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04-23-2006, 11:56 PM
Hi guys, my name is Basem,I live in Egypt, I`m 17 years old and im studying Communications Engineering and I`ve been stuttering since I was 7 or something.
It`s kinda wierd for me to be on a stuttering forum cause ya know I never really met a stutterer in life before, i mean ive met people who stutter but it was like ordinary no problemo mini stutter, but actually not serious stutters that affects our life.
Well, this year is my first year in college and i really feel like I wana change, i cant be the person I am for all these years, I`m really fed up.One of my greatest fears is the telephone.I`m actually terrified of speaking to anyone i dont know on the phone because i keep stuttering to him then he`s like waiting for me to finish my sentence :(, so finally i got a cell phone so that i can call my friends and they talk to me and stuff.i dont know if u guys have huge problems with telephones but I ran through a 2 year phone phobia, if i heard the home phone ringing, i begin to literally feel my heart pumping then run to the bathroom or something pretending im doing anything just not to answer the phone, waiting for anyone to answer then i just come out.
Oh well, sorry guys i know this is a too LONG introduction. ;),but like you all guys, I`m really bored of myself like that, and we really need to help each other to overcome this life-changing problem.
04-24-2006, 11:57 AM
Welcome to the forum, its nice to have you on board to share your experiences.
I think we all have some sort of fear regarding our stutter and I used to hate the phone, but as you get older and your life changes you adapt and hopefully grow in confidence and start to use the phone more.
I use the phone all day now and I stutter sometimes but thats who I am and people have to accept that.
Try and keep on smiling and good luck with your college education.
04-24-2006, 05:41 PM
I myself also have a fear of the phone, but I get pretty used to it since I work in Real Estate. I'm on the phone all day and sometimes I stutter and sometimes I don't. I used to panic when I heard the phone ring, but now I have the approach of answering the phone as soon as I can. For anyone who has a fear of the phone (which is probably the most of us), one technique I used to cope and help me get over the fear was to pick up the phone immediately when it rings. Don't think about the call just pick it up and say what you have to say. I hope this helps you and everyone in some way. Good luck!!
04-25-2006, 01:23 AM
Thx for the replies guys :),
hey PatientPrsvrnce I used this trick to finally overcome my phobia,It can be explained in like when i hear the phone ringing i kinda become terrified for a moment, then my fear goes down to zero then all the way up, during the way up all bad phone memories pass by my mind one by one even making it harder for me to pick up, but if i pick it up very early then i wouldnt have recalled many bad memories enough to make me not pick it up :D, however im still struggling with me making the call,but i think ill take it real slow.
I really thing if any stutterer actually master phone calling, he can get rid of his stutter,cause all the problem is about memories and we kinda predict the listener`s reactions and inner feelings even before we talk to them, and that even makes the anxiety worse and phone calls kinda give time for passive memory to Load the bad stuff leading to more troublesome stutter, so for me phone calls are worse than face - to - face contact, i think mastering phone calls is the key.
04-26-2006, 09:00 AM
sealfated, i to am a stammera, i live in the Uk and am 25. Do you have ? Id be happy to add you to my list so that we can chat. My is firstname.lastname@example.org
All the best and wecome to the forum ;)
04-27-2006, 11:55 AM
I had the same phone issue too.
I had a mobile and it used to really annoy me when i used to get stuck that i stopped answering calls.
it was like i was carrying something in my pocket that was jus causing me grief, then i just swithced it off and left it in my draw altogether.
i was without a phone for over a year, but i just got another one recently, and altho i still get stuck, i jus think what the hell, best thing about a phone is the other person cant see you, so if u get TOO stuck, just hang up, and say u got cut off...never done it myself ofcourse :p
04-27-2006, 10:17 PM
Hey leeboy13, i`d be glad to chat with you on man :D, my mail is Basemelbokle@gmail.com i added you, feel free to add and chat with me guys.
hey lupes, ur ri8 man :D, i used to get blocks on my mobile too even though i`m speaking to people i`m so comfort with,[ if i dont know whos that number, i dont pick it up :D ] even one time my cousin called me on my mobile who i dont feel like stuttering at all when im talking to him, hes like my best friend even though all that i didnt pick up i was just so scared, untill i realized i aint using my mobile at all, so i used my old trick which is to just pick up the call very early, or else i wont at all :D, so i got over with it.
You know what guys, i discovered a thing just yesterday, in the beginning of a conversation of course all the memories and anxiety gather up pretty fast, and we predict the listeners emotions and reactions but not only we predict this.we know exactly what we are going to say before we say it but the problem is that we predict ourselves a block point somewhere in that sentence we want to say, and we create it.If we can understand and analyze that and control it maybe we can just delay the block point more and more untill its position becomes in the end of the sentence, so we end up not blocking cause blocking in the end of sentences isnt blocking. then we can start all over again.
Sorry guys, I dont even know if this makes any sense but I got that idea from trying to think and analyze my stutter.Plz tell me what you think, is this making any sense ?
04-27-2006, 10:40 PM
Mobil phones, is that what we call Cell phones in Canada, right. I use them all the time and I haven't done anything stupid like walk into a pillor or wall. I was in a mall once and seen 3 young women coming my way and one was talking up an storm and she walked right into an mirror pillor. She grab her nose and started laughting real hard and the same time looking around to see if anybody else saw. I had a few people look at me, when I have an block and try and force the word out. I still get nervous when my cell (mobile) phone rings in public, the heart beat goes up and nerves jump a little. After that few seconds, I am fine.
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