stuttering girls-i need your help! :/

[pgaprospect22]

hey, let me explain to you all how my last like ALL (literally ALL) relationships have gone.

1st we meet (which is usually a brief thing becuase i keep thinking that the longer i stay and chat, the better chance i have to mess up and stutter, and then im screwed) ...okay, then we start either texting or talking on chat...and this lasts for a while untill we see eachother again, which is usually at a party, when ive been drinking (which for me alch helps alot)...and blah blah blah this goes on and on. me just keep trying to avoid having a genuine conversation w her, becuase i fear that when she finds out that i do stutter, its over, she wont get it or understand whats happening and then its over...but then eventually she does find out, and that exact thing happens.
After this happens over and over again i keep coming to the conclusion that the only real relationship/ or a girl getting to know the real me is me finding a girl who stutters...i just feel that there would just be that instant connection there, idk...but im frustrated for sure...

[JR123]

man, a girl that doesn't accept you for who you are is deffinitly not your dream girl or " The One", so don't bother your self alot with this, i know, its frustrating to see all your friend dating and having a relationship with their gfs and you staying all alone, but time will come and you'll find a girl that accepts you as you are!!

trust me!!, i suffer as you do!!

[DFedison]

I'm curious: why do you fear letting a woman know that you stutter? Sure, it might not be appropriate in certain situations. I know that if you're feeling ambivalent about whether the woman you're talking to is the right match for you, that it's not always practical or easy to do so. But sometimes it is, and sometimes it helps.

I would try not to let this fear be detrimental to your possible relationships. Most people will respect you for being open with them if/when you have any difficulty speaking. And if they laugh, explain to them what it's like. Don't go out of your way if they're in stitches, and don't be mean about it, but give them a reasonable explanation about what stuttering is, and how, in many ways, it's autonomous. If, after your explanation, the person does not apologize, or is rude or insincere in their apology, then you make the decision as to whether you want to pursue her. The gut feeling, I'm quite sure, will guide you along the right path.

[sgiles]

No sense in trying to be someone you are not, it eventually happens, stress builds as you continue to hide your stuttering. The best way is the open way, be yourself, the right person won't care

[mara]

I am a girl and I stutter. I never had troubles meeting guys: I don't know why but at the beginning of a relationship I almost never stutter. Anyways, after a while they find out. So far, they have always been very understanding and no one has never laughed at me. And if anybody every did, I would have dumped hime right away: if a person is that stupid, she doesn't deserve my love. And so should be for you :)
I have a boyfriend since many years now, he knows I stutter and he knows how much I suffer about it. But sometimes, we make fun of my stutter together: he can do it, because I know it's only a way to make me smile and make me understand that my stuttering is not a problem for him.

[JustWanted2B]

all of us suffers .... but what's the solution ??

if u have just provide it :)

[N9NEstein]

I am a girl and I stutter. I never had troubles meeting guys: I don't know why but at the beginning of a relationship I almost never stutter. Anyways, after a while they find out. So far, they have always been very understanding and no one has never laughed at me. And if anybody every did, I would have dumped hime right away: if a person is that stupid, she doesn't deserve my love. And so should be for you :)
I have a boyfriend since many years now, he knows I stutter and he knows how much I suffer about it. But sometimes, we make fun of my stutter together: he can do it, because I know it's only a way to make me smile and make me understand that my stuttering is not a problem for him.

its alot different for guys though...we dont really care what you say, or how you act, or if your funny or not haha...just mostly about how you look, but with girls its almost the exact opposite

[skyblue]

I agree it's different for men and women. I personally would not date a guy who stutters even though I myself stutter! pretty cruel I know.. but I just feel EXTREMELY uncomfortable when someone stutters in front of me

[Alaina]

Both my father and my uncle stutter, and they are both married. Though my mother and father are divorced, my mother told me that she was never put off by his stutter, partly because her brother stutters, and partly because he was such a romantic and a sweet guy.

I think it helps if you let the person you're interested in know ahead of time that you stutter, don't hide it from them, that way you don't waste any of your precious time on the wrong girl.

If your stutter bothers her, then good riddance! Send her on her way!
If she truly doesn't care (only you can tell) then you know you have a genuinely caring person who is date-worthy.

The right girl will come along, trust me :) My friend Dave has a severe stutter and he has no problem with women. Just give it time, be patient, be open and honest, and work on your romancing--that always helps ;)

[freeflow918]

So basically a guy who stutters is the the equivalent to a fat ugly chick lol! Nature's a thats alright i won't let it get me down!