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whenimgone
06-12-2010, 02:52 PM
Hi everyone. I'd been reading the forum like forever, & glad im actually posting one. I'm a mild stutter- IMO. I'd been stuttering since when i was like 8? around there. Life was dreadful. I basically spoke repetitively when i was younger & that kinda cease when i grew up (i'm hitting 20 btw). I'm facing blocks in almost every conversation & that kinda hit my confidence level rock bottom back every single time. Like for instance, i had no problem purchasing movie tickets but right now, my heartbeats quicken whenever i gotta start speaking for the number of tickets & there you go, my block surfaced even before i started speaking. i felt ashamed and ridiculous. Sometime, i think i've grown dumb because i have always substitute words and speak randomly whenever i try to avoid from stuttering out. Damn, i hate myself for goodness sake. I loathe the way i spoke & suicide options kept flashing across my mind. But i just couldn't bear to leave my family.

Music were my motivation ever since i'd gotten so depressed about the way i speak. I began so self-conscious and that always get in the way. Before i spoke to someone, i just kept thinking 'should i talk? what if i stutter? what if my words just couldnt come out. what if i opened my mouth and i just couldnt spoke. i would just be a laughing stock. just kept my mouth shut will be the best'. and then i just wouldnt want to speak. I often get away with blockage by substituting fillers. It was annoying when i kept saying er er er before i actually began speaking the first word. damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. ): I became so depress but somehow listening to music kinda hit me back home without a need for me to pour my heart out.

My life was just so messed up. I'd been avoiding social life, just staying home. I even gotten social anxiety disorder and visited the psy. My bffs probably gotten so sick of my blocks, she said" could you just speak properly". i got so upset because hello, its not like i wanna speak like that. do i have a choice? In conversations, people would just move on without waiting for me to speak because i just took too long. anyone else facing this? sigh.

Every single time i read this forum, i feel motivated because i felt we are really friends and those points stated were honestly helpful. I know acceptance is important, but it is hard to actually do it. I just cant stand the way people judge about me. some help? I just feel so lonely.

Bigrice
06-13-2010, 06:23 AM
Man I know how you feel. It is hard to make friends, get girlfriends, and get high playing jobs when you are a stutterer. It is amazing how much not being able to talk properly can mess up your life. If I wasn't a stutterer I would be a totally different person. I would probably be a very very talkative person, if I didn't stutter. I would get the jobs that require speaking, if I didn't stutter. I try not to let stuttering stop me from doing the things I want to do, but it is hard

dream431ca
06-30-2010, 08:50 AM
Dude, that's basically the story of my life. Music also has had a big positive impact. Whenever I feel down, music gets me back up.

wana change
07-01-2010, 02:22 PM
when i read ur post . . . i said ... god ... your talking about me ... !

Yup . . . i do have the same prob. exactly . . . almost your age 22 and i really understand your feellings ... i been there . . .
i do have a high GPA .. i think i am very smart . . . hard working ... BUT . . .

i do STUTTER ... :(

and the WORST thing ever in this prob. is ... when u look at the people's eyes while stuttering . . . .
AND U just wana SAY .... PEOPLE PLZ. UNDERSTAND ME I CAN'T DO ANY THING ABOUT IT...


but i think if there is no medical soulotion for this thing... the only thing we should do is :

to learn how to live with it ... and just accept that ...
after all . . . ther is some people who can't SEE ... !! talk !! walk !! SIT !! . . .
so belife me it is nothing comparing to some other things..........



and PLZ. just SMILE :) life is hell .... hahaha just Joking... life is Good .....

fighter
07-01-2010, 02:33 PM
very similar 2 me. I can not identify myself. I hv lots of gf. Even they want 2 marry me. But i left someone or not. Some girls just blame me why i m playing with them.
In some interviews i just totally messed up. But in some interview i m just bright. I cant believe that i just got a very handsome job. Everybody just enticing me.
I m mild to severe stutter. Sometimes it got better, sometimes it is worsen.
My stutting is nt a problem at all but my fear, and lack of confidence jus hindering me.
I pray 2 god, i dont want cure rather plz make me confident.

adamo
07-02-2010, 08:47 PM
i know how you feel man. a lot of eminems new stuff is helping me through this mess. a block occurs in just about every sentence i speak. even thoough i know it's hard, but positive thinking is key. i spoke to a speach thearapist and he said i needed to get back to my old stuttering. I dont even stutter anymore, i just block the stutter all the time. so he's trying to make me get back to stuttering rather then blocking it always. it's knowing that you're afraid to stutter that causes the block. hope this helps

JustinVandy
07-06-2010, 07:19 AM
I understand exactly what you are going through. Pretty much my entire life has been like that. I've had some good periods where for the most part i've been fluent enough. But i always seem to come back to a long period of just utter depression over how ridiculous i can be with my stuttering. The worst part is how sometimes i can't even say my own name. It really is a scary thing waking up with that knowledge. I just graduated high school recently and have had countless embarassing moments throughout those 12 years. I went through school speech therapy which never helped at all, and it only made me more depressed because I would be stuttering in front of the therapist.

A word of advice though. You just can't let this get you down. You can't!!! The past year I have become an Actor. And I know this is probably the worst possible hobby or profession for a stutterer. But I try not to let it get in the way. I do stutter occasionally. Mostly when introducing myself for the auditions or read throughs of the script. And suprisingly very little on stage. You have to understand that you have a right to live your life just like anyone else. Your a person too. I try to tell myself this everyday. I am always scared that i'm going to be in a situation that is going to make me stutter. In a few weeks i'll be going off to college and I am utterly terrified. But I know i'm gonna get through it. Think about it this way. No one can chop your head off for stuttering. If you stutter than stutter. Your a person too and no one is perfect. Just live your life and let others live theirs. We are gonna be ok!!! :)

TheMan56
07-06-2010, 08:14 PM
This is my life story.