Sharing my experience . . Yup, u have to read it

[wana change]

:)Hi every one…
This is my first post here, hope I am welcomed here.
I wana share my experience with u about this matter,
Where do I began …. !

The time : 8 years ago
The location : My school in 8TH grade

I was the best reader in the class until that day became … !
While reading the ( taught teacher) asked me to stop at a certain word and I did. Then he say : continue ….
Oh my god . . . I lost that word while chatting with my friend . . .
Start searching but nothing . . . then he screamed in my face for 3 times very laud …
I got soooo scared but when I found it . . . oops !!! I stuttered for the first time in my life . . .
I said mmmmm . . .. and then completed the whole thing ..
But after that day …. The hell door was opened . . .
It gone so bad that I couldn’t say a complete sentence !!
After 4 years of suffering I trained myself not to care about people’s opinion on me… and …

Will . . . I get better … yup …. I did … I start new live after hiding myself for long time…

And now … 8 years after…
I found that the problem just no wana let me go . . .
2 days ago …in college … I sit in front of 40 students ‘mostly my friends’ and do that presentation for only 3 minutes but . . . it was like . . . . 3 years …
I stuttered a lot, and the faces of my friends Like … oops …… what is wrong with him !!!
Yup . . . I was humiliated …

Now . . .
Let us all stop here . . .
And ask . . . .
Why did that guy (( me )) stuttered there … while if he was talking with a friend or alone he just don’t ?? or maybe stutter just a little ??


So it is all about the way we think . . . when we feel it is so important to speech we can’t !!
And when we don’t care we can ???
Will My friends I think we should do something about it … we should find a way that effectively change the way we think about the situations we face . . .
Tomorrow I will do another presentation … god .. I heat this . . .
Finally I think that when there is some people understand us and don’t give us that look .. it will be so better . . .
I would love making some friends here who have the same “issue” ….

[marktb68]

Again, baffled. Not one response.

Hey man, we've all been thru it. I don't have YOUR answer. You do.

Mark

[Jp72394]

Interesting, a correlation between stuttering, and a moment that caused you to be racked with fear. My dad was very violent back then (we grew up in Jamaica, so its commonplace for a loud father), and I found him very scary, and always used a deep voice subconsciously when I spoke to him (but today, he's rarely like that), and even today, when I talk to him, I always stutter, and feel more nervous than when I talk to anyone else. Your story really tells something though, that stuttering is psychological, and can result from a situation wherein your anxiety rate rises really high, and it could have a permanent effect on your psyche.

I'm not sure, i'm just speculating, but to those who presume their stuttering may have been psychological, maybe if we make things up with the person that we think is the main cause of our stuttering, and get more comfortable with, and eradicating our fear of them, it would be a great improvement on our stutter.

I met a lady in church two weeks ago, a random lady who came to visit, and we were both sitting outside, and started talking. She said that I seemed like a shy person, who doesn't really initiate conversations (not in a mean way), and I laughed and told her yeah, I have a stutter, and she told me that she used to stutter too, in 1st grade through 3rd grade, since her parents were always arguing, but once they divorced, her stuttering went away. This can really be a breakthrough. Maybe we need to resolve some psychological issues, heal some mental scars.

I'm not sure about what I can resolve with my dad, we're both anti-social, and our relationship is really just talking to each other we need to (like my grades, asking me to do something for him. He and my brother had the same kind of relationship, but my brother's stutter stopped when he was around 12, don't know why, will have to ask him), and I grew up in a way in which I really feel uncomfortable when dealing with sentimental stuff. I really don't like getting all lovey dovey with people (it affects my relationships too, because I never really showed public display of affection with any of my girlfriends because it brings about an embarrassed feeling, and if you saw us, you could never tell we were a couple, and would think I was giving her the cold shoulder, but agh, i'm more of a person who keeps to myself).

But yeah, i'm sure we all have deep fears rooted in our hearts that further our stuttering, and if we manage to resolve those, it may be able to cure our affliction.

[jamesm]

read John C. Harrison's article/book called "Redefining Stuttering". He deals with just this issue. Why most, myself included, stutterers are completely fluent while alone, but stutter when speaking before people. I'm not saying it is the end all answer for this issue, but it definitely is a start in the right direction.

A free copy in pdf form is located here :http://www.mnsu.edu/comdis/kuster/Infostuttering/Harrison/redefining.html

[danyleb]

Hello there,

Well you are lucky that you only stutter when you're having a presentation and not in every speaking occasion.

Maybe your stuttering is linked to your childhood incident and maybe caused you some kind of shock.

You know best, just analyze yourself and try to find the trigger behind it and work on changing it.

Thanks for sharing.

[wana change]

Thank u every body, and Mr. jamesm thanks for the book i will consider reading. . .