Overprotective parents

[Confused person]

I've come to belief that my overprotective parents are the cause of my problem. It may sound like I'm playing the blame game, but for the longest time they've constantly butted in and not let me sort things out for myself, and as a result I have nothing but anxiety about practically everything. Does anybody here have any advice on how to deal with them?

[studentdoc]

I've come to belief that my overprotective parents are the cause of my problem. It may sound like I'm playing the blame game, but for the longest time they've constantly butted in and not let me sort things out for myself, and as a result I have nothing but anxiety about practically everything. Does anybody here have any advice on how to deal with them?
My parents were a bit similar when I was growing up

[Standingtall]

I understand, I have twin girls who are stuttering and I don't want them to go through what I experienced. My stutter was not an issue with my parents when I was growing up.

[Perad]

Finding your feet when you are young and dealing with day to day situations is beneficial.

But! Having a sheltered life wouldn't cause a stutter.

Just pretend to be confident, i find that helps me get over the hurdle of doing something i don't enjoy.

"If i was confident what would i do"

Then i do it :)

[jessicaabruno]

Know this feeling all too well. Also, fraternal twin sister is the same way. Also suffered from depression/anxiety and that makes matters worse as well.

[AstralMystic]

This thread is a bit old now I suppose but I want to give my two cents on it anyway. :) When I was young, my mother tried so hard... to hard actually... to protect me. When my family went out to eat she would find out what I wanted and simply order my lunch of me. She would speak for me at the doctor, that kind of thing. She once talked me out of trying for a bigger role in a school play, because she wanted me to do less actual speaking. What she didn't realize at first though is that I wanted to be able to simply interact with people. I think that is honestly never even occurred to her, it wasn't her fault. When I was in my early teens I simply spoke to her about the matter. She said that she just didn't like the idea of a risk of someone laughing or mocking. I explained that if she never let me speak for myself they'd laugh anyway. besides how could I ever hope to have a life in my 20's... (or 50's) if I didn't even know how to order lunch. She quit doing it. Really no one laughed. Talking to your parents about your own feelings on this matter is a very useful thing to do, IMO. If that doesn't work and the trouble continues then, harsh as it may sound, I suggest you tell them up front that if they are going to keep it up, you will not be going with them into any speaking situations. My thought is that, that ought to make a person realize that it's actually a more important issue then they have been able to realize.