hard phase of life

[sruti]

hi,
i was speaking fluently for sometime but all of a sudden my stutter became worse not knowing the exact reason.i am really going through such a bad phase in life,it has become hard to control the emotions.i am taking a stammering cure course but i feel sometimes it works and other time it does'nt.all my confidence shatters whenever i meet fluent speaking people.it has become tough to do even smaller things where communication plays a important role.everyone may not react the same to their stutter,but i really feel bad that i have this problem.my family says that i just give this excuse for not doing the things,but this is not true.
may be i am too sensitive in this matter,i dont know.i just wanted to share my feelings.

[nguyenanh]

Hi, Sruti. All the members of this forum and I truly understand how you're feeling because we have had (or have been having) that emotion. All of us have struggled to get rid of the problem but many of us have failed (including me). Then we start to blame life or our destiny for the stuttering. We think that life is so unfair and we won't be able to achieve anything . Sometimes, we may think of suicide.
It is natural to feel bad. But it is unacceptable to feel hopeless. Life is too beautiful and precious to be wasted! The skies are blue, flowers are blooming, and friends are everwhere. Human beings have reached Moon, Mars and other planets. We are so lucky to be born into this wonderful world. so why don't you go out, make friends, explore yourself (do you have talent in drawing, playing sports or music, ect.).
Furthermore, many stutterers have improved their conditions by some speech therapies. Those therapies take time, so prepare yourself for a long run.
enjoy life.

[mos]

Hi, Sruti. All the members of this forum and I truly understand how you're feeling because we have had (or have been having) that emotion. All of us have struggled to get rid of the problem but many of us have failed (including me). Then we start to blame life or our destiny for the stuttering. We think that life is so unfair and we won't be able to achieve anything . Sometimes, we may think of suicide.
It is natural to feel bad. But it is unacceptable to feel hopeless. Life is too beautiful and precious to be wasted! The skies are blue, flowers are blooming, and friends are everwhere. Human beings have reached Moon, Mars and other planets. We are so lucky to be born into this wonderful world. so why don't you go out, make friends, explore yourself (do you have talent in drawing, playing sports or music, ect.).
Furthermore, many stutterers have improved their conditions by some speech therapies. Those therapies take time, so prepare yourself for a long run.
enjoy life.

well said coudn't have put it better myself

:cool:

[happy7117]

Hi, Sruti. All the members of this forum and I truly understand how you're feeling because we have had (or have been having) that emotion. All of us have struggled to get rid of the problem but many of us have failed (including me). Then we start to blame life or our destiny for the stuttering. We think that life is so unfair and we won't be able to achieve anything . Sometimes, we may think of suicide.
It is natural to feel bad. But it is unacceptable to feel hopeless. Life is too beautiful and precious to be wasted! The skies are blue, flowers are blooming, and friends are everwhere. Human beings have reached Moon, Mars and other planets. We are so lucky to be born into this wonderful world. so why don't you go out, make friends, explore yourself (do you have talent in drawing, playing sports or music, ect.).
Furthermore, many stutterers have improved their conditions by some speech therapies. Those therapies take time, so prepare yourself for a long run.
enjoy life.

I remember one day--I'm not making this up either--
it was a few years ago-- I was stuttering SO BAD in front of my mom trying to tell her something very simple--I was taking a very long time-- and she
had to go someplace so she was naturaly in a
hurry- and I was stuttering my brains out--
AND i WAS UNDER THE SENSE SHE WAS NOT LISTENING..

Out of nowhere or from frusteration- I started screaming at her like "WOULD YOU JUST HELP
ME OUT HERE"--so I ran to the kitchen drawer
and pulled out a steak knife-- and pretended
to hold it to my chest--and mind you as I was
making a gesture of holding the knife to my chest- I was in extreme anger--luckily she had to yank the knife away from me...

Other times when I do the laundry-I sometimes think about drinking Clorox to see how hurtfull that could
be compared to my stuttering.. or I sometimes
think about drinikng it as a way to poison myself
imagining it would end the pain of my stuttering--

But then again I think there is good help for stuttering--but again Ive tried them all with no success!!!

But I don't think I've felt hopeless--I have felt
very desperate though in finding answers!!!

[Standingtall]

I did have thoughts of Suicide many years ago and now today I dismiss those thought as quickly as it comes up. I may sound arrogant, but I have all the rights to enjoy life and the whole ten yards that comes with it. Picket fence and all. We all understand that family and friends have expectations of us, and which is great, because they think highly of us. But if somedays you don't mean those expectations, well that is too bad, they will live through it. Those are not life and death situations.

[Igby]

i think as stutterers sometimes we think we have it so much harder than everyone else and that life is impossible. I myself have felt this alot which is very self centered not to realise that everyone goes through hard phases of life whether it be a parents divorse, substance abuse, losing a child...whatever it is. Much like anyone else this hard phase is a test of your character. How you deal with these problems will not only help to realise how fantastic a person you are but will also shape you into the person you will become. As far as suicide goes i must confess it has passed my mind when i was younger and things seemed tough. But now it seems to me that suicide is the most selfish of all human acts because it has no consideration for the people it leaves behind that have to deal with it.

