why ALL stutterers should be ARROGANT

[N9NEstein]

I posted this idea before on someone elses thread, but im seeing so many "confidence" issues posts, and i thought i should make a thread of it :P

So for me at least, this helped with my confidence alot, actually i think it was the only thing that ever helped my confidence haha, but it did so in such a way that it made me so confident i became ARROGANT...however, it made me JUSTIFIABLY arrogant, and thats the key. You having a logical, good reason to be proud of yourself, or think you better than the people around you...

OK so heres the jist-I think its blatently obvious why some stutterers lack confidence in themselves...just as so bradd pitt is confident-he has a reason to be...stutterers cant offer as much as a non stutterer...and so for a LONG time i didnt have alot of confidence and i thought "everyone was better then me, or i was LESS than they are"...and here is where ive found it doesnt add up...

After a while, and i dont know why it took so long haha but...i thought about how EASY life would be without a stutter, and this was absolutely key...if you just let that idea sink in, you look down on EVERYONE ....you think, wow, all these "problems" you guys have-money, relationships, grades, car broke down etc etc...there are nothing...your life is so easy i cant even imagine..(and literally its hard for me sometimes to imagine how EASY life would be without a stutter, i would like take over the world haha)

you think, i go through the same crap (i wanted to swear there but im not sure if its allowed lol), everyday, even the smallest, most insignifigant thing, that YOU dont think twice about (maybe not even think once about) can literally ruin my day...

I thought, how PATHETIC are you people, your lives are so easy..."I am so much better, and so much stronger than you are i cant even describe it"

Thats the basic idea of what helps me at least...which is why i walk around like im better than everyone else, becuase in my eyes, i defintely am. We stutterers are so much better than "them", if ya know what i mean...It comes down to the basic idea that "their lives are sooo easy, too easy" which is why I am so arrogant...and arrogant, in most other context is defintely a bad thing...but for stutterers its justified

Thinking this way has DEFINTELY changed my life, for the WAYYY better haha...

However, but i did notice that, stutteres can either have one of two "realistic" stances on their stutter-we either get Angry, mad that we have it, think its unfair...OR we get sad, depressed that we have to have this ball and chain on our neck so to speak...and every stutterer that ive met, so far at least, takes the sad approach...so maybe this way of thinking doesnt work for everybody, but id thought id put it out there cause its helped me bigtime :P
good luck yall

[Zachary]

Oh yes, indeed. I agree with this 100%

[ratboy]

i don't know about the "i'm better than anyone else" part, but confidence does play a big role. that's why it is known we stutterers don't stutter when talking to an animal or a child, there is no fear involved. and although i would not want to say it is fear, stuttering DOES become a downward spiral: stutter > battered self-esteem > stutter > more difficulty engaging in conversation and self-awareness about the stutter... when we are conscious of our self-worth, our stutter is sharply reduced. at least to the people i've talked to about this. so even if you're feeling down, CHIN UP, you'll stutter less.

[Khanon]

Honestly, that is a very interesting take... I like it!

[bar08]

I went in this thread thinking that I was going to read some arrogant nonsense. You know, a guy who's had a bad day sort of story, but this actually turned out pretty good. I don't think I would go as far as being arrogant towards others, but I like the way you put it because non stutterers can't even imagine what we have to go through sometimes. Their lives are so much easier compared to ours. Nice post man.

[ForvrKate]

What happens when you meet someone who is paralyzed? Since their life is worse than yours, do you feel inferior to them and lose your confidence?

[amey]

I completely get what you are saying. Some may be turned off by the word arrogant, but we understand. I like to think of the word PRIDE! -- Why all stutterers should be PRIDEFUL!

[Dinasaur]

actually a nice idea. i've thought about that before.
another thing to add on to the arrogance, don't you think it would be so much easier on you if you just said ,"ok, i stutter. and everyone else will just have to deal with it and listen. and if they dont, their problem, not mine"

[N9NEstein]

What happens when you meet someone who is paralyzed? Since their life is worse than yours, do you feel inferior to them and lose your confidence?

This is a little different-comparing who has a worse off life...and stutterers are extemely underated in this catagory...just becuase of the intense irony, not of just a certain situation, but of their lives...Take a guy who is paralyzed-at least he can talk, be a teacher, give lectures, become a pillar of science like stephen hawking...least he can form legitimate relationships etc...

I forgot where i read it, but a BLIND stutterer was asked what affliction would he rather give up, and he chose the stutter bc when he would walk into a room, people would see that he is blind and be able to react accordingly when/if they interacted with him, but the stutter was a different animal, in that no one had time to react, or knew how to for that matter.

I almost think that stuttering is one of the worst hinders you can have...bc anything "worse" than that, you usually arent expected to be part of normal society (make a living, raise a family) and anything more than that is at least UNDERSTOOD by most of society...stuttering doesnt even get its deserved attention on TV shows that are supposed to educate people-such as intervention, or the tons of OCD reality type shows, or Turettes...this is bc the producers no one would really get it, (not having the ablity to talk) and then no one would really watch.

However, rambling on about how bad we have it is a total waste of time, but, as for the question, if i did think someone did have a worse life than me...i wouldnt be "intimidated" by them, and lose my confidence because of that...i would have the utmost respect for them, and probrably try hard to befreind that person just bc i know that they are far more likely to get what im going through...