Jeff99
05-30-2006, 05:14 AM
The road to any recovery starts with accepting that you have a problem. here is my story about this
I took the McGuire program which talks about comfort zones and all that, sure my speech get better. In my comfort my speech was great my speech improved quickly then stop.i wasn't cured my speech was ok but not really getting any better than that. iwork so hard on it in my comfort zone really hard i was pissed of why wasn't it getting any better. One day i brought a book that helps people fight there fears and stuff like that.
I learn it didn't matter how hard i work on my speech in my comfort zone if i wasn't going to use it out there in the real world. OK here is what i learnt to help me get where i am at now. All this was spoken about it the course but it is hard to act on something.
What i learnt was that i was being 2 people one working hard at my speech in my comfort zone but as soon as i went out into the real world i would slip into the old Jeff the jeff that thought everyone was judying him looking at him just waiting for me to make a mistake so they could laugh or some bullshit like that. i would get really nervous about talking just like everyone esle. I lost my job my speech got worse but then one day i just look at myself i mean really looked at myself i wasn't a happy person i would act happy around other and all that but deep down i wasn't happy with the person i was i wasn't happy being a stutter.
I knew then and there that if i was going to improve my speech i had to accept that i have a problem and what action will i take to fix it. i had already taken the Mcguire Course so i knew what i need to do i need to first learn to love myself for who i am i have now second i had to stop trying to guess what others where thinking about, Stop making everything about me are they laughing at me i have to be perfect all that bullshit just forget it. this the most inportant thing i think Stop thinking ahead or looking back all that does is put extra pressure on yourself learn to laugh at yourself learn to love yourself for who you. Being happy with what you have got live in the moment it's not point worry about something that might happen and there is not point worry about something that has happen if it happens it over it's the past if you plan for it to happen it probly will.
The Power of postive thinking think happy thought all day even when speaking you have to learn not to think i'm going to stuff up and thing like that satrt think of things that make you happy and SMILE i can't say it enough smile when you are relaxed the words will caom out easier with or with therpy and that i'm not cling to have the answers just what has help me through the tough time in my life now i work on my speech in and out of my comfort zone not caring what people think of me. they don't really matter they don't like with me i do and that's all you need to think about speech wise. i'm not saying stop caring about people just what they think of your speech unless it's postive then just say thank you.
i hope this helps some people sorry it's so long and if i can't spell
I took the McGuire program which talks about comfort zones and all that, sure my speech get better. In my comfort my speech was great my speech improved quickly then stop.i wasn't cured my speech was ok but not really getting any better than that. iwork so hard on it in my comfort zone really hard i was pissed of why wasn't it getting any better. One day i brought a book that helps people fight there fears and stuff like that.
I learn it didn't matter how hard i work on my speech in my comfort zone if i wasn't going to use it out there in the real world. OK here is what i learnt to help me get where i am at now. All this was spoken about it the course but it is hard to act on something.
What i learnt was that i was being 2 people one working hard at my speech in my comfort zone but as soon as i went out into the real world i would slip into the old Jeff the jeff that thought everyone was judying him looking at him just waiting for me to make a mistake so they could laugh or some bullshit like that. i would get really nervous about talking just like everyone esle. I lost my job my speech got worse but then one day i just look at myself i mean really looked at myself i wasn't a happy person i would act happy around other and all that but deep down i wasn't happy with the person i was i wasn't happy being a stutter.
I knew then and there that if i was going to improve my speech i had to accept that i have a problem and what action will i take to fix it. i had already taken the Mcguire Course so i knew what i need to do i need to first learn to love myself for who i am i have now second i had to stop trying to guess what others where thinking about, Stop making everything about me are they laughing at me i have to be perfect all that bullshit just forget it. this the most inportant thing i think Stop thinking ahead or looking back all that does is put extra pressure on yourself learn to laugh at yourself learn to love yourself for who you. Being happy with what you have got live in the moment it's not point worry about something that might happen and there is not point worry about something that has happen if it happens it over it's the past if you plan for it to happen it probly will.
The Power of postive thinking think happy thought all day even when speaking you have to learn not to think i'm going to stuff up and thing like that satrt think of things that make you happy and SMILE i can't say it enough smile when you are relaxed the words will caom out easier with or with therpy and that i'm not cling to have the answers just what has help me through the tough time in my life now i work on my speech in and out of my comfort zone not caring what people think of me. they don't really matter they don't like with me i do and that's all you need to think about speech wise. i'm not saying stop caring about people just what they think of your speech unless it's postive then just say thank you.
i hope this helps some people sorry it's so long and if i can't spell