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kghayesh
08-30-2006, 02:08 PM
Hey,
Sorry I didn't keep u updated.

Finally, I decided to tell her. I did so the night before the date. We were chatting online and i told her i wanna tell u something i don't really share with anybody. And i started telling her then suddenly the computer restarted :mad: !!! When I signed in again, I found out she's not there !!!!! What an unexpected thing to happen. But, she knew that I have some speech problems.

Anyway, I met her the next day. What was an ugly start to the date was that I was terribly late ! We talked for about 1.30 hours. I think that was fairly good for a first date. But I know i wasn't that impressive at all like I am online. And maybe she felt it. I didn't do much talking and sometimes I was afraid to start talking about something new coz i was just didn't like to stutter too much in this first date.

She didn't comment on my stuttering then and she tried to listen without interruption (I hate people who interrupt u and try to complete the words for u).

I was waiting to see her response after that date. It was not that perfect end for a date. But, she didn't dump me and block me though. We just talk on but not as warmly as before the date. The reason is obvious of course. I don't think she accepts me as a boyfriend but maybe as just a friend.

I don't think we are much compatible as personalities, we have many things in common, but maybe our personalities aren't much going in harmony. But she's a nice girl and I like chatting with her. She looks good too ;)

Some people tell me that this refusal was not for stuttering. It is about my personality. Maybe it is a good point but the other thing is that stuttering did affect my personality !!!!

bignick
08-30-2006, 02:20 PM
Firstly,

Well done for having the courage to tell her you stuttered.
I am sorry it didnt work out this time, dont think it helped you were terribly late but at least you are still talking via .
The main thing is you went on a date and you should hopefully strive forward and go out on more dates, its only natural you were very nervous on your 1st date.
Keep positive and continue were you left off.

I know it must have been very difficult for you to tell her but there is plenty more for you to strive for.

Nick

xinhai
08-30-2006, 02:33 PM
Hrm..I agree completely that stuttering does affect your personality, infact, it affects it so much that I've been feeling its whirlwind all my life. But hey, you did the right thing, you told her w/ courage, and you two went on a date, and even if it really did not work out, you two can still be friends. BTW, where did you two go on the 1st date? what did you two talk about for 2 hours? ...I need some help myself w/ a girl...i think i'll start a similar thread soon......im dying over this girl so......

Standingtall
08-30-2006, 02:49 PM
I tend to agree, because she had this picture in her head about you and on the first date, you weren't the same person she knew online. If I was you, I would share your thoughts with her and be open. The person she fell for is still there, but on the first date, he didn't come flying out the gate, because of shyness and concerns about your stutter and I assume a few more. Try again and put more effort into it, more enthusiasm, you already done it online. Be 'the man' and take charge, show you are the real deal and stuff. I say try again, take the risk and see what happens. Don't forget about us again. hehehe

Standingtall
08-30-2006, 05:02 PM
Be cool, stay calm, collect your thoughts, and go at it again . . . There are plenty fish in the sea . . . All you have to learn is to be a good fisherman ;)

Good luck and don't ever look back!!!

Peace,

Elliott
Just stick to the junior baiter, you don't want to be a master baiter when you go fishing. I agree 200% don't look back, in might be a great white coming for you. lol!

cherokeeprinces
08-30-2006, 06:21 PM
hehehehehehehehe good come back

Standingtall
08-30-2006, 06:29 PM
Now, I have to go and clean my moniter, again!!!!

cherokeeprinces
08-30-2006, 06:31 PM
Oh boy this is gettig too deep for my young ears hehehehehehehe

Standingtall
08-30-2006, 06:42 PM
Oh boy this is gettig too deep for my young ears hehehehehehehe
Don't tell me you haven't caught a big one yet. Where is Steve when you need him, this is his line.

cherokeeprinces
08-30-2006, 06:43 PM
no comment hehehehehehehhee

Standingtall
08-30-2006, 06:45 PM
no comment hehehehehehehhee
oh you poor woman.

Johnny ashton
08-30-2006, 06:52 PM
I remember when i was young going on dates with girls id take a m8 with me to interpret for me as my speech was terrible ???????? lol
If she thinks anything of you she,ll except the way you speak .
Dont be shy take a deep breath and be your inner self m8 .
All the best
John

cherokeeprinces
08-30-2006, 06:54 PM
I respect my friends stutter or no stutter so I have nothing to hide