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[xinhai]

I felt like asking this question since there are a variety of age groups in this forum, and everyone seems friendly and mature (though this question has nothing to do with stuttering). I myself is a 19 year old guy, going on to college. There is this girl that I began to like about 10 months ago, she mainly captured my attention because of the way she acts and talks (she kinda acts crazy and weird, constantly talking about random cute stuff), she never wears make up, dresses almost boyish, no tight-fitting-y clothing at all. Most, or should I say almost all the guys, think shes not pretty at all, mediocore at best. But I find her extremely attractive, one of the most beautiful girls I've seen. I just like her so much, NOT ually, as I have no urges at ALL towards her, I just like her person + her beauty. I've asked her out quite a few times, but she simply wasn't interested in a relationship with me (but she was very nice and sincere about it) What do you guys think? I know some of you are married and have been through this. If this feeling is only temporary, I will try to move on, as she is one year younger than me and will be a senior in highschool; however, if this truly is it, then I will not give up. Looking forward to hearing from you guys.

[xinhai]

In fact, I feel no ual attraction at all towards this girl, I actually don't want to sleep with her. Kinda weird eh.

[xinhai]

You've asked her out on a date several times, but you don't want to do the dirty deed with her?
Ok, fair enough, but what do you want to do with her then?


I just wanna be with her, you know? I feel like I just wanna love her and marry her, I'll do the dirty deed when it comes to it, but I don't care about doing that at all. I don't know but, this feels like a fatherly type of love towards her.

[xinhai]

Yeah I know. I just want to be with Adriana Lima!!! And tear off her clothing . . . Bathe her . . . Give her a massage . . . And . . . Wait, let me stop before Standingtallwithadrianalimainmybedroom gets any kinly ideas for his next movie!!!


Now...I dont know who Adriana Lima is...and I dont know if you are seroius or joking...but im SERIOUS...i like her ALOT, almost love, but not that way at ALL.......

[happy7117]

I never thought I would be reading
posts about finding love on this forum..
I say if you love the girl for who she is,
and you feel strongly about her, stick with
what you believe in..other guys may say
she is mediocre--but beauty is in the eye of
the beholder...!!

As for high school-I spotted lot's of girls
who I wanted to be around because I was
drawn to their kindness as much as their
beauty-one girl who was exceptionaly nice
who was on the tennis team and a cheerleader
also was so special..I never told her I stuttered,
but she seemed to look beyond it--she was
so beautiful and genuinyl kind and respectfull..I
got her phone number- and her family and
I and her became best of friends--never dated-
but I was glad the way it was!!

And she had a gorgeous house!!

As for the word aura::::

Couldnt that be the same
as chemistry- where a person cannot resist
being around you or are drawn toward you
because of a vibe a person has--

Actualy I have been told I have an aura
where one can sense from far away if I
would want to be approached or not..it's
like a physical feeling of magnetism that
surronds my body-that others can detect
from far away--and it makes them want to
approach me--or be near me...

I think another word for aura could be::
vibe, oasis, or as I said above chemistry!!

[Standingtall]

You can have love and friendship all the same time. I also had a friend that I wanted more out of our relationship, but she was content on friendship. Sure, I behaved, no wandering hands, just the odd oops. She liked going to beachs and going topless and then the reflective sunglasses come on and cold showers later.

Don't underestimate friendships, true friends are hard to come by. Tell youself, what kind of friend I want to be with her. The one that bails her out from jail, or the one sitting in there with her and saying, 'That was fun'! Friends can lend you a shoulder to cry on and they can also blackmail you. Some guys here will gladly sit in jail with me and say, 'boy the cops sure can run'. hey Nick, Steve, Elliot and cherokeeprinces and a few more as they come along. Take that risk and be her friend and see what happens. You may gain a friend for life and if not, then you grew inside of you.

Hope that helps.

[bignick]

You can have love and friendship all the same time. I also had a friend that I wanted more out of our relationship, but she was content on friendship. Sure, I behaved, no wandering hands, just the odd oops. She liked going to beachs and going topless and then the reflective sunglasses come on and cold showers later.

Don't underestimate friendships, true friends are hard to come by. Tell youself, what kind of friend I want to be with her. The one that bails her out from jail, or the one sitting in there with her and saying, 'That was fun'! Friends can lend you a shoulder to cry on and they can also blackmail you. Some guys here will gladly sit in jail with me and say, 'boy the cops sure can run'. hey Nick, Steve, Elliot and cherokeeprinces and a few more as they come along. Take that risk and be her friend and see what happens. You may gain a friend for life and if not, then you grew inside of you.

Hope that helps.

Wow, that a very cool reply and I am honoured to be your friend.

Nick