The discomfort of being around other stutterers

[BenLZ]

I know this is my first thread, it took my a while to join since the first time I registered I never received the email.

Back on topic; I find being around other stutterers extremely discomforting. Initially, I would think to myself that the other stutterer and I would hit it off immediately because we would have nothing to hide, but it is actually quite the contrary. It spooks me to see somebody else stammer; even if their stutter is not as bad as mine (which is most cases).

I know this reflects insecurity, but who could feel at ease when a fellow stutter slams your biggest weakness in your face?

I am a 15 year old stutterer from massachusetts.

[Standingtall]

Welcome BenLZ,
Yes, there was a time when I felt very uncomfortable around other people that who stutter. I was embarrassed because I didn't want other people to think I was part of that group. At a time, I though it was most important to be part of the in crowd, the cool people. Over time, I realize I like being around people in general, don't matter who they are or nationality. Now that I leaped over that fence to the other side, other people that stutter don't bother me or seeing them in movies and not feeling embarrassed at all. I try and be open as much as possible to them, so in my little way, encourage them to do the same. That may not be much, but it might encourage someone to come out of their shell. Everything little things helps. Hope that helps.

[Grambo]

Welcome Ben

[happy7117]

Welcome Ben

I probably only once in my life heard another
one stutter-- that was my band teacher
in 6th grade!!!

Wicked nice guy--he taught band!!!

It was weird hearing someone else
besides me stutter-- it was like hearing
a reflection of myself...weird!!

[happy7117]

Welcome BenLZ,
Yes, there was a time when I felt very uncomfortable around other people that who stutter. I was embarrassed because I didn't want other people to think I was part of that group. At a time, I though it was most important to be part of the in crowd, the cool people. Over time, I realize I like being around people in general, don't matter who they are or nationality. Now that I leaped over that fence to the other side, other people that stutter don't bother me or seeing them in movies and not feeling embarrassed at all. I try and be open as much as possible to them, so in my little way, encourage them to do the same. That may not be much, but it might encourage someone to come out of their shell. Everything little things helps. Hope that helps.

One kid who went to my High School
one grade below me did stutter...

It's weird, I did not feel uncomfortable around him,
but I also felt impatient around him waiting
for him to "spit it out"...

I did not say anything - but I held my thoughts
of impatience in...

I know we should feel empathy for others who we may hear stutter- but feeling empathy and
impatience for a stutterer at the same time
is something not easy for me...!!

[studentdoc]

I have a good lady friend (who I sort of dated in high school) who stuttered and never knew I did because I used to be able hide it well. The guy who fixes my car when its screwed up stutters pretty bad. My classmate stutters pretty bad. The guy who I used to make fun of before I became stuttering at the age of 7 still stutters and I saw him 2 weeks ago after many years. It does feel uncomfortable as I see how I present myself to others. We need a cure!!!!!! PLEASE!!!!

[happy7117]

I have a good lady friend (who I sort of dated in high school) who stuttered and never knew I did because I used to be able hide it well. The guy who fixes my car when its screwed up stutters pretty bad. My classmate stutters pretty bad. The guy who I used to make fun of before I became stuttering at the age of 7 still stutters and I saw him 2 weeks ago after many years. It does feel uncomfortable as I see how I present myself to others. We need a cure!!!!!! PLEASE!!!!

Seeing another one stutter confirms the fact
I already do stutter- it like reinforces the fact
I do stutter by hearing someone else stutter too..
it's like hearing ourselves echoed back to us
by someone else...