promotion denied.

[aryan]

Hi everyone,

I'm feeling pretty low right now.

I'm from India, male, 31 years old. I have been in China for seven and a half years, wife is chinese and I have adorable twin boys 8 months old.

I have been working in IT industry for around 9 years. In my current company in China, my performance has been consistently outstanding.

About 9 months ago, our company hired a new CEO who is overly aggressive.
I gave a presentation to him and I stuttered quite a bit, however, I completed the presentation. Obviously, he did not get a good impression about me. I've only interacted with him for about 5 times on different occassions and I could sense he doesn't hold me in good regards.

Recently, I was nominated by my boss (who reports to CEO) for a well deserved promotion. However, I got to know today that it has been rejected by CEO stating that 'I'm very hard and tiresome experience to be heard'
My boss told me this verbatim as he is very frank with me. My peers whose performance on other parameters is not at par with me have been promoted.

My parent company is in India and I'm on a long term deputation here (in China). The CEO asked me to either join our chinese branch with 20% reduction in my salary and no promotion OR to go back to my parent company in India.

Since my kids are too young right now, it's a very difficult decision for me to go back to India suddenly.

Totally lost and confused..

If only I could speak fluently, I wouldn't have been in this messy situation in the first place.

I try to be very confident and don't let stuttering overpower my control, however, it is indeed a monster and keeps coming back to haunt me.

Tried speech therapy for years, the only positive to come out was that I have become more acceptable of my stutter and don't feel ashamed of speaking.

Really waiting for the wonderdrug pagaclone to be launched..

wish u all well.
-A

[Raye]

Hi I'm in China too... Ni hao ma? I'm a local Chinese. So nice to hear from you.

First please let me congratulate you on your wonderful job performance - I think in the end that is what matters, not how fluently people give presentations. And not many people actually listen to the presentations anyway, they're "situation needs"... aren't they?

You mentioned that the new CEO is too aggressive so obviously you don't like him too. I think people send out different vibes and obviously yours and his don't match. He's making a personal decision here. If you are the boss and he's an employee and you find him aggressive, probably you wouldn't give him a promotion either.

We are stutterers and stuttering is one of our flaws... we have to accept the fact that sometimes things are going to be affected by it and we can do nothing to change this fact. If I were you I would surely be angry, but I would be proud and happy of myself because it's my stutter, not that I'm not good, not that I'm not putting enough effort into it etc.:> so there's nothing to regret about.

Plus, did you know perhaps, that some people are racists? I don't know if that has any connection with your failure of promotion but I happen to know my English teacher, a black American, suffering from the problem. He's the boss of the company but whenever there's a meeting, he plays the role of an employee and makes his friend (a white male) sit on the boss's seat. In this way people would "respect" the boss more. I think it's completely bullshit...

Anyway good luck on your journey and whichever choice you make I hope you have a nice sound future..:> I'm only a seventeen year old kid so if there's anything wrong in what I say please don't take it to heart. (this sentence sounds a bit weird in english lol) I'm waiting for the pagaclone too if I could afford it and take it someday.