each day, then relax at night and at weekends. Gradually you'll get used to the people, the work and the new routine. If unsure about your position there, just try to last for a respectable period, say 6 months or a year, so that it doesn't reflect bad on your CV. Try to be positive - the experience you're gaining now is very valuable. Try to learn as much as you can, acquire a problem-solving attitude and do your best. I hope this helps, good luck!

[Thomkatt]

No matter where you live you will always face the same challenges with stuttering. Any job is going to require communication. The only things I can think of to recommend is to tell co-workers that you stutter. Another thing would be to attend a support group. Other people who stutter have been there and could give you good advice.