I thought of a very frightening serious situation that could happen..

[happy7117]

I deleted the last post about the "frightening
situation", because I expected it to raise
curiosity, not to offend other posters!!

But I'll state it lighter here---

How does one manage a very tense situation
in which a stutter MUST be fluent???

I like that question better!! :eek:

[Vermillion]

Why are you so negative?

It seems that you are too easily crushed by speech
failure. Yes, we all are at times like a battered animal, it
gets used to the beatings. But try to pull yourself out and make the effort. Making posts all the time about how stuttering is the worst thing in the world is not going to help your stuttering, is it?

[bignick]

Happy7117,

Fully agree with vermillion's comments, talks a lot of sense. Its amazing what you can do with your speech in times of emergency, adrenalin kicks in and your thoughts turn to saving someones life and not if you are going to stutter.
Just because you stutter doesnt mean you are not better than anyone else and couldnt do the same things as them, in fact you could do them better. Everyone is good at different things and you might surprise yourself that you are 10 times better at a subject or pastime than other people you know.
We cant go through life thinking about what if this could happen or that might happen, think about the positives you possess.

[happy7117]

Why are you so negative?

It seems that you are too easily crushed by speech
failure. Yes, we all are at times like a battered animal, it
gets used to the beatings. But try to pull yourself out and make the effort. Making posts all the time about how stuttering is the worst thing in the world is not going to help your stuttering, is it?

Making negative posts are not good indeed, but
how else can one vent the anger caused by stuttering??

I am so easily crushed by it because
I have lived with it so long, and have had
extreme patience with myself at learning
to to live with it...which is not easy!!! I am
stronger for being tough about it, but the fact is,
I can only be tough for so long....!!!

Doesn't failure seem to increase anger one has
towards stuttering??

Of course there is one way to make myself feel
better and rise above the stuttering- take karate
and tell people who dare to ridicule me that
I know karate!!---

[happy7117]

Happy7117,

Fully agree with vermillion's comments, talks a lot of sense. Its amazing what you can do with your speech in times of emergency, adrenalin kicks in and your thoughts turn to saving someones life and not if you are going to stutter.
Just because you stutter doesnt mean you are not better than anyone else and couldnt do the same things as them, in fact you could do them better. Everyone is good at different things and you might surprise yourself that you are 10 times better at a subject or pastime than other people you know.
We cant go through life thinking about what if this could happen or that might happen, think about the positives you possess.

I do have one talent that I am proud of- I
love to write--that's a good plus- but I so
wanted to be an actor long time ago in high school--
but I stuttered so bad-- that I chickened out....

I do also think that speech gets better
at least temprarily due to the "flight
or fight response"--like when extreme
situations call for it- we somehow are able to speak awesome!!!

Actualy that negative post was being
typed while I was watching an episode
of "Rescue 911", and I put the situation
of calling 911 into a question "What if
a stutterer had to call 911 to save someone??"....

[bignick]

Its good that are proud of your talent of writing. We should all be proud of what we do.
Some people handle their stutters differently than others, I dont on the whole let it get me down along with some others on the forum and I have a full life and it seems to be the ones who are older that cope better with it.
I think its down to how you feel about yourself as others have said in different topics and the more confidence you have the better you feel about yourself.
From my personal point of view, I am now at an age (36) where I am becoming thick skinned about my stutter and I think, hey I stutter and if people dont like me because of that, tough.

Keep up the writing and try and feel good about yourself and if people laugh at you, laugh back at them as they are the ones with the problem and acting like children. Dont let the b******s get to you, you are better than them.

You take it easy.

Nick

[Standingtall]

Guys don't forget we are all different and we don't always see the world in the same way. There are many people out there are overly sensitive and many are not. People will do stuff differently than you and I and that is there way of dealing with their stress. I am still overly sensitive but my skin is becoming thicker. But somedays I am still overly sensitive. Don't forget, they are many people who are fluent and not that all positive either and not all are changing the world.

[happy7117]

I just thought of something to say to counterattack
teasing-- say something like "if you don't want to stutter better than me, you have no business
making fun of me!!"- might stop them dead in their
tracks!!

Of course one could always resort to give
the person a black eye for teasing you,
and say it was for self-defense!!

But fighting never solves anything...!!!

When I'm angered about the stutter thing, I
always think about the writing potential I have...

If only I could use stuttering to
make money or to help people!!

[bignick]

Gene,

I agree with your comments and I hope that I dont come over like I know every answer because I dont, I just give my opinion on things and try and give encouragement to make people feel better about themselves.
There is no right or wrong way in dealing with your stutter and I think that everyone who has a stutter is overly sensitive, I know I still am, but nowadays it concerns me if I think I have upset people who I like and are very important to me. Poeple who dont know me or I dont like dont matter to me, you cant please everybody all the time, tried it and it doesnt work.

Keep on smiling people and lets be careful out there (bit of hill street blues there, sorry)

[bignick]

Happy7117,

You could certainly try saying that and just see the look on their faces.

As standingtall said, everyone is different in how they handle their stutter, if you want to fight, make sure you are not going to get beaten up, personally dont think fighting is the answer.

think about how good you are at writing and research into getting a short story published in a magazine and everytime someone makes fun of you, in your mind think of your success in writing.

You sound a talented person to me and you should put your anger into your writing potential and fulfil your dreams.
good luck to you.

[Standingtall]

Hey guys, I'm not picking on anybody for their comments, just giving my two cents worth. I don't have any answeres at all, but I do have some experience. I understand Happy, and it use to scare me to death, if I was put on the spot to save's someones life. I have an brother who had to go into therapy, because the guy he was perforing CPR on didn't make it. I have been on a few accidents and helped out, took directions from othe people. Haven't yet had a chance to take charge.

I did beat up a few people for making fun of my stuttering. Instead of getting support, it just backed fired on me. I got comments like, you can't take some teasing or he was not hurting you. I got many disgusting looks. I felt worse afterwards, because I felt worse than an loner. Sure, some people were happy when I beat up an bully. So, now I have learned that I am stronger for not reacting to someone who just wants to get an reaction from me. You know, who has the bigger problem, the person who is making fun, laughting or belittle you when you stutter. I had a few people laught at me, but I still kept on the topic and many times, the teasing, laughting stopped. Sure there was a few that persist, but they only want attention. So, when I got business to do, I go and do it and it I stutter, well, I stutter, but I will get my business. done.

[bignick]

I know you werent picking on anyone for comments made, just being over sensitive and making sure I dint upset my new forum buddies.
Fully agree with you about who has the bigger problem and it aint us and in my point of view, they arent even worth worrying about as if thats all they have to laugh about, then their lifes are boring as sh*t.
Everyones experiences are different and my stutter hasnt really held me back with work, friends and family but I can understand that this is not always the way and I cant start to imagine what that is like.

Keep on smiling guys if you can.

[Standingtall]

I understand about that thicker skin you talked about. I had this women laugh at me, when I stuttered but I persisted and explained something to her. Today, she is one of my best buddies. I have learned that it was nothing personal. First time she was exposed first hand to an person that stuttered. She respected me, because I didn't run off or taken her laughter personal. I persisited and finished explaining the training we were taking. Today, I expected everyone to act with the same maturity and when some don't. Don't want to sound arrogant, but I feel somewhat sorry for them. They may have lived an shelterd life, or come from broken homes, or just not happy with their own lives. They are some days I am overly sensitive and very cynical. Who doesn't have those days. Hope that helps.