Meeting a girl

[mayhem]

Since i sometimes have an mild to a light stutter like when i talk to a girl should i let them know ima stutter? like what do i say or try to say? lol

[Mars]

Why, it's not contagious (at least I don't think so) :P

[Tictacjoe]

I'm also a light stutter and have been going on dates a lot lately and what I find helpful is to imagine that I'm talking to someone that I'm comfortable with my stutter. It usually works, specially if you have an attitude like you couldn't care less about the outcome of the interaction. Openly talk about your stutter. Also make short remarks about her, do funny things and ask interesting questions, let her do all the talking, girls usually love talking about themselves anyway lol.
But the most crucial thing is that you tell them casually and just forget that you even stutter. I find that it's a psychological thing where if I meet a stranger and don't tell them I think a lot more about not messing up and the result is that I always stutter lol. I feel like when I let them know before hand I don't feel the pressure to be fluent in their eyes and lot of times I speak superb. Also I find doing breathing exercise (triangle breathing: inhale 5s,hold 5s, exhale 5s) help me relax a great deal, along with speaking slowly ,in a melodic fashion. Works for me and I see great improvements, definitely give those a try.

[billyludwick]

if i were you, get it out of the way right then and their. say something like "hey, i want you to be okay with something...i repitate my speech, and occasionally i will have a slip, just bare with me if i do". this line is my go to cause i cant say the word "stutter" but saying "repitate my speech" comes out clean every time. and the word "slip" can be replaced with "trip". if you put it off itll be embarassing if she finds out. and explaining could be traumatic. ive had a heavy stutter for years, speech therapy and developing a "could give a sh- less what you think" attitude has turned it into a medium; stressed or situation induced stutter. its based on being comfortable with the person(s) too.

[Box of Clocks]

My advice would be to not mention it at first. If you think you are stuttering quite a lot during the date or whatever it might be then just explain that you have a stuttering problem. If you are going for a drink or something then one way of explaining would be for you to say I will pay for the drinks but would you mind doing the talking? Then explain why.

[Box of Clocks]

Sorry to double post but just to clarify what I mean by "do the talking" is for her to ask for the drinks not to do all of the talking during the date!

[Anneka15]

Tell her :P and if she walks away then she clearly wasnt any good to start with :)