[happy7117]

i think as stutterers sometimes we think we have it so much harder than everyone else and that life is impossible. I myself have felt this alot which is very self centered not to realise that everyone goes through hard phases of life whether it be a parents divorse, substance abuse, losing a child...whatever it is. Much like anyone else this hard phase is a test of your character. How you deal with these problems will not only help to realise how fantastic a person you are but will also shape you into the person you will become. As far as suicide goes i must confess it has passed my mind when i was younger and things seemed tough. But now it seems to me that suicide is the most selfish of all human acts because it has no consideration for the people it leaves behind that have to deal with it.

The above 2 posts after my previous post are pretty deep-- I'm not sure how to respond-- except-- surely suicide is very bad- but it would end the stuttering--
but I guess one would have to think about those
who would have to live without you...

[Anthony]

i can't say that i've never had those thoughts either,luckily on the 15th of may(a few weeks ago) i had a life changing epiphany.i'd been so angry for so long and it was starting to bother me really bad(more than ever)and i knew that i couldn't live my life like that.i had 2 options

1.kill myself

2.just get on with it and live my life

i chose 2,the line from the shawshank redemption was in my head "get busy livin',or get busy dyin".i understand what they mean by "hitting bottom" now.

i'll never tell any of my family or friends about any of this,they'd never understand.they try to understand how it is for me and it makes me mad because it seems so patronizing because they'll never know how difficult and sad it is to live like this.

[bignick]

Suicide has never crossed my mind, I personally think its a cowards way to die as you leave so much pain and heartbreak for your family and friends and they will have to live with the fact that you couldnt confide in them.
There is always someone to talk to, the samaratians, close friends, school teachers you can trust, close family.
This is just my opinion and I am sure to be told that I am wrong.

[studentdoc]

I admit I've had thoughts before but never would actually do it. If this is about stuttering, please keep your heads up. There is a lot of research being done in the field and a drug is in the pipeline to help some of us. I have a lot of faith in Pagaclone since we can speak fluently when we're alone and not so with others... so perhaps that activity that goes on in our brain when around others will be controlled. And even if Pagaclone fails, there is active research being done and stuttering is gaining a lot of attention it did not receive before in the news. Let's not lose hope.

[happy7117]

Wow, this thread seems a bit shocking to me . . . I would have never thought people would consider suicide an option to deal with their stutter. In introspect, I don't think suicide has ever crossed my mind as an option to anything in my life, regardless of how bad the situation might get (and I mean everything . . . not limited to the stutter).

I agree with Bignick, suicide is the coward's easy way out of "IT" (whatever "IT" may be). However, and I must add, some people are very feeble and exhibit a weak constitute and, therefore, do recur to suicide as a remedy to even (what may seem to others as) the most minimal incident in life. I (kinda) understand it if a person is psychologically ill since they may not be in control of their actions; but a person who is in his or her right mindset and commits suicide as an escape valve for the pressures of life . . . Well, that I consider a pusillanimous act.

Anyway, LIVE LIFE ONE WORD A TIME!!!

If someone's stuttering was so completely messed
up that it causes them extreme pain and heartbreak
from day to day, it could cause them hatred for themself- then they might be thinking of suicide-- but I hate talking or rather eh, stuttering about this-- it's just too morbrid....

Also, this thread is indeed an unpleasent one--
but I think we all have the freedom to post
our thoughts no matter how good or bad they may be!!

[Jeff99]

hi,
i was speaking fluently for sometime but all of a sudden my stutter became worse not knowing the exact reason.i am really going through such a bad phase in life,it has become hard to control the emotions.i am taking a stammering cure course but i feel sometimes it works and other time it does'nt.all my confidence shatters whenever i meet fluent speaking people.it has become tough to do even smaller things where communication plays a important role.everyone may not react the same to their stutter,but i really feel bad that i have this problem.my family says that i just give this excuse for not doing the things,but this is not true.
may be i am too sensitive in this matter,i dont know.i just wanted to share my feelings.

it is a proven fact that we as stutterers are more emotional than non stutterers we care more we take things to heart more we feel more i guess. it plays a big part in our lives. we think they world is against us or something everytime we go to speak it like someone saying you can try as hard as you like but it's not coming out. Question if it didn't work for 20 years why do we still go at it the sameway.Why not try something different try smile when you talk or anything you want think of a something you like rather than i'm going to stutter of don't stutter think of something like your favourite thing smething that made you laugh something happy. make the emotional factor work for you. i'm not saying being happy cures your stutter or anything but once you accept you have the problem and what you have done in the past hasn't worked for you so far so i guess i need to try something different.we only live once why have a bad time why not try having fun.When your happy stuttering doesn't seem like a major problem just a part of who you are.and maybe if you work hard you can control it.

[Standingtall]

When a person wants to take their own lives, they just need a reason. When I had my thoughts, I was in my teenage years and believe it or not, but I was depressed about my looks. No young women wanted to even talk to me. I could really empty a room, not even the unattracted ones would stay.

I agree we may be overly sensitive about our speech and how people react to it. For many of us, it is an obession. There was a point of my life, where I was even scared to leave the house. Maybe that is why today, I'm a little uptight when people make fun of us.